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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/20/2015 8:31:51 PM   
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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/20/2015 8:35:19 PM   
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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 2:45:54 AM   
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Agreed. There is no need. The men are seeking. It's easier for us to simply respond or not as we see fit.


That is sooooo not fair.


Really? How is this not fair?


Because I would prefer to be the one to "simply respond or not" as I see fit.


You can. Just choose to do it. I would hope then, that your profile is spectacular enough to convince women who are poking around to want to respond.

OR... Think of it this way: You already are! You look over profiles, then decide who to respond to. You don't have to choose any, or your can choose as many as you'd like.

*smiles*

Oh and personal preferences have nothing to do with fair. I'd prefer I had $10m in my bank account...

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the ratio on any site should be 1:1
it is not and many conclusions can be drawn


Why "should" it be anything?

These posts reek of entitlement, whining about unfair and what "should" be. It is what it is. Pussy privilege is a thing online. Male privilege is a thing nearly EVERYWHERE else.

*shrugs*

Just deal with what you have, and quit complaining. Complaining will dry up the pussy around you faster than quick-dry nail polish.


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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 3:10:41 AM   
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the ratio on any site should be 1:1
it is not and many conclusions can be drawn


That is an interesting idea. But I am not sure how it's possible unless the sites stop new men from joining when they reach that ratio. Then they would have to wait until another female joined before letting another male in. And that doesn't seem like it would be fair to the guys who didn't get in before the cutoff. In fact I am guessing you would have been turned away also.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 4:49:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Whatever the ratio is the Ashley Madison and Friendfinder hacks are interesting to me in validating that it is unrealistic for men to find women on those sites. Supposedly AM made up fake profiles of women. I haven't met anyone ever through this site, I met more women through craigslist and based on what these hacks show it wouldn't be worth it to pay for a membership. I don't see limiting new members but I think truth about the gross numers of men to women should be disclosed. I was wondering if the FTC could close the other sites down for deceptive practices in giving out misleading numbers.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 6:13:08 AM   
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A photo would probably help. As would a realistic age. :)


I tried to take a selfie with my Instamatic and the plastic lens shattered. As for my age many of my friends say that I could pass for a man nearly twice my age. The wrinkles on my butt look like a relief map of the Himalayas. Thus the photo-less profile.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 6:21:30 AM   
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You can. Just choose to do it. I would hope then, that your profile is spectacular enough to convince women who are poking around to want to respond.


Not likely, I am old and ugly with a "fragile" ego so it is easier to rent and considerably less embarrassing.

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OR... Think of it this way: You already are! You look over profiles, then decide who to respond to. You don't have to choose any, or your can choose as many as you'd like.

*smiles*


See fragile ego above.

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Oh and personal preferences have nothing to do with fair. I'd prefer I had $10m in my bank account...


That would be more than I could spend...I mean... how much longer can I live.


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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 7:34:53 AM   
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The ratio is the excuse. The reason a man doesn't get messages is the man himself. There are men who do get messaged here, and the reasons for that are those men themselves.

If you don't get messaged, it's you.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 7:45:48 AM   
focalss


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Status: offline 		The ratio is really the reason. However, the ratio needs to take into account the fact that men are more interested in finding a sex partner in general than women too which is what most women do not have to really search for and another reason that just looking for sex isn't what the majority of single women are looking for.

I get replies on vanilla sites doing exactly the same things but not on these sites. The ratio on vanilla sites is more balanced. I am looking for a specific interest that doesn't match vanilla sites. Apart from myself I see profiles of women looking for men but doing all the same things women say men should not do, they don't post pictures, they are in relationships with others etc.

Another issue is that women who are undateable on vanilla sites are dateable on these sites, just as men who are undateable on these sites are dateable on vanilla sites.





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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 8:52:02 AM   
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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 10:56:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Photos and a bit of a profile will help a fractional smidgen if you are man.

Another anomaly with sites are the more sex based they are, or perceived by the bulk of members to be, the higher the active ratio of men there are to women, and an even lower (nothing is zero now I really think about that one) mail they will receive, for most will receive none at all – a 12inch cock will help get you past 0 mails.

Contributing on forums with sterling advice might get you 1 or 2. A few of the regulars will get a few I would imagine. But they invest much time and effort.

