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AAkasha -> Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/15/2006 10:03:10 PM)

So I've been think about the term "sex slave" lately.

Now there's a thought.  A lot of men around here offer to be a "real sex
slave" to a dominant female. Hmmm. That must take some sacrifice.  Just
you'd have to have sex with her maybe as much as once or twice a day.
The horror!  What man could survive that?

It must take a truly dominant woman to break a man into this habit.  To make
him learn to service her body whenever she needs it, to have his cock hard
and ready for her at the snap of her fingers.  Sex on demand.  Oh, life is
so gruelling for the sex slave!

We all know how much men hate to put their cocks inside a beautiful woman's
tight cunt. I bet you are all recoiling as you read this, your cocks
shriveling up hopelessly with the thoughts of being forced to perform such
acts.  Does it make you cringe in fear and hide in the corner?

What kind of sadistic woman would subject a man to this?  To make him her
"sex slave"?  Indeed there must be a shortage of these men willing to take
this step, to submit to such horrible treatment. I bet if any willing man
posted on the internet and offered his services, women would fill his
mailbox with addresses and phone numbers.  This world needs more men willing
to perform sexual acts!

*SARCASM MODE OFF*

Is it just me, or is the idea of servitude in the form of "sexual slavery"
sort of ...silly?  Granted, there are sexual aspects in play, and some play
is overtly sexual.

But for me, it just kind of rubs me the wrong way when a guy thinks
submission means simply serving a woman in a sexual manner, especially when
this is all he wants anyway.

I can't speak for all femdoms, but when a guy submits to my will, it isn't
meant to get him off. It is meant to get me off.  And I don't need to tie up
a guy to lick my cunt; I can find them willing to do it without persuasion.
Let's think about it for a minute.  If we went out and polled all vanilla
men, how many would object to being a sex slave?

Why not focus more on the SLAVE part, not the SEX part.  

If I want a sex slave for the night, my play is going to probably lean more
toward the vanilla side of things.  It's fun - but this isn't a dominant
experience for me.

A sex slave game, for me, that is also a turnon for my dominant side, would
be to take a man and have him suffer for the priveledge of pleasing me.  If
it were simultaneous, all the better - i.e., he can kneel down and lick me
to orgasm, but he must do it while in some amount of pain, and the pain will
increase as time goes on, urging him to *do a good job and get it done
right*.

It's interesting to point out that in a scene like the one I just described,
I am generally *totally aroused* by the pain/sacrifice aspect of it, so much
so that it even overshadows the feelings of being sexually served.
Ironically, it means that at times I can be pretty stubborn about cumming.
Maybe I am being a little too harsh.  But when I see men parading around
offering the huge sacrifice of being a "sex slave" for a dominant woman, I
have to wonder who is serving whom.

Akasha



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/15/2006 10:16:29 PM)

Oh LORD, AAkasha. This should be good.

*Passes out popcorn buckets and takes a seat*

Master Fire



LotusSong -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/15/2006 10:19:24 PM)

Know the most difficult for them?  Realizing what they THINK the Domme wants is usually far from it. They have to go back to school basically and let her teach them how her body works.

I recall a sub friend of mine, who on the first meeting with her Dom told me he gave head like he was eating corn on the cob!  That alone would have gotten me a handful of his hair, and a tug upwards to get his attention with a "Hold it Bubba! You are wasting your energy and my time!  Where the hell did you learn THAT technique???" 

But then.. This explains why I prefer a male slave :)  They listen.  They learn.  They do.

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QuietDom -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/15/2006 10:21:14 PM)

I think that the 'sex slave' dynamic really only works the other way 'round.  There's this persistent cultural paradigm that sex is only something that women do to get some guy to put a ring on their finger.  Once they've got the ring, they can stop the bedroom acrobatics and just hold sex out as an elusive reward that the husband is expected to chase after constantly, but receive only seldom and grudgingly.  My ex certainly subscribed to this school of thought. (Bitter?  Me?  No, I'm not virulently, caustically, bitter!!!)

So a sex slave, to men, embodies the ultimate fantasy of the Woman Who Won't Say No!!!  What's kind of tragic, of course, is guys thinking of a sub (that can be used for so many wonderful things) strictly as a sexual toy, because that's the only way they feel they can be assured of "gettin' some." 




