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Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 12:23:10 PM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		Not something I NORMALLY bring up but...I am trying to be more "true" to myself when I describe what I like and do not like...

I have never been a fan of oral sex being performed on ME...(I love to give...not so much to receive). I discard profiles of men who extort how they love to please women and can go down for hours...

Since becoming more upfront, I have heard a few times, "makes sense...slaves usually prefer to be the givers." A couple of men that identify as masters have gone as far as to say that they never perform oral sex on slaves since (not to be crude BUT) "since slave holes are for filling...not licking".

So, I ask...

1) Is the giver/receiver idea true? It has been also pointed out that it is even a difference between subs and slaves. Regardless of gender, do those on the sub/slave side really prefer to give? For me, part of it is I HATE laying there with nothing to do LOL...I just assumed it was because of my ADHD!
2). Is it really just vanilla guys trying to get laid with the whole "I LOVE to go down on a woman" claim? it seems like every guy now swears that it is their favorite activity!
3) if you like receiving..WHY?? Ok, men, I get the attraction...Women. Why? Other than the whole "nothing to do" I have never known a man that could be as rough and aggressive with his tongue as he can be with his dick.
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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 12:34:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss

Not something I NORMALLY bring up but...I am trying to be more "true" to myself when I describe what I like and do not like...

I have never been a fan of oral sex being performed on ME...(I love to give...not so much to receive). I discard profiles of men who extort how they love to please women and can go down for hours...

Since becoming more upfront, I have heard a few times, "makes sense...slaves usually prefer to be the givers." A couple of men that identify as masters have gone as far as to say that they never perform oral sex on slaves since (not to be crude BUT) "since slave holes are for filling...not licking".

So, I ask...

1) Is the giver/receiver idea true? It has been also pointed out that it is even a difference between subs and slaves. Regardless of gender, do those on the sub/slave side really prefer to give? For me, part of it is I HATE laying there with nothing to do LOL...I just assumed it was because of my ADHD!
2). Is it really just vanilla guys trying to get laid with the whole "I LOVE to go down on a woman" claim? it seems like every guy now swears that it is their favorite activity!
3) if you like receiving..WHY?? Ok, men, I get the attraction...Women. Why? Other than the whole "nothing to do" I have never known a man that could be as rough and aggressive with his tongue as he can be with his dick.

I am right there with you on all of this. I love giving oral, but I am not that hot on receiving it. I love to please, and that's what I get out of giving oral. Its something I have come to seriously enjoy. But when receiving, it becomes about me, and that detracts from the whole experience for me.

And I hate it when I see profiles of men bragging about their oral skills.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 12:44:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can't answer for Ron, but here's my take on your questions -

1) I think this is one of those personal preferences - not something you can really pigeon-hole into a box with a label. I also don't think it is anything to do with whether you are a sub or a slave either.
2) It is a popular thing amongst men, both 'nilla and kink. Also, a lot of men will say anything if they think it is a passport to a quick fuck or something to scratch their kinky itch. So I don't see this as just a 'nilla thing.
3) My OH loves oral. Have you known a dick to be able to nip or pull on a clit or labia?? Do you know of a dick that can bite and pull at a clit, lips, hood or anything else around that area?? Can a dick suck like a hoover and probe deeply at the same time?? I don't, that's for sure!
Oral isn't just gentle licking of the outside lips yanno!

Maybe you've just not had good oral experiences.




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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 1:44:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think you have it reversed. These guys gave themselves the labels of dom so they didn't have to give their partner any satisfaction that way. So they had an excuse to be selfish and uncaring of their partner's needs.

Personally I prefer not to have oral sex performed on me. It's more vulnerable somehow than piv. And less intimate since you can't kiss or see each others eyes.

The Man doesn't do it much either. About the only times he will is if he's tied me up on a high piece of furniture like a desk where he's at that level while sitting down. If it requires an uncomfortable position for him, he won't do it.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 4:12:24 PM   
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Have you known a dick to be able to nip or pull on a clit or labia?? Do you know of a dick that can bite and pull at a clit, lips, hood or anything else around that area?? Can a dick suck like a hoover and probe deeply at the same time?? I don't, that's for sure!
Oral isn't just gentle licking of the outside lips yanno!



This. ^^^^ And I also don't think it a "label" thing. I think it's a personal preference.

I've also never just "lay there" unless it was his intention that I not move no matter what he did.

I love giving but I like receiving as well at least so far ....

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 5:29:56 PM   
InHisHeart


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Status: offline 		Sub here answering, I love giving and I love receiving. What I love about receiving is, it feels so damn good and he is really good at giving plus he loves going down which makes it that much more enjoyable to me. He is someone who does go down for quite a long while but I'm not always on my back just laying there unless he has me in restraints where I can't move and the torture of not being able to move is very pleasurable to me in a torturous, painful kind of way.

He'll have me in all different positions and many times he uses fingers, toys, clit clamps, gives vaginal and/or anal penetration while giving oral.

As Freedomdwarf said, oral isn't just for gentle licking. It can be rough and hard which is how I enjoy it. If it was gentle licking/sucking, it wouldn't be very enjoyable to me and I'd get bored. I love when he bites, slaps my clit in-between sucking, pulls while sucking or pulls with his teeth, sucks on me hard and gives all my parts a good work over.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 9:01:39 PM   
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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 9:16:27 PM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		For those who said they never just laid there...What in the hell DID I you do? Other than squirming and thrashing around (I actually have dated a couple of guys who were really good at oral..oddly enough always my vanilla BFs). Unless you are in a 69 position, there is not much "available" other than the top of his head.. Am I missing something? Maybe this explains the usefulness a 3rd person offers in a threesome.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 9:27:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss

Not something I NORMALLY bring up but...I am trying to be more "true" to myself when I describe what I like and do not like...