And most people think fetish sites its all rampant orgies, insane, crazed, rampant, passionate, evocative, lobs in a thesaurus se, and rucking like bunnies in heat. To this day I still don’t understand that

If you want more mail then you need to also partake time on the more mainstream sites where the active userbase in higher by many factors.

For a successful, growing etc website it goes like this:
Women go where they get most attention mail
Men go where women go.
It’s not rocket science and that’s the formula simple isn’t it.

Now let’s start with;
Women – men you have no idea some of the mail they get on these places.
Men – women if you got the amount of mail a man does, which is often zero a calendar year on a few sites, you would leave those particulars sites and go to others where you got more mail.





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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 12:21:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Funny how it's always the fault of the website making up profiles. Because it's impossible to believe men are on there masquerading as women for their own purposes.

Think about it, boys. You're much more likely to talk about sexy things with a curious woman asking YOU questions than approach a woman who's interested in your one-shot kinky roleplay.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 2:03:23 PM   
WickedestDesires


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Status: offline 		There are many fake profiles here. It is all sites problem. A Verification systems will curtail most malarkey, just not all

let me cite a recent has anyone reviewed the statement from the hackers of hacked to fukery Ashley Madison ..it states 95% of women on there are fake

be-naughty.con another infamous malarkey an insider state all are made up profiles x 95% its parent company owns 300 dating sites.

Do they create fake profiles until thee idiot man folk part with cash yes

Does collar me or fet nope. Do they have more fake profiles than genuine profiles Yes.

before I am tar and feathered and drowned in a vat of cheap chardonnay its how i wish to go all reach for a dictionary and encompass the definition of the word fake

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 2:17:42 PM   
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Most animals have these self defense mechanisms built in. Like ducks, the females have fake vaginas because they are so often raped. They only show the drake the right one if he will stick around and help raise the ducklings.

Wow, I find this immensely fascinating. Is this with all fowl or just waterfowl? Then, the million-dollar question ... Is that the same as taking it up the butt?

If so, then there are a bunch of human males who have it ass-backwards (pun intended), in terms of proof of ownership or their mate's devotion.
(Not that the act itself for mutual enjoyment is the issue, but non-consensual/one-sided incessant badgering is.)

Well, as just about anyone who has had or seen a young inexperienced, unneutered tomcat can tell you, it is not uncommon for them to aim for the "wrong" hole ....

Forget lopsided ratios. Males can be so-oo stoopit.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 3:43:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		EXACTLY HOW can you tell if a profile is FAKE? I know some people make multiple profiles, but FAKE ones???

*scratches head while scrolling through profiles*


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ORIGINAL: WickedestDesires

There are many fake profiles here. It is all sites problem. A Verification systems will curtail most malarkey, just not all

let me cite a recent has anyone reviewed the statement from the hackers of hacked to fukery Ashley Madison ..it states 95% of women on there are fake

be-naughty.con another infamous malarkey an insider state all are made up profiles x 95% its parent company owns 300 dating sites.

Do they create fake profiles until thee idiot man folk part with cash yes

Does collar me or fet nope. Do they have more fake profiles than genuine profiles Yes.

before I am tar and feathered and drowned in a vat of cheap chardonnay its how i wish to go all reach for a dictionary and encompass the definition of the word fake



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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 3:59:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Fake is often defined as "undesirable by me" or "bitch rejected me." The individual has accused me of being fake before. I think he needs a refresher on the definition.

No, fake profiles are not the site's problem unless the people behind them are actively trying to harm users. A lot of them just want some sexy chat. It is up to the INDIVIDUAL not to be stupid and give these people time or, heaven forbid, money. No personals site has the budget to be your babysitter.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 7:56:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ForgetToRemember
I was wondering if one's kinkyness had some basis in nature and not only nurture.


Yes. Of course. It's called testosterone. It's natural. And, the levels have nothing to do with nurture whatsoever.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 9:02:26 PM   
crumpets


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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
If you want the truth, stick around. If not, your loss:

I am never hurt by real data, and good data contains truth.
This entire thread, is essentially pure opinion, so far.
And that's OK.
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
Women want sex as much as men.

