quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml

Pah... of course this is as nonsensical a position to take as the one taken by those women fearing losers who rush to use the term "feminazi" at every available opportunity.

I have no fucking idea why a good and reasonable person would be any more likely to hold the door for a woman than for a man.

If you have any fucking self-respect you hold doors for anyone who is following you, and you offer your seat to anyone who is in greater need. Now if they throw that back into your face, you simply man up and accept that not everyone is as couth as you are, and you move on. You certainly don't carry the incident around in a backpack and use as a specious example of how the world has gone to shit and is dominated by feminazis.

Fuck.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Zonie63

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kirata

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aylee

I am not sure. I think that with sexism and racism and such it is "guilty and cannot prove yourself innocent." It is rather Kafkaesque anymore.

K.

About this picture, it appears that both sides have a complete set of pieces, yet there's also extra black and white Queens. Why would there be extra queens? Is that sexist?

In fact, I always thought chess itself was a bit sexist, since the Queen can move everywhere, while the King can only move one space at a time.

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

FR

Further to my comment, now lost in the dark recesses of this thread, on 'Oneupmanship':

An example of 'benevolent sexism':

My ex GF used to beat me at pool, regularly. After a while this began to piss me off mightily. So, borrowing the technique from Potter's books, I began to compliment her on her pool-playing. I ratcheted it up so that in the end I was *laying it on with a trowel*. At the point where I added the comment (said with full warmth, and *no sarcastic tone whatsoever* [vitally important]) "I love to see a woman doing something well!" - she cracked, and went at me with her pool stick. She'd read Potter's books. She knew when she was being 'ployed'.

That was conscious. I'd guess 'benevolent sexism' is where it isn't conscious - where, especially, it's become part of ordinary every day custom. I get it: it's gentlemanly and nice to offer to carry a woman's bags and I'd still do it. But I read somewhere that one subtext of such an offer is 'I'm strong, you're weak, and don't you forget it'.

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

So you didn't think that *i* was the one being the bitch in the example I gave - of the pool-playing and my complimenting my GF? Cos I sure did!

quote:

ORIGINAL: Zonie63

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kirata

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aylee

I am not sure. I think that with sexism and racism and such it is "guilty and cannot prove yourself innocent." It is rather Kafkaesque anymore.

K.

About this picture, it appears that both sides have a complete set of pieces, yet there's also extra black and white Queens. Why would there be extra queens? Is that sexist?

In fact, I always thought chess itself was a bit sexist, since the Queen can move everywhere, while the King can only move one space at a time.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

Then, you aptly state that it is a hard-core feminazi position.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr



There are even a couple on this very site who have found themselves on my hide/block list rather than my telling them what true twat waffles I think they are (and thereby, no longer behaving like a gentleman).



Michael[/color]

quote:

If a guy, or girl for that matter, wants to help me with my bags or open a door for me I am grateful. I don't stop to try to see if there is a hidden meaning behind it.

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

quote:

ORIGINAL: NookieNotes

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
I get it: it's gentlemanly and nice to offer to carry a woman's bags and I'd still do it. But I read somewhere that one subtext of such an offer is 'I'm strong, you're weak, and don't you forget it'.

LOL! So, If I offer to help a man put together an IKEA shelf, am I implying he is incapable? Or if I do the dishes instead of him, I am implying he is inferior?

No.

Sorry, I thought I was clear: It's in the motivation, or the culture behind it, if the motivation isn't conscious. ETA: Also, where it exists, it's not one or the other - it's *ambiguous*. It's not simply all benevolence, or all sexism, but a subtle mix.

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
That is true benevolent sexism - a sub-branch of Oneupmanship (for which, see Stephen Potter's books and the film 'School for Scandal' starring Terry-Thomas and Ian Carmichael). It's the art of bigging them up so much they're nigh on goddesses; while *at exactly the same time* making them feel vaguely as though they're about as useful and impressive as delightful fluffy hamsters with severe learning challenges.

quote:

ORIGINAL: NorthernGent
Were you to bar women from the armed forces on the grounds that you believed they would leave their sentry post in order to make a dress out of the nearest clump of grass, then that probably is sexist and has little to do with the rules of social engagement.

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml
I have no fucking idea why a good and reasonable person would be any more likely to hold the door for a woman than for a man.

quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi
I have to say I just don't understand it. If a guy, or girl for that matter, wants to help me with my bags or open a door for me I am grateful. I don't stop to try to see if there is a hidden meaning behind it. But then again I am also likely to open a door for people myself. Especially if I am at work and outside smoking. I've actually had men hesitate before going in and one who refused to. One man looked at me for a moment and then walked in, he then turned around and said it was the first time he had ever let a women open the door for him. Up until then I hadn't realized what a big deal it could be.

quote:

ORIGINAL: dcnovice
When folks get riled up over who opens doors or stands up on trains, part of me wants to say, "I hear ya, but I really don't think a politeness epidemic is our major social ill these days."

quote:

quote:

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
That is true benevolent sexism - a sub-branch of Oneupmanship (for which, see Stephen Potter's books and the film 'School for Scandal' starring Terry-Thomas and Ian Carmichael). It's the art of bigging them up so much they're nigh on goddesses; while *at exactly the same time* making them feel vaguely as though they're about as useful and impressive as delightful fluffy hamsters with severe learning challenges.

This, will easily remove me from a life.

I don't feel like competing with my lovers in such ways. Or my friends. If I am getting outperformed in something, then I accept it, rather than trying to cut someone down for being the better person (in that arena).

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

You'd need mine, and my GF's, sense of humour.

It did really grate that she kept beating me at pool, though. On the other hand, she couldn't sew to save her life, whereas I was - and indeed still am - ace at it.

quote:

I have to say I just don't understand it. If a guy, or girl for that matter, wants to help me with my bags or open a door for me I am grateful. I don't stop to try to see if there is a hidden meaning behind it. But then again I am also likely to open a door for people myself. Especially if I am at work and outside smoking. I've actually had men hesitate before going in and one who refused to. One man looked at me for a moment and then walked in, he then turned around and said it was the first time he had ever let a women open the door for him. Up until then I hadn't realized what a big deal it could be.

quote:

Oh yes. It can be quite amusing. Ever bring a guy flowers?

quote:

It did really grate that she kept beating me at pool, though. On the other hand, she couldn't sew to save her life, whereas I was - and indeed still am - ace at it.

quote:

ORIGINAL: dcnovice

quote:

It did really grate that she kept beating me at pool, though. On the other hand, she couldn't sew to save her life, whereas I was - and indeed still am - ace at it.

Girl: "Can you bake a pie?"
Boy: "No."
Girl: "Neither can I."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tfHBPusZg6E

quote:

I despise the frequent TV scenes of men giving women their jackets, and having nothing but shirts themselves. This is a sexist statement that women are weaker, whereas actually they're not (in many ways including handling cold and pain).

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr



There are even a couple on this very site who have found themselves on my hide/block list rather than my telling them what true twat waffles I think they are (and thereby, no longer behaving like a gentleman).



Michael[/color]

Just a couple??? I was sure it would be many more than that.

I wonder, if we counted up all the fucks given about being blocked by you, would we have enough for a wedding night?