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sexyred1 -> RE: -=50 Professionals, Why They Hate '50 Shades Of Grey'=- (2/18/2015 2:45:49 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant
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ORIGINAL: AlabamaPrincess
Sir and i were discussing this last night...the movie and this very thread. Not sure if anyone has read the books, but a lot is left out in the movie. The after care was huge in the books. Not a thing about it in the movie. Also, she does say no to him, which stops him dead in his tracks. The entire time she was curious, and allowed him to do these things to her. Even the most "brutal" scene (for vanillas) where she was bent over the table counting the lashes of the belt, she had ever opportunity to stop it, and she did not. To me, that doesn't sound like non consent. Again, just my opinion.
The bolded parts are the key for me.
Exposing the lifestyle, such as they did, to the vanilla world absent the bolded parts, vilifies the lifestyle and has spurred this "50 shades of abuse" campaign.
Most people know that when you are introducing someone to chess, you don't throw the checkers to the floor, set up the pieces, and kick the ever living shit out of the newbie as you play a game of knights. If they do not know how to move a pawn, how will they begin to survive a game of knights?
50 shades slapped the checkers off the board and blindsided the ignorant with a brilliant game of knights. The audience sat there with their decimated pieces and empty half of their board, while the movie industry only moved their knights.
Over the last few days we've had newbies asking questions and they are getting the best answers ever. Not the answers they are really looking for, but the best answers... read, study, learn, and KNOW YOURSELF. None of us have the magic wand that can "poof" you're uber D, or "poof" you're perfect slave. We point them in the right direction so they can learn and evolve into the kinkster they need to be naturally.
50 shades robbed the lifestyle of the safety, communication, and consent that is the basis of WIITWD.
Jus sayin
Again, you are giving it too much credit. I don't like to comment without knowing, so I admit I read all 3 books. Have not seen the film.
They sucked as writing, very Valley girl-ish and it wasn't hot at all. I like tougher sex descriptions.
What is was, was a love story. It was not non-consensual in the least, in fact, the chick was in control pretty much the whole time and the "BDSM lite" got less and less as the series dragged on.
I really have to laugh at your last line, and Ya know I love Ya, that the book robbed the lifestyle of anything.
It's not an absolute given that a filmaker, author, musician, actor, artist or any creative person educate and inform people. For some, maybe they want to, but people create THEIR version of art for self expression and/or money.
So why have such high expectations of a book or film and give it such power to "ruin" a lifestyle?
I actually think it's great that more people are intrigued or getting more open to discuss these types of desires, but I felt Secretary did a far better job of this.
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