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LadyPact -> RE: Serious question (11/11/2015 5:56:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl And then there was all the posting on every kink website that you were on, that MP was an abuser and you were a victim of domestic abuse. That you had been "forced" to give him up. If I had one thing in all of this, I'd want people to see what really happened here. ya know, I can't change it. I mean, I would if I could. Folks, I never lied to you. I am not a therapist, psychologist, or any other thing. I lay blame on myself every. damn. day. that I couldn't handle a person who was truly sick. I do, wish I could have convinced him that, from the bottom of my soul, just exit. Sadly, it will never happen like that.

stef -> RE: Serious question (11/11/2015 7:17:18 PM)
If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck...

LadyPact -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 2:25:25 AM)
<fast reply.> Folks, it's ok, and it's not. ***REMOVED***

M38284 -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 3:18:35 AM)
If you have a problem with someone, bring it to moderation. DO NOT post long diatribes on the forum about other members, true or not. It's not OK to handle such things in public, rather than simply mentioning to someone who was not here for the first round that there could be issues, and let us handle things.

TNDommeK -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 4:28:24 AM)
I'm so confused. This was a clusterfuck. Also I thought "hoe" was a garden tool. To the op, proceed with caution. Clearly there are all types of women on these forums with different opinions. So it's a roll of the dice. My advise:no. Don't ask if she's into BDSM. I would more so go with Aakasha or Awareness's suggestions. Both work.

HAK1M -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 4:57:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK I'm so confused. This was a clusterfuck. Also I thought "hoe" was a garden tool. To the op, proceed with caution. Clearly there are all types of women on these forums with different opinions. So it's a roll of the dice. My advise:no. Don't ask if she's into BDSM. I would more so go with Aakasha or Awareness's suggestions. Both work. Now we are getting somewhere. ..

MisterP61 -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 12:35:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: M38284 If you have a problem with someone, bring it to moderation. DO NOT post long diatribes on the forum about other members, true or not. It's not OK to handle such things in public, rather than simply mentioning to someone who was not here for the first round that there could be issues, and let us handle things. Sorry, but you are way wrong here. This should be done in public because he did it in public, and still does this shit in public and you let him. Not a fucking dirty little secret and if you want it to be kept in the dark there is something really wrong with your perception of what is and isn't acceptable.

HAK1M -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 1:01:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 quote: ORIGINAL: M38284 If you have a problem with someone, bring it to moderation. DO NOT post long diatribes on the forum about other members, true or not. It's not OK to handle such things in public, rather than simply mentioning to someone who was not here for the first round that there could be issues, and let us handle things. Sorry, but you are way wrong here. This should be done in public because he did it in public, and still does this shit in public and you let him. Not a fucking dirty little secret and if you want it to be kept in the dark there is something really wrong with your perception of what is and isn't acceptable. I know LP is very concerned about other people violating the TOS. You should be concerned as well. So why you insist on challenging the Mod on a decision he made and clearly stated it was off topic.

LadyPact -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 1:20:56 PM)
I'm concerned about people violating the law. I'm concerned about people harming others. Always have been. Always will be. This new policy about just outright deleting comments? I can't abide by it. What happens the next time someone has to take their stalker, assaulter, or rapist to court? So, the records are just gone?

LadyPact -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 1:30:52 PM)
There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers Than those of us who are willing to fall Because we have learned how to rise. With skinned knees and bruised hearts; We choose owning our stories of struggle, Over hiding, over hustling, over pretending. When we deny our stories, they define us. When we run from struggle, we are never free. So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye. We will not be characters in our stories. Not villains, not victims, not even heroes. We are the authors of our lives. We write our own daring endings. We craft love from heartbreak, Compassion from shame, Grace from disappointment, Courage from failure. Showing up is our power. Story is our way home. Truth is our song. We are the brave and brokenhearted. We are rising strong. B. Brown.

dcnovice -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 1:40:01 PM)
What a great poem! Thanks, LP. [:)]

HAK1M -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 1:45:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I'm concerned about people violating the law. I'm concerned about people harming others. Always have been. Always will be. This new policy about just outright deleting comments? I can't abide by it. What happens the next time someone has to take their stalker, assaulter, or rapist to court? So, the records are just gone? are you concerned about jackasses breaking the immigration law of your country? ... and you state that you cannot abide by the new policy after you agreed to it. I'm confused. I guess that's exactly how the "above the law" folks think.

thompsonx -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 1:51:04 PM)
ORIGINAL: Bhruic To me, this sounds as safe as asking a woman if she is pregnant. I am not as agile as I once was so I never ask that.

thompsonx -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 1:52:55 PM)
ORIGINAL: Bunnicula ...or offering the 'pensioners' seat to someone on a crowded bus, only for them to loudly protest that they were only 40...a decade younger than me! true story Are you sure you were not offering a seat on your lap?[:D]

HAK1M -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 2:48:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thompsonx ORIGINAL: Bunnicula ...or offering the 'pensioners' seat to someone on a crowded bus, only for them to loudly protest that they were only 40...a decade younger than me! true story Are you sure you were not offering a seat on your lap?[:D] Today, been negotiating the price with one of the "hot "Atlanta mistresses , for hours. Ouuuuf!. She asked for $150 an hour, but I finally could talk her down to accept $60. Funny mistresses. She is expecting me in 2 hours from now, I think I will just bring $40 and show up.[:D]

LadyPact -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 4:56:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HAK1M are you concerned about jackasses breaking the immigration law of your country? ... and you state that you cannot abide by the new policy after you agreed to it. I'm confused. I guess that's exactly how the "above the law" folks think. If you're trying to refer to Ish, it didn't go that way. Very few people actually impress me. She did. If you go back through the search feature, you can find the thread where she talked about all of the INS stuff. At the time, I'd been married to MP for twelve years or so. I don't know if I could have proved our relationship. I mean, anybody walking into our house can see our wedding pictures on the wall. Did we have pictures together before that? Nope.

