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ResidentSadist -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/1/2015 5:08:29 PM)

Since everyone is having so much fun with charts, here is a real traffic report about gender (and a few other things) I did some years ago when it was still CollarMe.com. I didn't post this earlier because it is relative to the general internet population and there are no definitive numbers. But it does give you a general idea.
~~~~~~excerpt from report~~~~~~~~~
Audience Demographics
Based on internet averages, collarme.com is visited more frequently by males who are in the age range 55-64, have no children, received some college education and browse this site from home. Relative to the general internet population, the chart below shows how popular collarme.com is with each audience

[image]http://residentsadist.com/lp/images/audience%20demographics.jpg[/image]




dreamlady -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/1/2015 5:53:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Based on internet averages, collarme.com is visited more frequently by males who are in the age range 55-64, have no children, received some college education and browse this site from home. Relative to the general internet population, the chart below shows how popular collarme.com is with each audience.


Putting aside how this data was gathered a couple years ago, my gut response was Dayum, that fits about a third of the segment of the population who contact me. . . anywhere.
It isn't just on this site. Now, I happen to be middle-aged myself, and I only access this site from home, so it would make sense about age range, not so sure about the rest of the demographics.

These are my experiential guestimates:

30% Age Range 55-64 (older than me)
40% Age Range 45-54 (closer to my age bracket)
20% Age Range Late 30s-44 (getting to be too young for me, in my mind)
10% Younger than 35 (you gotta be kidding!)

Roughly half (50%) of those above have Never Been Married (gitdafuckouttahere)
They may have children, usually as a non-custodial parent, or children who are grown. A few have admitted to having grandkids.
I can tell that roughly half of the remaining half (or 25%) are married (double gitdafuckouttahere) and/or separated (nearly the same thing, as far as I'm concerned)
Of the remaining 25% who are ostensibly divorced, 20-23% are (also) so damaged or otherwise unsuitable for me that I need no further information to rule them out.

Unless they're being untruthful about their educational level (no surprise), I would say that around half claim to have graduated from college or else have a profession where higher education would be required (unless they're being untruthful there as well).

With the increase in smartphone browsers, accessing this site outside the home has surely dramatically increased.
Not for me, though. I'm old school. [:-]

DreamLady




DerangedUnit -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/1/2015 7:58:30 PM)

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those above have Never Been Married (gitdafuckouttahere)


*chuckle* the difference in quality of men older than 30 who have vs haven't been married is drastic... I'd say switching to only dating guys who had been married was one of the best single factor dating decisions I ever made.

I was really surprised by the college graph... I dont think ive talked to a single person on this site or others that doesnt have at least one degree(except myself) in fact a large portion of people will stop talking to you the second you say you never went to college..... maybe it's just changed drastically in the last few years(dont talk to people muxh since ive been with someone so not "keeping up with the trends")




crumpets -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/1/2015 9:51:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit
I was really surprised by the college graph..


I would think that the USA Collarspace demographics would track relatively closely the demographics of the entire USA (since sexuality should have nothing, per se, to do with formal education).

Looking it up, in the USA, the Census Scope site (among others) has some numbers.
http://www.censusscope.org/us/chart_education.html
[image]http://www.censusscope.org/us/chart_education_graph_1.gif[/image]

I'm not sure how adding the rest of the world changes things, but notice how high the college degree attainment numbers are.




DerangedUnit -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/1/2015 10:17:18 PM)

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Educational_attainment_in_the_United_States

Wiki gave numbers for 2014... maybe its just the type of people that talk to me(and that I live in one of the most expensive areas to live in the country) but even when I lived in ohio, the doms I met there all had masters or doctorates, most of the subs my age were finished with at least one ba or in school.... though ohio state was close so might still be swayed by geography. Or that everyone I lived with while I was there was a professor :/ ... but id think that would just effect real life not who messages me on here. Weird guess ive found some weird bubble surrounding me... always thought I was just the only one that didnt go to school... *reaches out longingly* there are others out there somewhere....

Also surprised to hear people access the internet from desktops. Geez if I had to sit in one place while typing this id go crazy.




crumpets -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 3:54:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit
surprised to hear people access the internet from desktops. Geez if I had to sit in one place while typing this id go crazy.

I generally type this stuff while lying in bed!




NookieNotes -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 5:01:45 AM)


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ORIGINAL: crumpets
quote:

ORIGINAL: cloverodella
1) Creates multiple profiles, thus skewing numbers;

The purpose of each profile is to glean more knowledge of people's behavior with respect to my particular sexual predilections.