MsKatHouston -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/15/2006 10:21:40 PM)

LMAO

I am sitting here watching TV with the hubby and we're drinking a few beers.  I laughed so hard at this because we were just talking about this very issue.  The poor men who are subjected to this...I know it is soooo difficult to find a man who is willing to *gasp* have sex.  lol...will read the responses with interest



tangldupinblue -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/15/2006 10:22:50 PM)

i'll get the soda and watch the fire works with you.

blue



leatherbndnloct -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/15/2006 10:33:02 PM)

and thats the trick, When i think about wanting to be a male sex slave, the whole point would be to set up an orgasm imbalence.  A good slave would learn how service his mistress with his mouth, or be a set of holes available for her to use when and how she needs them, or should she need to be penitrated, be able to use a dildo harness instead of himself. All these techniques keep the slave from deriving pleasure, so he can just focus on giving his mistress pleasure.  Then the mistress would be able to use intercourse with her slave and her slaves orgasms as a reward to be earned and not a job requirement.
That being said, I wouldn't want a relationship where i never get to have intercourse with my mistress, or that i never got to orgasm.  But a orgasm ratio of three to one or five to one, thats not so bad.
but then I guess i'm not your average male.




MaleModel -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/15/2006 10:49:19 PM)

Akasha, your post is extremely thought-provoking.

I would guess that sentiments like yours are probably responsible for the popularity of chastity devices.  They would eliminate the poseurs and force the male to confront the reality that he might not get release at all, and if he does, it's only because he's done his job well on your terms.
 
It shouldn't take this......he should be thrilled to have the opportunity to pleasure you because he inherently wants to.......but that is sadly not so common, it would seem.
 
For me, my strong emotions toward Ms. L add to my submissive urge and push me toward a focus on her satisfaction.......but of course, I still want to cum, LOL



slavejlb -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 12:14:02 AM)

try www.fuckbuddy.com



IronBear -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 12:39:41 AM)

Not sure about the US Males but I figure they are about the same as the Aussie guys. The young bloods seem to figure that all a female wants is a huge cock hard as iron and a male body that can keep one keeping on for at least a couple of hours.Yeah been there too but had a great lady who taught me differently and for once I didn't let my pride get in the way.. I learned to ask questions especially two questions.
  1. What do you want/like..
  2. What scares you/you hate/turns you off
Too often either ego or the macho bull shit gets in the way.. Best was how to please a woman is to ask and to let her teach and guide...

Best way for a woman to learn what pleases a guy is to ask (well he mightn't know but you have to try and then teach him everything you know) and let him teach you how he likes it....

It used to be that the European blokes were great lovers because they made sex an art form ratherthan a quicky so you could get back to watching the football, going to the pub with your mates or talking cars with the same mates.. Scoring a root was all about ego points and one up manshipwith the boys.. Most were all knowing talk in dark places and usually learned from one or two porno mags and yet faced with a beautiful nakid woman they'd be all liomp with fear or go at it like a bull in a herd of randy cows and think they were king shit......  Yeah, as I said been there, done that. But I learned and it was the best set of lessons I ever had. Even tried to fail so as to keep the "lessons" going for another few months.. Pity she was my Dad's married secretary and I was only 16.....




slavejlb -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 12:47:06 AM)

Greetings Iron bear
to answer you two question,
what do i like: bondage. most edge play,. flogging, spaking, heavy interogation
what scares me, needles, dark small room,
i am sorry could not resist. [:D]



twicehappy -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 4:58:26 AM)

The only issue i have with this post it appears that many do not think the female is capable of the same sexual drive as men. Not your fault that is pretty much how the world at large sees it too.

Poor me.....i am used a sex slave almost daily. Oh the agony, the suffering, the things i put up with. Forced to be naked and suffer multiple orgasms. Somebody help!

LMAO..........well i do have two instead of one.

Um....on second thought forget about the help request, nobody should suffer like this......i'll just grit my teeth and bear it...... 




ScooterTrash -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 5:05:03 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

The only issue i have with this post it appears that many do not think the female is capable of the same sexual drive as men. Not your fault that is pretty much how the world at large sees it too.

Poor me.....i am used a sex slave almost daily. Oh the agony, the suffering, the things i put up with. Forced to be naked and suffer multiple orgasms. Somebody help!

LMAO..........well i do have two instead of one.

