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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 6:40:11 PM

Caretakr

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Caretakr. You've been burned. We get it!

958 post later.

Sheesh!

Still, you do add much spice to the threads. But then again, I love high maintenence, high strung, highly emotional guys.

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Huh? Did I miss something? Where did THAT come from?

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 7:59:37 PM

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I have seen this term, "low maintanance" mentioned often and wonder what it means exactly.

Low maintenence in general just means something that doesn't take a lot of time or energy to deal with.

Most people are low maintenence in some areas and high maintenence in others. The trick is finding a relationship with someone who will fit in well with your energy and time needs. I've insisted many times that the next person brought into the relationship MUST be geographically a genius because all of us suck at directions.

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 8:00:59 PM

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Where the hell have you been, woman?

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 8:05:25 PM

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Where the hell have you been, woman?

Driving to Texas...moving in...swimming...waiting for cable to get hooked up :)

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 8:08:21 PM

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Ohhhh, ok. Welcome back!! :)

(Sorry folks, back to the thread now)

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 8:12:00 PM

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Low maitenance implies someone who is laid back, does not take a lot of time and energy to get ready to go out, is not a drama queen or king, is not an attention-monger, and is just generally down-to-earth.

In other words, it's me in a nutshell.

Thats me too!!

The more the merrier! I've had drama queens as friends and lovers, and I'll be very honest in saying that I prefer someone who is low maitnenance. Obviously this doesn't imply that we take any less care of ourselves, just that we do so with minimum fuss and ado.

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 11:09:49 PM

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I am starting to think of low maintenance in emotional terms - meaning someone who "gets it" when someone has had a extremely bad day and just tries to make their day easier, or at least lets them just "be" (and even when they aren't having a bad day, by not asking them incessant questions about things they know how to do themself already (in the case of a submissive), and who will give a try at figuring something out themselves without having to be micromanaged (in the case of a submissive), and - even if they are submissive or a slave, is independent enough to organize thier time and day (around someone else' wishes, perhaps) and not need constant supervision. In a phrase: Trying to Not be a hassle to someone else.

Although I realize there are folks who equate this term with not needing to get haircuts at beauty salons or not getting things like acrylic nails (which can also be true, I guess) - I tend to think it's the emotional and mental non-meeting of the minds and-or hearts (or lack of similar goals and understanding them and how it's bee agreed (or not) to try to reach them) that might weigh a relationship down and cause bad tension (as opposed to good tension, like the kind that might be needed for a scene or something).

If it's a Dominant or Master person, even though a slave or submissive is going to (hopefully) want to please them, if their submissive or slave is seriosuly ill or emotionally devastated by an event, I would hope they would be compassionate and not insist on keeping up roles for just one day (or two), in the name of being human, and allowing someone else to heal and feel safe doing it.

- Susan

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 11:40:54 PM

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I talked to my Daddy about the other thread, and even though from every indication we both want the same type of relationship as far as energy invested.. we differed on these terms.

I will say something a little controversial just because I have an imp on my shoulder controlling my typing (WEG). Aren't most dominants high maintanence? Do they not require much energy and trouble? Aren't they always wanting a lot of time spent on them? (for the record I adore spending time on my Daddy, and think of new ways to please him when I am in his presense).

lol julia now there's a perspective i wasn't even thinking... i immediately began to think of what might be percieved as the *it* being a submissive, who may be either low or high maintenance! You have a point, for sure

For me low maintenence, is something that doesnt need as much *attention* or *effort* from the person who is doing the maintaining, for the said person to perform or *be*. Can be emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually maintained...

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 11:49:17 PM

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My take on the terminology is thus -

A "high" maintenance sub/slave need constant supervision to
attend to their duties and maintain appropriate behavior. They
also will create an emotional crises when none exists to obtain
the focus of the Dominant's attention. They will often try to
start an argument in order to gain attention as well.

A "low" maintenance sub/slave is able to perform their duties
with a minimum of oversight and maintains appropriate behavior
even when the Dom/me is not present. They bring matters
of importance to the Dominant and ask for feedback and encouragement,
without trying to monopolize the time and energy of the Dominant.

Regards,

Vendaval

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/17/2006 11:52:53 PM

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Ha! Good one. But, just as well because if Master were low maintenance I wouldn't have much of a job, would I? And that would be unfulfilling for me.

As for a low-maintenance slave, it is what I aspire to be, and getting there. To Master, it means I am trained to his liking and do not require so much "fine tuning." It means I know my place, and I serve, and I do not create additional work for him. He can count on me to be here and happily in place whenever he taps into me, be it for conversation or service. In fact, that's really what low maintenance means, in my opinion: He can count on me.

smiles... once again owned, we are on the same page... i couldn't have said it any better myself... thanks again!

infact... on thinking about it... i think i will just follow you around from now on, wait for you to post, and then simply say, *what she said*... now that couldn't be anymore *low maintainence* for me, now could it?

tali

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/18/2006 12:15:11 AM

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Hahahaha, stop that.

Edited to add: It took a lot of work to get to that place where he could always count on me. Thank God for his patience, his faith in me and his unwillingness to tolerate my crap.

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RE: What is low maintenance? - 7/18/2006 4:07:34 AM

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There is no right or wrong answer. From my point of view, I'm low maintenance because, as a pro sub, I earn the money to fund our lifestyle.

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A submissive who is low maintainance, makes you dinner, never questions a thing, and spanks herself when her dominant has a headache...

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