The goal is noble; yet you may reasonably object to the method.
quote:

ORIGINAL: cloverodella
2) Creates fake female profiles, thus skewing numbers;

A robot working all day, every day, for years on end couldn't skew the numbers any more than they're already skewed.

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ORIGINAL: cloverodella
3) Inflates the number of total site profiles, thus skewing numbers;

I can't imagine a single-digit handful of female profiles, each aimed at a different market segment, will skew total numbers in any meaningful way.


There you are very wrong.

I have moderated MANY community sites and chatrooms. Here's what I saw (yes, I recorded it—I told you I have been researching this for a long time):

Women: average of 1.76 profiles/personalities. (Usually create additional profiles when they lose login info). Nearly always female.

Men: average of 12.3 profiles/personalities. Male AND female.

Men were also more likely to access the sites and chat during normal working hours, from 2.57% more devices. and about 9x as often as women.

quote:

Bear in mind, by way of numerical perspective, the Ashley Madison site is accused (by some) of creating THOUSANDS TO MILLIONS of fake female profiles.


That's like saying that all murders MUST be the same because one guy was convicted for killing 83 people. Ashley Madison the corporation committed fraud. We're talking about user-created fraud. And it's HUGE.

Now, again, that's MY experience. In ADULT communities and chat. May or may not be indicative of CS, but it's worth noting the possibilities.




Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 7:41:26 AM)

A moderator here told me that one man alone on this site has 430+ profiles, most of them female.




NookieNotes -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 9:07:03 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

A moderator here told me that one man alone on this site has 430+ profiles, most of them female.


WOW! LOL! That's a lot.




ResidentSadist -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 9:39:45 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

A moderator here told me that one man alone on this site has 430+ profiles, most of them female.

Were they talking about Arpig?

[:D]




DerangedUnit -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 10:02:00 AM)

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OEqsgwyvtqc
This explains all




Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 10:57:01 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist


quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

A moderator here told me that one man alone on this site has 430+ profiles, most of them female.

Were they talking about Arpig?

[:D]


Arpig might liven things up around here!




crumpets -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 11:29:31 AM)

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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
I have been researching this for a long time):

This is wonderful that you have the experience, as a DM of sorts, for various web sites.
I'm going to take your data very seriously.
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
Women: average of 1.76 profiles/personalities. (Usually create additional profiles when they lose login info). Nearly always female.

I guess that means that women have a single profile, most of the time, unless they screw up their login credentials, in which case they have two profiles. It also means that some women (some of whom I've personally known so I know this to be true) maintain a profile for their Submissive side and another profile for their Switch personality.

But, how do you know these numbers?

If I was an admin, I would correlate profiles using (at least) these (easy) four bits of data; but I have no idea of YOU had access to those four bits of data. Did you?

If you did, you could correlate profiles rather easily (hence, you would have "good data").

For example, it's easy to correlate profiles if:
1. The women used the same email address for both profiles.
2. It's also easy to correlate if they use the same IP address each time they log in.
3. It might also be easy to correlate if they used the same password.
4. And, it's trivial to correlate if the site cares to remember the browser "fingerprint" (especially if you're ignorant about this topic).

It's much harder to correlate if the profile owner:
1. Uses a different email address for each profile, or
2. Uses VPN and/or TOR (which everyone should use - email me - and I'll tell you why you're a fool if you're NOT using either one) to change their IP address when they log in, or,
3. Uses the same password for each account, or,
4. Uses a unique browser fingerprint (email me to find out why you'd be prudent to at least know what your browser fingerprint is, for example.
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
Men: average of 12.3 profiles/personalities. Male AND female.

That's a pretty believable number.
We might note that the male average is six times the female average, which I'll call ten to one (for simplification).
That's believable that any one guy has ten times the number of profiles as any one gal.

It's believable that the men outnumber the women in number of profiles, for a few reasons:
1. Women can be more successful with one profile than men can be with ten times as many profiles, so, women don't NEED as many profiles to get the same results
2. Men, to increase their odds, often resort to shotgun methods, one of which might be to multiply their presence
3. Men, it seems, are the key commercial scammers when it comes to the 18-year-old-babe profiles (the number of such profiles are astoundingly huge!)
4. I would think it more likely that men would create profiles for ENTERTAINMENT purposes, such as to collect PICTURES (either of other naked men or of naked women)

quote:

ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
Men were also more likely to access the sites and chat during normal working hours, from 2.57% more devices. and about 9x as often as women.