Hmmm.... how does one respond to that?
There's absolutely no way. Period. It's just not possible.
I'm sure *some* women want sex as much as most men do - but - women, in general, don't have a clue what it's like to be horny every second of every day of your life, and then to have women parading around wearing almost nothing most of the time just making the whole thing worse. You have absolutely no idea what it's like to be horny like a guy is horny. At least not a Mediterranean guy.
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
For every straight man having sex, h=guess what? There is a woman there. Yeah. I know. Crazy!

Not even close to being true. First off, the number of gay men is huge, as compared to lesbian women, and their number of trysts are stupendously huge, compared to anything else (lesbian or straight). Secondly, men have far more extra-relationship sex than women do (although both do it - yet - men do it in droves).

Just pick any arbitrary prostitute who caters, for example, to businessmen on business - and then ask her how many men she screws in a day, every day, every week, every year, etc. She's not doing it for the sex (rest assured), but each of those businessmen is.

I wish I could find the ad-hoc study that was done once, where they put a gorgeous blond and a handsome guy propositioning guys after work on Fridays, and EVERY SINGLE GUY took the bait, while no women took the bait.

While I could be wrong, and you could be right, I think the numbers are VASTLY SKEWED toward men being far hornier than women, in fact, so horny, that I doubt most women can even COMPREHEND the level of horniness that is male.

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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
And, women cheat as often as men do. Uh huh. And our hormones are not only as strong, but at certain times of the month and in our lifecycles, even stronger.

I think we'd need to look up studies to find the actual amounts of testosterone and estrogen (it's probably way complicated by a lot of factors); but again, there's no way that the average woman, at her highest of highest of hormonal fluxes is anywhere near as horny as the average guy at his lowest of lows. Again, I speak mostly from my own experience, and a tiny bit of knowledge of physiology (I've taken graduate-level courses in the subject but it has been decades since).

From what you write, it's clear you have absolutely no idea. None. You're intelligent. But you're not horny like a man is horny.
Just look at the evidence.

It's everywhere.
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
So, put it away.

Let's agree to disagree.
You choose to ignore the evidence that is everywhere, in favor of your own personal opinion.
I choose to see what I can see, and, again, I decide in favor of my own personal opinion.

We're both looking at the same data, but, concluding vastly different things - which - in this case - is to be expected because you can't feel the power of testosterone that I can feel when I see a skirt lift up in the breeze - and I can't feel whatever it is that you feel when you see a cute guy.
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
1. Society. Being ostracized as a "slut" is particularly painful for some women,

In general, men are the sluts (they do it for the sex); women are the whores (they do it for personal gain).
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
2. Birth control and STIs.

This is, indeed, unfortunate for women.
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
3. Our hormones tend to wax and wane

Again, unfortunate for women. Most men (at least the ones I know) are always horny, so they're much steadier.
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
4. Our sexuality is tied more intrinsically with our brains (really, it's an anatomical fact).

I don't doubt this.
Very many studies show women being more confused and complex about their own sexuality than are men, in general.
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We just don't tell you, or everyone on the fora about it.

Women are certainly more circumspect than are men, in general.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/21/2015 9:05:41 PM   
crumpets


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EXACTLY HOW can you tell if a profile is FAKE? I know some people make multiple profiles, but FAKE ones???


How do you know whether a Gucci bag or Rolex watch or supposed OEM automotive part is fake?
You simply ties the pieces together.
For example, it's relatively easy to see patterns in profiles (you've noticed them yourself).
It's also easy to notice discrepancies and, in particular, a profile picture that shows up on porn sites (which extremely many photos do, if you've run the tests, as I have).
Just like you'd notice a stripe not matching up in a fake Polo shirt, you can notice that the zip code doesn't match the stated locale in the profile.

There are scores of things that you will notice, just as you would a fake automotive part, that clue you in.

The only ones who don't notice the reams of fake profiles are the clueless.

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RE: Male:Female ratio on collarspace - 8/22/2015 5:04:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WickedestDesires
Contributing on forums with sterling advice might get you 1 or 2. A few of the regulars will get a few I would imagine. But they invest much time and effort.


Yes. Exactly what SHOULD be done when looking for a match, don't you think? Or do you think men deserve to have women just throwing themselves at them?


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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
Women want sex as much as men.