Um....on second thought forget about the help request, nobody should suffer like this......i'll just grit my teeth and bear it...... 


Something tells me you won't get any sympathy this morning (weg).



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 5:06:01 AM)

You know, the interesting thing is, that if they took the term "sex slave" seriously, it wouldn't be such a bad thing.

Not seriously?  How could it be?  Frankly, the focus seems to be far more on the "sex" part than the "slave" part.

Sex is so much more than stripping down and fucking like bunnies.  Can you court me?  Can you seduce me?  Can you charm me?  Can you make me want you?  Can you set the scene?  Can you be creative?  Can you find the right mix of being "slave" and not sitting there being passive expecting me to do all the work?  Can you focus on my pleasure above and beyond yours?  Can you still "read" me while your dick is hard?

Or are you just looking to get laid?

Mysteries of the universe, to be sure.





twicehappy -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 5:23:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash

Something tells me you won't get any sympathy this morning (weg).


Not from you anyway, seeing as how you are one of the pair of perverts using me for a sex toy.

Anyway i do not need sympathy i need more dry towels.............and maybe knee pads........



littlesarbonn -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 5:37:55 AM)

Being a "sex slave" has been a part of male sub fantasies for as long as I can remember in the scene. When involved with groups of male subs, the idea of being used "sexually" has always been a large part of the conversation. When I was in a live-in relationship that involved sex, I was shocked at how many times the conversation about the relationship would ONLY be about sex. I would say that it is quite often everything but sex. You can always tell the fantasy aspect people in the scene by the fact that when they aspire to be a slave, they don't seem to understand that being a slave can often mean pleasing your Mistress in whatever way she desires. And quite often that desire is NOT sex.

So, taking the long way around to say it, I just wanted to state that I think most submissives that aspire to be a sex slave miss the whole forest for the trees because it's so possible to achieve exactly what they fantasize about, as long as they realize that it's not the center of the relationship but something that might be a lucky achievement in the process of the relationship. As I grew in my submission, I left the idea of "being used as a sex slave" behind and started pursuing what I considered a more inner desire, which was to bring happiness and pleasure to the woman I was serving. Rarely did this ever amount to actual sex but consisted of being there when she needed me, anticipating needs and nonsexual desires she might have, and doing everything possible to better her everday existence. For me, I discovered after time that this was the greatest pleasure I could ever achieve. If I was ever used sexually, it was a part of the bigger picture, and it mattered little to me how exactly that fit into the relationship. Just to see her smile, to make her laugh, or to see her satisfied in some way because something I did made her life or even just her day a little more pleasant was more than I could ever ask for.

For me, this has kind of "ruined" me in regular relationships because sex is so not a pursuit of mine. I go into all relationships with the sole desire of achieving my greater pleasure, which is to pursue her greater pleasure. I learned after a lot of experience that this is rarely "sex" but becoming the kind of guy she'd want around her. In vanilla relationships this has proven to be almost the immediate death of it, or the impetus for becoming "friends" rather than intimate associates.

Therefore, I tend to focus only on bdsm relationships, and because the vanilla world has incorporated itself into the bdsm community, I now find myself competing with a LOT of guys who believe sex slavery to be exactly what Akasha mentioned here. That means that every time I try to pursue something, I'm carrying along the endless baggage that these other people carry with them. When I say that I want to be a total slave, I can imagine some woman thinking behind her monitor: "Great, another horny guy that wants to be a sex slave. Next!"

Anyway, not sure if any of this is making sense on a Sunday morning.



LaTigresse -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 6:20:39 AM)

This is one of the reasons why I never take a male submissive/slave seriously. I have yet to have one approach me that did not bring some form of sexual play into the discussion early on. Instant turnoff. It's not that I have never had sex with a man, obviously I have as I am a mother. The difference is that I knew them for a long time before it ever got to that. There was a whole relationship of some sort established, a trust and level of caring that had been built that had nothing to do with sex.



sophia37 -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 6:25:24 AM)

To Littlesarbonn: Will you Marry me?
You are the man of my dreams.
xoxoxox Sophie



sleazybutterfly -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 8:03:43 AM)

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Where can I find a good SEX slave?


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~Andrea
 



MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Where can I find a good SEX slave? (7/16/2006 8:18:12 AM)

You know, put everything in your post from gender specific to gender non-specific and I agree with you.



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