This makes a lot of sense, and, if we look at the Ashley Madison numbers, the IP addresses were coming from work computers in a large number of cases. (Again, you're a fool if you're not using VPN or TOR - and if you want to know more - just email me and I'll spill my guts - since I can't believe how dumb some people are when it comes to protecting their sexual privacy.)

It's interesting that men use 3 times as many devices, as I thought everyone was wired nowadays. Kids especially. Me? I only have 3 cellphones, but, some have dual sim cards, so, I guess I could come in from more than just a computer if I had wanted to put on my reading glasses to read on a tiny cellphone screeen.

It's interesting that men come in from work ten times more than women do. I wonder if the fact that many of the "women" are men skews that number, where it would normally be twenty times or even a hundred times more often? (If I was gonna come in from work, I'd hide the entire communication behind a VPN because you have absolutely no privacy rights at work.)

quote:

ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
Ashley Madison the corporation committed fraud. We're talking about user-created fraud. And it's HUGE.

I understand your point. It seems pretty clear that Ashley Madison's owners did commit fraud (they apparently paid people to create fake female profiles, for example, and then advertised the number of profiles).

It seems that all five elements of fraud might exist in the Ashley Madison case:
(1) a false statement of a material fact,
(2) knowledge on the part of the defendant that the statement is untrue,
(3) intent on the part of the defendant to deceive the alleged victim,
(4) justifiable reliance by the alleged victim on the statement, and
(5) injury to the alleged victim as a result

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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
Now, again, that's MY experience. In ADULT communities and chat. May or may not be indicative of CS, but it's worth noting the possibilities.

I thank you for that data, as I have never moderated a forum myself (although I have been asked to be a moderator, but not by anyone on a sexually related forum).

One question I have for you (and for RS, who was also a moderator) and for any other person here who is/was a moderator is what type of INFORMATION is available to you about us?

The reason I ask is that I could detect duplicate profiles easily if you gave me certain bits of information; but, without those bits, it woudl be MUCH HARDER (perhaps impossible) to correlate two profiles.

Given that data is only as good as how it was obtained, I wonder HOW you get your profile-count data, because, a lot depends on HOW you gathered the information.

1. For example, do you have, as a moderator, access to the profile email address?
If you do, then any profile with the same email address would reasonably be considered from the same person.

2. Do you, as a forum moderator, typically have access to the incoming IP address?
The IP address is "often" static (especially for cable subscribers); so that "could" be a dead giveaway of multiple profiles.

3. Do site moderators typically have access to the profile password?
I never repeat passwords, but, many people do, so, that "could" be a dead giveaway of multiple profiles.

4. Do web moderators typically have access to browser fingerprinting information?
You would be easily trackable if you were found to be unique at the panopticlick.eff.org site, for example.

I could go on with the questions, but, with access to those four items, I could pretty much track almost everyone except the ones clever enough to change any of those four characteristics on each profile they make.

Without those four bits of data, I think it might be pretty hard to determine if two profiles were by the same person.
Social engineering would work; but that's less definite than, say, tracking a browser fingerprint or an IP address or password or email address.




crumpets -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 12:17:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2
A moderator here told me that one man alone on this site has 430+ profiles, most of them female.


If true, that one "person" has over four hundred separate profiles, I suspect,that is a commercial or law enforcement enterprise.

We have all run into tons of "commercial" profiles, and I suspect I have run into a few of what I suspect are LE profiles - because they have a typical nonchalant way of dropping keywords without being overt about it (but, of course, without the four key bits of information, I can't be certain that any two profiles are by the same person or enterprise):
1. email address
2. IP address
3. password
4. browser fingerprint

EDIT: Who is Arpig?




crumpets -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 12:28:19 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OEqsgwyvtqc
This explains all


That was a great video, titled "Mating Trick", where they explained the females reject 70% of all attempts at mating on any given day.

Larger (more desirable) males discourage the smaller (less desireable) males.

Some smaller (disadvantaged) males, are clever enough to disguise themselves as a female, so that these imposters can slide right past the larger imposing males and therefore, snuggle up closer to the female than they otherwise would be allowed.

The miracle is ... yup ... you guessed it ... the FEMALE IMMEDIATELY MATES WITH THAT DISINGENUOUS MALE!

Huh?

They surmise that the female figures out that the guy is more clever than most, and so, she chooses him, over the big dumb brawny guy.

Brains over brawn wins again!
(HINT: It's why males aren't all that much bigger than females, in humans anyway.)




