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RE: Dark fantasies - 3/26/2015 11:03:27 AM   
FrankAr


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ORIGINAL: Ariluna

How do I know if I can trust a dominant from here, with my darkest fantasies? What guarantees trust with a sadist?


Greetings,

I would tell you to write down your fantasies. Write them out in the fullest detail that you can think of. Once you have finished writing them out, then re read them to yourself. At any time that while reading the fantasy to yourself it does not make sense, then in real life it just might not.

It can then be a gauge to see how it might become a reality.

Just my two cents worth.


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RE: Dark fantasies - 3/26/2015 2:30:18 PM   
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The same way you know to trust anyone. You take the time and get to know them as people.



^^^^^ That.

And if you insist on taking your time getting to know someone and then they get grumpy because you are a "fake" or "timewaster" or not a true sub/slave or whatever... then don't trust them at all :)

Find the ones who are not selfish or pushy in the 'getting to know you' stage, meet publicly, find someone who is relatively well known and respected, listen to your instincts and if you want a sadist ( I LOVE a good sadist) then be prepared to start with simple and really safe play and build the trust and intensity over a long long period of time.

My best friend/sadist and I are only just touching on some of our most extreme and dark fantasies after many years of friendship and play. He is the only person I have done so many things with. Not because others were not great people/play partners, but because there is a huge huge amount of trust required and he is the only person that I trust to bring me safely through that kind of experience.

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/6/2015 5:59:22 AM   
daddymaster207


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Status: offline 		You will never find what you need if you let Fear control you. Give in to your Master. He will give you all you need. Let go and drop into the abyss...

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/6/2015 5:56:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: daddymaster207

You will never find what you need if you let Fear control you. Give in to your Master. He will give you all you need. Let go and drop into the abyss...


Wrong.

Nowhere is it written that one must check one's brain at the door in order to submit to someone. Fear is one thing, a healthy skeptical approach until trust is established and proven is quite another thing.

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/7/2015 1:38:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		But that's what his profile says he's looking for. Someone who checks their brain at the door.

He expects an insta sub, blind faith. Absolutely no mention of demonstrating that he deserves to be trusted, that he'll earn that level of trust. He wants a sub to meet him blindfolded ffs.

Too much porn is my diagnosis.

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/7/2015 8:28:51 PM   
Gauge


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

But that's what his profile says he's looking for. Someone who checks their brain at the door.

He expects an insta sub, blind faith. Absolutely no mention of demonstrating that he deserves to be trusted, that he'll earn that level of trust. He wants a sub to meet him blindfolded ffs.

Too much porn is my diagnosis.


I try not to check profiles. I'm afraid I am going to catch something.

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/7/2015 9:31:38 PM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit
Plan for the worst, hope for the best.


I was pondering exactly what planning for the worst involve?

Chapstick / lip balm
Burn cream
911 on speed dial
Surgical Stapler
Sutures
Butterfly Bandages
Amyl nitrite / ammonia ampoules
An ambu bag
A lock pick
Pepper spray
A Taser
A fire extinguisher
An ambulance

I mean how do you plan for the worst when it involves dark and edgy BDSM desires?

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/7/2015 10:08:07 PM   
Gauge


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

I was pondering exactly what planning for the worst involve?

Chapstick / lip balm
Burn cream
911 on speed dial
Surgical Stapler
Sutures
Butterfly Bandages
Amyl nitrite / ammonia ampoules
An ambu bag
A lock pick
Pepper spray
A Taser
A fire extinguisher
An ambulance

I mean how do you plan for the worst when it involves dark and edgy BDSM desires?


You will never survive the zombie apocalypse.

Duct tape.

All else is irrelevant.


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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/7/2015 11:23:46 PM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: Gauge


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

I was pondering exactly what planning for the worst involve?

Chapstick / lip balm
Burn cream
911 on speed dial
Surgical Stapler
Sutures
Butterfly Bandages
Amyl nitrite / ammonia ampoules
An ambu bag
A lock pick
Pepper spray
A Taser
A fire extinguisher
An ambulance

I mean how do you plan for the worst when it involves dark and edgy BDSM desires?


