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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 4:58:14 PM

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You're right, it isn't rocket surgery. It's more like brain science.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 5:25:58 PM

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In that other thread he said "even big girls are charging 100 bucks for a telephone call!"

So...I was sarcastic because why don't big girls get to charge 100 bucks a phone call?

"Big girls" are not some lower class.
My advice is don't make gross statements like that- just because they aren't to your tastes doesn't mean they aren't anyone else's either.

No one was attacking your preferences- they were attacking the implication that big girls didn't deserve to charge the same as a smaller girl. And the implication that big girls shouldn't have the audacity to do that to you, and should know their place in the sexual realm as not really people.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 5:36:45 PM

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I haven't noticed anyone harassing you. They are trying to make a point. You are seeking that illusive gorgeous sexy 20 something female who wants to begin a relationship with you. There is nothing wrong with that. However, that is also the category online who are mostly likely to be just after money or men pretending to be women. This is not specific to this web site. I have seen it for 15 years on various sites and chat rooms. You are not a kid so you should understand that is just part of seeking online and there is nothing you or anyone can say or do to stop it, especially when I read profiles of males desiring and willing to be financially used. Do you really think no one will prey on these men to make quick buck? When you complain about the situation is when people might get on your case. Knowing the odds online of finding someone to meet your criteria, why bother to complain when you had to have known your odds are not good? Why bother to delete and make new profiles when the result will most likely be the same? What is the point of that?

So please, take all the good advice you have been given. Keep your profile. Read the forums and add your own 2 cents.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 5:40:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel

You're right, it isn't rocket surgery. It's more like brain science.

Only if you regard "common sense" as "brain science".

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 7:36:39 PM

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So it's like a gang initiation?

Seems like as good a place as any for my first post then.

By no means.

Have you ever been the new kid at school? Do you think that 300 kids who have all known each other for 10 years should stop their conversations with old friends to make the new kid feel welcome?

Even if you feel that in a perfect world they should, do you really think this happens?
Or do you think it's incumbent upon the new kid to be nice to everyone, offering friendly hellos and congratulations for acing a test in order to be accepted?

This is like any party filled with friends you've been to. If you're new to the group, they aren't going to stop to make you feel comfortable. You need to show them that they would enjoy having you join their group.

I may be new here, but I'm no stranger to online forums. Which is why I started with a joke. Some will get it, some won't. That helps me decide which group should be asked "is this seat taken".

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 7:37:53 PM

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OP, basic manners would go a long way toward helping you gain acceptance. This is the second thread you started with a highly critical comment about the site and its members. Have you ever considered asking a question for informational purposes or commenting with a well thought out opinion on another thread instead of coming in as a griping newbie?

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 7:58:05 PM

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So it's like a gang initiation?

Seems like as good a place as any for my first post then.

LOL, I think you might fit right in around here.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 8:02:30 PM

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ditto.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 8:02:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: Subby4Dominatrix

I've been on and off this site and I've posted before. However, some people have recognize me from my previous Screen Names and say I'm a fraud and fake because I'm just on a few days, can't find anything, then delete my profile. I'm not on long enough for anyone to take me seriously. So this is what I have to say:

1. I'M ON HERE FOR THE LONG RUN
2. Everyone has their preferences. Everyone has their kinks and fetishes. Yet, everyone gives other people a hard time for their preferences.

Why do people harass other people for their preferences?

The statements I've bolded are contradictory. I get being discouraged. I've been there too. But if you're in it for the long run, that means mucking through the dating scene. Finding a long term partner isn't easy, nor is it meant to be. I encourage you to stick around for more than a few days.

You're certainly within your rights to want a petite partner in spite of your size, but understand that's a hard sell. This is true even if you say you're losing weight fast. Just like you're entitled to your preferences, so are the Dommes you're talking to. Keep searching and be patient, and keep working at your weight loss if that's what you want. But for God's sake, don't look down on bigger women especially with your current size.

And it's not up to your Domme to decide your preferences. You get a say too. The best part about finding someone compatible is that you get to do what you both enjoy. Not having preferences and leaving it up to your Domme comes across as lazy and as if you want her to do all the work.

Good luck to you.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 8:25:46 PM

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I don't understand deleting a profile. There's always the possibility that a message you send today may not get an immediate response. That doesn't mean it won't get a response at all.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 8:46:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: JVoV

I don't understand deleting a profile. There's always the possibility that a message you send today may not get an immediate response. That doesn't mean it won't get a response at all.