I have never been a fan of oral sex being performed on ME...(I love to give...not so much to receive). I discard profiles of men who extort how they love to please women and can go down for hours...

Since becoming more upfront, I have heard a few times, "makes sense...slaves usually prefer to be the givers." A couple of men that identify as masters have gone as far as to say that they never perform oral sex on slaves since (not to be crude BUT) "since slave holes are for filling...not licking".

So, I ask...

1) Is the giver/receiver idea true? It has been also pointed out that it is even a difference between subs and slaves. Regardless of gender, do those on the sub/slave side really prefer to give? For me, part of it is I HATE laying there with nothing to do LOL...I just assumed it was because of my ADHD!
2). Is it really just vanilla guys trying to get laid with the whole "I LOVE to go down on a woman" claim? it seems like every guy now swears that it is their favorite activity!
3) if you like receiving..WHY?? Ok, men, I get the attraction...Women. Why? Other than the whole "nothing to do" I have never known a man that could be as rough and aggressive with his tongue as he can be with his dick.


Ok, sub here.
1. Not true for me. I need to receive as much as give. My philosophy is that both partners get off, no matter what their role.
2. Not just vanillas, many men claim to love giving oral. The funny thing is this: if a guy says he wants go down on me for hours, I know he probably is not a good listener. Because if he reads my signals or asks, it doesn't take hours to get off. I don't need a guy telling me about it, just do it.
3. Why do I like receiving oral? Because I have the most exquisite orgasms. I don't just lie there either. Nothing to do? Hell, squirming in bondage, moaning, screaming, fantasizing, grabbing his hair.....aren't those things to do? And as much as I like rough and aggressive sex, oral is NOT the time for being rough, for me.


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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/12/2015 10:22:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		Who is Ron?

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 2:25:21 AM   
NookieNotes


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Status: offline 		Ahhh. I have a lot to say on this, and expect I will, a bit later. I have to get packing. Heading to the OBX today for a week with my FemDom crew!

*smiles*

But, for the record:

1. I love oral - giving AND receiving (dominant, just for reference).
2. I am very active. Thrashing, wiggling, holding his hair, ears, sitting on his face, talking extremely dirty...
3. Being eaten is sexual and pleasurable, but also very powerful.
4. I feel the same way about giving head.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 4:04:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Im gonna agree with Nookie....And someone who can be good at oral is worth staying married to. purrrrrrrrs.(thats my personal take on it, for both sexes and I see neither oral as submissive or dominant. Of course it can be made to feel that way:)
YMMV of course.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 5:11:12 AM   
InHisHeart


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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss

For those who said they never just laid there...What in the hell DID I you do? Other than squirming and thrashing around (I actually have dated a couple of guys who were really good at oral..oddly enough always my vanilla BFs). Unless you are in a 69 position, there is not much "available" other than the top of his head.. Am I missing something? Maybe this explains the usefulness a 3rd person offers in a threesome.


Play with my boobs, pinch and twist my nips, pull on my nipple clamps if they're on, hold/grab his head, talk dirty and sometimes I don't do anything but stay focused on all the great sensations I'm feeling. I'm a very visual person and I love watching what's going on. If I'm in a position where I can watch him or see in the wall mirrors, I do love watching. If I'm in a position where I can't see, I get just as excited closing my eyes, concentrating on what I'm feeling and visualize what he's doing.

With many other sex act positions (doggie style for one), there's not always something for one partner to do except enjoy what's going on.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 6:20:46 AM   
kallisto


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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 10:10:08 AM   
JVoV


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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 2:37:39 PM   
Kaliko


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Status: offline 		I prefer to give. I've got a bit of a cock worship fetish. It suits both of us well. :)

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 9:00:35 PM   
crumpets


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I like giving head, sometimes more than getting.


I'm with JVoV!

Giving is far better than getting - although I have been accused of being far too cunnilingus-centric on the forums - so I have dialed that down a bit in the sweet-talk part of the profile.

What "I" enjoy about oral sex is the aftercare!

Namely, the aftercare AFTER she orgasms (hopefully multiple times, squirting as she sees fit to do), as I then get to rest my (tired by then) head in her (warmly) satiated lap as she glowingly pets my hair radiating satisfied appreciation in a variety of subtle feminine ways, perhaps still lightly nibbling or kissing, or just resting my head between her legs.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 9:29:55 PM   
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1) Is the giver/receiver idea true? It has been also pointed out that it is even a difference between subs and slaves. Regardless of gender, do those on the sub/slave side really prefer to give? For me, part of it is I HATE laying there with nothing to do LOL...I just assumed it was because of my ADHD!
2). Is it really just vanilla guys trying to get laid with the whole "I LOVE to go down on a woman" claim? it seems like every guy now swears that it is their favorite activity!
3) if you like receiving..WHY?? Ok, men, I get the attraction...Women. Why? Other than the whole "nothing to do" I have never known a man that could be as rough and aggressive with his tongue as he can be with his dick.


1. If someone wants to please, I would expect giving oral to be a part of that.
2. If a Dom/me wants to give oral, who's gonna stop them? But I do get the feeling that a lot of the Doms are just trying to get laid, and promising oral could be simply a way to try to get laid.
3. I'm genderically incapable of explaining why women like receiving oral.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 10:49:05 PM   
crumpets


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3. I'm genderically incapable of explaining why women like receiving oral.


I have no problem understanding why anyone would like oral; but what I am "genderically" unable to process, is why more women don't request the particularly dominant facesitting approach more often.

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RE: Oral Sex (Calling Ron!!) - 9/13/2015 10:55:44 PM   
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