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CodeOfSilence -> RE: Are Dominant Women Usually Poor People? (1/10/2016 9:10:25 AM)
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ORIGINAL: mistressgenesis
Not long ago, I encountered a male whom I thought would be a good fit as a lifestyle sub and potential slave. He presented himself as a well-off service slave, wanting to build a real D/s relationship and serve, with a real connection that is greater than what's formed in sessions. We had a very pleasant lunch. He appeared to genuinely be gainfully employed, and had mentioned that he regularly sees Dommes for tribute sessions at the biggest local dungeon. I asked him to buy a specific gift that was around 2/3rd the cost of an hour session, and to help run a small errand. He refused, came up with excuses, and then with thought, he became indignant that I would ask for such a thing when we barely knew one another. He had no problem, however, with dropping his pants and masturbating, stopping when I told him to, then starting again after I had told him it was not permitted at that moment, and then this repeated. Needless to say, I told him off.
In his eyes, My expectations were out of line and presumptuous of a relationship that had yet to be built, and male desires for submissive or kinky activities are perfectly fine upon just meeting someone, and any Dominant woman should cater to them, if she's for real.
In My eyes, he failed the test, and I was disappointed because most entitled assholes reveal themselves over the phone or email.
Some men don't understand that being a Pro-Domme as well as lifestyle makes women more discerning about the people invited into their personal lives, as well as the terms of non-session play. These men only see that someone is well-equipped, skilled, and really enjoys BDSM, so that should combine to make a Domme less selective, because she's obviously hot to dominate any willing subject.
Ah but this has to do with an other perversion in our society, money.
I recently viewed (not even speaking German more than on a very basic level) the film "The Seventh Continent" whose produce Henke, according to the allknowing Wikipedia, correctly predicted that (test audiences?) people would be more upset and show more of a reaction to the destruction of money that the family in the film proceeds to indulge in that their forthcoming collective suicide, including that of a little girl.
"How can they destroy it! They could have given it to charity or to their family!"
In the same way, he may actually been perverted enough to consider his money more important than his blossoming relationship with you. Not consciously but subconsciously. Of course, I wouldn't really want to continue that date with you neither and if anything it might have ruined the opportunity for him to buy you a gift of his own volition.
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