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RE: Staying in touch with your sub - 2/26/2015 5:09:35 AM

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I should probably start a new topic with this, but this has brought up another question for me.....

But my question is.....are we talking here only about established relationships where each person has said "I am you Dom/Master...you are my sub/slave" and "I am your sub/slave....you are my Dom/Master". Or are we also talking about times when we are just getting to know each other we are really interested in?

I always want to show interest....when I am interested, but I don't want to be pushy and I don't want to EXPECT anything from someone I want to know better.

I knew a Dom who's signature line was "I'm not the Navy....I don't chase subs"

Every time I read that, I couldn't help but wonder....welll....does that mean he wants the subs to chase him? And if that's the case, how are the subs supposed to know that they aren't wasting their time? Does he ever show interest and to what degree? How is any relationship supposed to happen if they don't equally chase each other?

Before we were in an established relationship, before we ever met in-person, we stayed in touch just about every day in one form or another, email, phone, text. It's how we got to know enough about each other to know the interest in pursuing a relationship was there and see where it went, if anywhere.

I never chased anyone or expected anyone to chase me. When I think of chasing or wanting to be chased, I think of the one being chased as playing the hard to get game and I don't play games. To me if the interest is there make it be known to the other and this goes for both sides. If he showed little or no interest, I would have quickly moved on and the same goes for him.

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RE: Staying in touch with your sub - 2/26/2015 5:16:31 AM

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Life is stupidly short. Far too short for games. If you are not giving 100% towards living your life and making the connections, establishing the relationship(s) you need and want, you are wasting your life.

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RE: Staying in touch with your sub - 2/27/2015 1:40:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

Life is stupidly short. Far too short for games. If you are not giving 100% towards living your life and making the connections, establishing the relationship(s) you need and want, you are wasting your life.

This. ^^^

To me, priorities are made clear by communication. Mine and others'.

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RE: Staying in touch with your sub - 2/28/2015 6:53:28 PM

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my relationship is LDR. we email/text mostly every day, unless Master is away on assignment for work, and then He usually does His best to share that with me so that i don't worry for Him or whatnot. the driving force in our 16 months LDR so far, has been that it isn't so much the volume of communication, but rather, the content. sure, W//we banter back and forth about fun stuff every so often, but time, for U/us is so precious due to O/our very demanding/travel heavy careers, that W/we typically keep conversations very much in focus of what W/we are working on as far as goals, expectations, etc.

also, someone mentioned this before and i thought it was a great thing to mention in relation to this topic--if it's a pen pal situation, i'm be so far gone. the only way in hell i'd ever consider and online relationship is provided that W/we were working toward full time, live in, 24/7 TPE. but again, that's just my own personal viewpoint on the matter, and me having a very firm grasp on what it is that i desire, as a submissive woman. luckily, Master and i are very much on the same page here. and being on the same page with your Owner, that's the key to it all. :)

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