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LadyCai -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (10/7/2015 5:42:47 AM)
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I am reasonably new to the site, though certainly not to this world. This is the first time I have made it to the forums as I've had limited time and a lot of messages. Messages that have had me thinking and speaking of this subject a lot, this may be long as a result.
Firstly, I personally think we are speaking of 4 groups of women.
The first would be women simply selling favours at your request, to men who enjoy paying to be treated like dirt. Those are quite common though it offends me that the term "fin Domme" is often given to these women, as I will explain later.
The second would be sugar babies with dominant personalities. Many rich men like to strike sexual deals with sexually appealing women, and it is a mistake to think all these men are dominant. When there's plenty of men to choose between, naturally one will choose a richer man if the option is there.
The third would be genuine Dommes who require, desire or for whatever reason find it appealing to be paid for their Art. They have Every Right to feel this way, regardless of their wealth (or lack), and you have no right to question it! As said above, there are plenty of options out there, men begging for attention, one would be stupid not to take available money from men they may have little respect for anyway. Are you so special that you think you are worth more then a boy willing to do everything you are AND pay for the privilege?
The fourth are Findommes.
I have studied various forms of BDSM, pain and pleasure and control methods, and with more then a few serious trainers in and out of Australia. I have always known I like to be in control, I crave power, but while most Dommes I have encountered have their specific turn ons I never found mine until a few years ago.
MONEY. I find money sexual, and beautiful, and erotic. To me, and to many of the men I have encountered, money is about power and control, and let's face it, THAT is what most of us here are really about in one way or another.
You are making the mistake of seeing money as a seperate factor to sex. To me your wallet is as much a controlling part of you as your asshole.
As a Findomme I do NOT accept payment. That goes against what I am really about. No it's much deeper then that. Some of my pets are permitted to relinquish their funds to me, if they do well by me. I often refuse them which can be entertainingly crushing for them. Others I take my money off, and they are lucky to keep what I allow them to, always enough to live on and often more if they are behaving and working well for me. They love me, they live for me. Some, I gamble with, fun stacked games where I take the money from them a little at a time, and I find this highly highly erotic.
What I choose to use them for sexually is up to ME. Some I barely meet.it is never a payment for a service or an amount of time. I own their wallets as a part of them, and I use them as any Domme would.
Larger "tributes" do not constitute more time or a likelihood I'll do what you want at any time, no! I do find out my subs interests and dislikes and all of course, so I can excersise effective control, but never would I consider myself responsible to them in anywày I would not feel in any other form of non-financial D/S situation!
I have turned away endless subs in the past few weeks since joining, because I only take true PayPets. I've also taken on some new pets however, and they have been quite amusing.
I don't think I need to say this was a rather insulting post and I feel the OP may be treating this like a random hook up sight rather then looking for that real connection, to approach a Domme in that environment your first visit there and first time you met her - really?! Totally inappropriate, I myself would have told you to never speak to me again unless you were handing me $1000 or a copy of your credit card, because if you race into things without really assessing if they're right for you, you deserve to pay for the stupidity, and someone that flighty couldn't be trusted to be loyal unless I had some form of power over him.
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