You will never survive the zombie apocalypse.

Duct tape.

All else is irrelevant.


Damn it . . you're right. I must adjust my paradigm.

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/8/2015 12:12:25 AM   
Gauge


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Damn it . . you're right. I must adjust my paradigm.



Of course. I am here to help.

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/8/2015 2:03:57 AM   
DaddySatyr


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ORIGINAL: Gauge

Duct tape.

All else is irrelevant.



Duct tape is "The Force". It has a dark side and a light side and it holds the universe together.



Michael

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/20/2015 10:06:00 PM   
seekingreality


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ORIGINAL: Ariluna

How do I know if I can trust a dominant from here, with my darkest fantasies? What guarantees trust with a sadist?


There are no guarantees in life. However, trust is built over time. Lots of time.

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/21/2015 2:29:41 PM   
Spiritedsub2


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ORIGINAL: Gauge


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

I was pondering exactly what planning for the worst involve?

Chapstick / lip balm
Burn cream
911 on speed dial
Surgical Stapler
Sutures
Butterfly Bandages
Amyl nitrite / ammonia ampoules
An ambu bag
A lock pick
Pepper spray
A Taser
A fire extinguisher
An ambulance

I mean how do you plan for the worst when it involves dark and edgy BDSM desires?


You will never survive the zombie apocalypse.

Duct tape.

All else is irrelevant.



Well, duct tape and treadmills.





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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/21/2015 4:50:43 PM   
BitaTruble


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Damn it . . you're right. I must adjust my paradigm.

The Zombies are easy. You two are goners without towels.

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Rock, paper, scissors."

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/21/2015 10:40:44 PM   
Gauge


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

The Zombies are easy. You two are goners without towels.



Towels? We are talking survival... towels are the very last thing that I would be thinking of in order to tough out the onslaught of necrotic humanoids. Food, water, weapons, duct tape, various other things, but towels don't break the top ten. Not even the top 20.

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/22/2015 7:45:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Gauge


quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

The Zombies are easy. You two are goners without towels.



Towels? We are talking survival... towels are the very last thing that I would be thinking of in order to tough out the onslaught of necrotic humanoids. Food, water, weapons, duct tape, various other things, but towels don't break the top ten. Not even the top 20.


I'm thinking you won't be bringing any pocket fluff either... poor bastard.

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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/22/2015 12:07:22 PM   
BitaTruble


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Towels? We are talking survival... towels are the very last thing that I would be thinking of in order to tough out the onslaught of necrotic humanoids. Food, water, weapons, duct tape, various other things, but towels don't break the top ten. Not even the top 20.


The Earth is already on schedule to be destroyed for a new by-pass. The Zombies are going to be
bull-dozed under so without a towel (a fish in your ear would also be helpful) you're screwed anyway.

You are thinking Global when you ought to be thinking Universally. Isn't the ET enough of proof that
there are, indeed, aliens among us?

Get the Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy and get a towel. I'll meet you at the restaurant at the end of
the Universe. We can have a beer or something..






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Rock, paper, scissors."

He laughed. "You are the wisest woman I know."


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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/22/2015 12:08:32 PM   
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RE: Dark fantasies - 4/22/2015 12:45:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble


quote:

ORIGINAL: Gauge


Towels? We are talking survival... towels are the very last thing that I would be thinking of in order to tough out the onslaught of necrotic humanoids. Food, water, weapons, duct tape, various other things, but towels don't break the top ten. Not even the top 20.


The Earth is already on schedule to be destroyed for a new by-pass. The Zombies are going to be
bull-dozed under so without a towel (a fish in your ear would also be helpful) you're screwed anyway.

You are thinking Global when you ought to be thinking Universally. Isn't the ET enough of proof that
there are, indeed, aliens among us?

Get the Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy and get a towel. I'll meet you at the restaurant at the end of
the Universe. We can have a beer or something..


I could use a Babel fish in my ear for some of these threads


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