Hmmm.... how does one respond to that?
There's absolutely no way. Period. It's just not possible.


Right. No wonder you whine so much, believing that tripe.

http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive/2013/06/turns-out-women-have-really-really-strong-sex-drives-can-men-handle-it/276598/
http://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare
http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/06/when-women-pursue-sex-even-men-dont-get-it.html

I could offer a lot more, if I did not have an out-of-town guest that I want to cook breakfast for in a bit. But that's a taste.

Because, science, fuckers.

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I'm sure *some* women want sex as much as most men do - but - women, in general, don't have a clue what it's like to be horny every second of every day of your life, and then to have women parading around wearing almost nothing most of the time just making the whole thing worse. You have absolutely no idea what it's like to be horny like a guy is horny. At least not a Mediterranean guy.


WOW! That is a whole lotta misogyny and bitterness right there.

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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
For every straight man having sex, h=guess what? There is a woman there. Yeah. I know. Crazy!

Not even close to being true. First off, the number of gay men is huge, as compared to lesbian women, and their number of trysts are stupendously huge, compared to anything else (lesbian or straight). Secondly, men have far more extra-relationship sex than women do (although both do it - yet - men do it in droves).


First, I said straight. Second, do you even understand science? Do you understand the SCIENTIFIC reasons there are more homosexual men than women? Or the cultural reasons that women are more likely to identify as bisexual than men?

Do you understand the different between WANTING sex and HAVING sex? Oh wait... I know you do. *snickers*

Yes, men have more affairs—WITH WOMEN. They are still having that sex with women. Good lord, this is not difficult stuff.

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Just pick any arbitrary prostitute who caters, for example, to businessmen on business - and then ask her how many men she screws in a day, every day, every week, every year, etc. She's not doing it for the sex (rest assured), but each of those businessmen is.


I reiterate that you know the difference between WANTING sex and HAVING sex.

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I wish I could find the ad-hoc study that was done once, where they put a gorgeous blond and a handsome guy propositioning guys after work on Fridays, and EVERY SINGLE GUY took the bait, while no women took the bait.


Oh. Right, because slut shaming, the physical risk of going off with a strange man, the risk of STDs (Oh! It just slipped off, I'm sorry women are approximately 4x more likely to get an STD from an infected man than a man is from an infected woman, bummer, that), the risk of pregnancy and all those things are not reasons.

It's because women DON'T WANT SEX.

Yeah. Ok. That's just dumbass.

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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
And, women cheat as often as men do. Uh huh. And our hormones are not only as strong, but at certain times of the month and in our lifecycles, even stronger.

I think we'd need to look up studies to find the actual amounts of testosterone and estrogen (it's probably way complicated by a lot of factors); but again, there's no way that the average woman, at her highest of highest of hormonal fluxes is anywhere near as horny as the average guy at his lowest of lows. Again, I speak mostly from my own experience, and a tiny bit of knowledge of physiology (I've taken graduate-level courses in the subject but it has been decades since).


Right. And science hasn't changed since, I'm sure.

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From what you write, it's clear you have absolutely no idea. None. You're intelligent. But you're not horny like a man is horny.
Just look at the evidence.


Yeah. Ok. Keep talking out your ass. I mean, I dunno, this has been my primary area of study for the past 7 years. Okies. Keep your ONE college course from decades ago in your head. That'll work.

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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
So, put it away.

Let's agree to disagree.


Oh, I don't mind disagreeing. But when you post ignorant misogynistic bullshit like this, I am not particularly interested in changing your mind. I'm posting so that others who have open minds don't reach that drivel and think you actually know what you're talking about, or at least have a dissenting point of view.

As far as most people like you go, it's probably best they don't realize how much women want sex. Because most don't have what it takes to understand it, handle it, or satisfy it.

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You choose to ignore the evidence that is everywhere, in favor of your own personal opinion.


No. In favor of science, and the research I've done for years.

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ORIGINAL: crumpets
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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes
1. Society. Being ostracized as a "slut" is particularly painful for some women,

In general, men are the sluts (they do it for the sex); women are the whores (they do it for personal gain).


I hope every woman who considers you as a potential mate takes the time to read through your forum posts and sees this.

That is the biggest red flag I can make with the limitations here.

'Nuff said.


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