DerangedUnit -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 4:25:52 PM)

And the "true" male of the species is dying out. Because females dont actively fight off males that look like them. The same thing can be seen in humans where women tend to feel comfortable around the guy who will pretend to be theur friend and view the ones that will "listen" as the only option other than douchebag. Women that dont go for this underhanded personality usually head right for assholes because "at least he's honest" end up being used and then settle down with the cuttlefish they passed up before. If women dont want all men to be liars they have to stop actively rewarding the behavior. Dont give a dog a treat for pooping in the closet.

Male humans are actually getting smaller, (in America, average height in china is on the rise) we are creating more androgynous future generations and rewarding subversive behavior over the typical "macho male" which has been prevent over the centuries.




crumpets -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 5:51:13 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit
women tend to feel comfortable around the guy who will pretend to be theur friend

I understood, as, in the other thread, you wrote basically that women don't look to cheat so much as they allow it to happen, and men ... well ... we men ... are ALWAYS willing to take advantage of the situation at any time or place.




DerangedUnit -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 6:55:04 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: crumpets


quote:

ORIGINAL: DerangedUnit
women tend to feel comfortable around the guy who will pretend to be theur friend

I understood, as, in the other thread, you wrote basically that women don't look to cheat so much as they allow it to happen, and men ... well ... we men ... are ALWAYS willing to take advantage of the situation at any time or place.


Pretty much, though understand that there is no opinion of which is worse attached to that observation. I dont think that because men tend to take advantage of situations that they are at fault, or women for allowing it. I think this is how people instintually behave, and if they want to change it they have to make a conscious effort. Which is where morals and boundaries come into play. Lines are really easy to cross if they aren't there.

Family existed to train offspring how to survive. In modern times trying to teach children how they should behave(through example) has tsken a backseat to the parents self interest. Which results in children growing up with fewer self instilled guidelines. I will not cheat because its wrong. I will not lie because its wrong. I will not drug a girl to have sex with her because its wrong. I will not marry someone for their money while I plow my way through the neighborhood because it's wrong.

Instead people see these actions as "well I can get away with it because others arent clever enough to stop me so why not" sentience allows us the unique ability to bypass instinct and choose what actions we allow to define us. Because something is instinctual does not mean it is who we should choose to be, but rather who we become if we don't make a choice.




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/2/2015 7:17:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ForgetToRemember

I decided to test out a hypothesis that I've had for a while. There are more men than women that are kinky (have distinct fetishes and/or observe a power exchange). I don't have the time or resources to do a full study of course, but thought I'd post what I found in my small sample. I searched my home state, any distance, any other settings. The only search criteria were age (18-36) and gender (in this case sex). I searched for reasonably active people (on in the last month). Here is what I found after removing the fakes, double accounts and scam / spammers.

Men: 96
Trans: 3 (all naturally born men)
Women: 23

I didn't count couples, since I figured they were unique, and mostly canceled out (not effecting the ratio much). I also didn't count sexual orientation because I figured about as many men as women are gay (ie unwilling to date the opposite sex). Therefore, not effecting the ratio much either.

Final result: ~4:1 ratio for Male:Female somewhat active on collarspace. Again not a huge sample size. I am also aware that some can be hidden, or not show last online date. Again I assume about as many men as women use these options.

I'd be curious what other states come out to be (I was able to do this in part because of the small size of my state's population). Larger populations would take more time, but could be done (hardest part is removing fakes / duplicates).



Yawn.




NookieNotes -> RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace (9/3/2015 7:45:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: crumpets
1. For example, do you have, as a moderator, access to the profile email address?
If you do, then any profile with the same email address would reasonably be considered from the same person.

2. Do you, as a forum moderator, typically have access to the incoming IP address?
The IP address is "often" static (especially for cable subscribers); so that "could" be a dead giveaway of multiple profiles.

3. Do site moderators typically have access to the profile password?
I never repeat passwords, but, many people do, so, that "could" be a dead giveaway of multiple profiles.

4. Do web moderators typically have access to browser fingerprinting information?
You would be easily trackable if you were found to be unique at the panopticlick.eff.org site, for example.


As an owner/developer of sites, I have had access to all of these. As a moderator, some of these. Some sites tell you if emails match between accounts (or IPs, or cookies), but don't show that private information to mere moderators, for example.

I might see a report:

XXXXscreenname, M 0.00.000.0

IP. Last logged in as:
YYYYscreenname, F E, P, C 0.00.000.0
XYZscreenname, M E, , C 0.00.000.0

Etc.

The mod views vary, but this is what I could see in some cases.

E - email
P - password
C - cookie info
0.00.000.0 - IP

And so on.




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