True. Although it may not get a response. In which case the OP should not make any thing so much as resembling a thread about it.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 10:39:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: Subby4Dominatrix

I'm sorry. I really don't mean to take up your time.

You're not taking up any time I am not willing to spend. So, no worries.

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I know that you have been on here a long time and probably tired of people who are just on for a short time.

You may find this difficult to believe, but I was new here once and I did my best to fit in around here. Oddly enough, I still do my best to fit in around here.

Welcome to the forums.

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I made a comment on the "Pig Bank" forum and people started to harrass me about my preferences.

I saw the comment, and in my not so humble opinion, you got off easy. If you have a preference that is fine, what you stated and got politely reprimanded for was the inference that big women weren't worth your time and who did they think they were. Honestly, that you are still walking is testament to the restraint some folks showed you. You didn't say that you had a preference for petite or smaller women... you kind of took a shit in someone's living room and expected not to get called on that? If there is one thing that folks are good at it is reminding others that they are not the sole life form on the planet.

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I don't know how to do the pictures, arrows and stuff.

It was a vague reference that some of our older (age wise, not length of stay here) might have found funny, so it was a joke of sorts. Weak joke, but a joke nonetheless.

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I'm sorry.

You started off with "Sorry" and ended with it... there is no need to be sorry, I am fine, not offended, and not so fragile to be shattered into bits by someone on the Internet. Relax.

Again, welcome to the forum.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 10:41:39 PM

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So it's like a gang initiation?

Seems like as good a place as any for my first post then.

Our gang sign is a tattoo of two worms mating while Don Ho sings Tiny Bubbles in the background. The tattoo is placed on the forehead.

We will wait for photo confirmation.

Welcome to the forums... once you're in, you're in for life.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 10:50:54 PM

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tips hat.

nice one.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/21/2015 10:53:27 PM

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My advice is start a new profile bc you've clearly fucked up with this one..YA know talkin shit about big girls.
This time, lurk and learn how we operate here. How not to dog ppl just bc you don't agree with their kinks.

(Sorry ML for the text type, my phone is about to die and I had to hurry and type this. I know you hate improper grammar)

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/22/2015 1:29:43 PM

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I may be new here, but I'm no stranger to online forums. Which is why I started with a joke. Some will get it, some won't. That helps me decide which group should be asked "is this seat taken".

Sorry, J, you know how hard it is to tell humor from seriousness in a text only medium.
So much of humor is nonverbal body language than unless someone uses an emoticon, I automatically assume they are serious.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/22/2015 10:38:46 PM

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OP, no offense. I don't think you are ready for a relationship but you can find a prodomme or play partner who will fulfill your preference in kinks. I like monogamy because it enables me to consolidate my attention and energy.

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/23/2015 4:36:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: Gauge

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ORIGINAL: Subby4Dominatrix

I've been on and off this site and I've posted before. However, some people have recognize me from my previous Screen Names and say I'm a fraud and fake because I'm just on a few days, can't find anything, then delete my profile. I'm not on long enough for anyone to take me seriously. So this is what I have to say:

1. I'M ON HERE FOR THE LONG RUN
2. Everyone has their preferences. Everyone has their kinks and fetishes. Yet, everyone gives other people a hard time for their preferences.

Why do people harass other people for their preferences?

OK, I'll bite...

Who is harassing people for their preferences?

Give examples. Pictures if you have them. Documentation. Circles and arrows on the backs and a paragraph explaining each photo.

Yes defiantly pictures, we prefer the 8 X 10 colored glossy ones

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/23/2015 12:12:23 PM

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to answer your question ... its human nature I guess not to trust someone that has not been around .... as far as anyone is concerned im not real either since I hardly post on this site..

its the site I frequent when im bored...lol

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RE: Everyone Has There Own Preferences - 3/24/2015 10:33:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: Subby4Dominatrix

I've been on and off this site and I've posted before. However, some people have recognize me from my previous Screen Names and say I'm a fraud and fake because I'm just on a few days, can't find anything, then delete my profile. I'm not on long enough for anyone to take me seriously. So this is what I have to say:

1. I'M ON HERE FOR THE LONG RUN
2. Everyone has their preferences. Everyone has their kinks and fetishes. Yet, everyone gives other people a hard time for their preferences.

Why do people harass other people for their preferences?

I don't care about another person's preferences...and I do not harass because of them.

Be and do you! Then, enjoy...

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