MisterP61 -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 6:04:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HAK1M quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 quote: ORIGINAL: M38284 If you have a problem with someone, bring it to moderation. DO NOT post long diatribes on the forum about other members, true or not. It's not OK to handle such things in public, rather than simply mentioning to someone who was not here for the first round that there could be issues, and let us handle things. Sorry, but you are way wrong here. This should be done in public because he did it in public, and still does this shit in public and you let him. Not a fucking dirty little secret and if you want it to be kept in the dark there is something really wrong with your perception of what is and isn't acceptable. I know LP is very concerned about other people violating the TOS. You should be concerned as well. So why you insist on challenging the Mod on a decision he made and clearly stated it was off topic. Let me tell you something cupcake. I have for over 20 years defended the right to free speech. Not you, or any other person will EVER tell me I can or cannot say (or in this case type) what I think, feel and believe. You obviously just post things to be an ass, which is fine, but do yourself and Me a favor... Do not presume that you have any sway over Me. I can guarantee if the Mod wants to say something to Me they will. They do not need your "help".

HAK1M -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 6:23:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: HAK1M are you concerned about jackasses breaking the immigration law of your country? ... and you state that you cannot abide by the new policy after you agreed to it. I'm confused. I guess that's exactly how the "above the law" folks think. If you're trying to refer to Ish, it didn't go that way. Very few people actually impress me. She did. If you go back through the search feature, you can find the thread where she talked about all of the INS stuff. At the time, I'd been married to MP for twelve years or so. I don't know if I could have proved our relationship. I mean, anybody walking into our house can see our wedding pictures on the wall. Did we have pictures together before that? Nope. Yes, I am referring to the people who , willingly and unlawfully broke the immigration law. It does not matter who or how as far as the law is broken. The notion that no one is above the law was popular during the founding of the United States. And it is not just a slogan. I am not feeding this country breakfast every morning for some random european welfare. I am not going to copy and paste the drivel where she admittedly stated that if her visa had not been in jeopardy she would have never thought about entering in a mariage with a man whom she did not even love. The thread is " people are entitled " last couple pages. Immigration law has been amended a couple times in the last 20 years. It used to be INS until early 2003 when it became USCIS.but was altered regarding entering in a fraudulent mariage to evade immigration law. So no matter how you may look at it " apparently you don't care" it is always regarded as a felony by law. CRIMINALS GET NO RESPECT IN THIS SOCIETY

HAK1M -> RE: Serious question (11/12/2015 6:34:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 quote: ORIGINAL: HAK1M quote: ORIGINAL: MisterP61 quote: ORIGINAL: M38284 If you have a problem with someone, bring it to moderation. DO NOT post long diatribes on the forum about other members, true or not. It's not OK to handle such things in public, rather than simply mentioning to someone who was not here for the first round that there could be issues, and let us handle things. Sorry, but you are way wrong here. This should be done in public because he did it in public, and still does this shit in public and you let him. Not a fucking dirty little secret and if you want it to be kept in the dark there is something really wrong with your perception of what is and isn't acceptable. I know LP is very concerned about other people violating the TOS. You should be concerned as well. So why you insist on challenging the Mod on a decision he made and clearly stated it was off topic. Let me tell you something cupcake. I have for over 20 years defended the right to free speech. Not you, or any other person will EVER tell me I can or cannot say (or in this case type) what I think, feel and believe. You obviously just post things to be an ass, which is fine, but do yourself and Me a favor... Do not presume that you have any sway over Me. I can guarantee if the Mod wants to say something to Me they will. They do not need your "help". I agree with you in few points here. If you are for the freedom of speech , then I am also on the front line defending the freedom of speech not only here on the forum, but in the god damn streets, events and public places, and I got arrested protesting for the Obama care project last year.LOL. I also agree the Mod does not need my help. And since you understand this part , can you do me a favor and tell your wife the Mod does not need any help from

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Serious question (11/13/2015 2:30:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact If you're trying to refer to Ish, it didn't go that way. Very few people actually impress me. She did. If you go back through the search feature, you can find the thread where she talked about all of the INS stuff. At the time, I'd been married to MP for twelve years or so. I don't know if I could have proved our relationship. I mean, anybody walking into our house can see our wedding pictures on the wall. Did we have pictures together before that? Nope. Joint everything accounts, ranging from credit cards to magazine subscriptions, 6 months -then 12, then 34- months worth of family shots with his kids, and family, during all sorts of holidays, letters of recommendation submitted by over a dozen of his relatives, statements signed by him taking financial responsibility for me for 10 years, months worth of joint receipts, including dates, plane tickets, etc, over 100 pages of paperwork, including a detailed history, of how we met, how long we dated, etc. Not a single person cared about whether we loved each other or not. In fact the only time the 'love' issue was brought up was when taking standard vows during the government wedding (which we could have entirely avoided by writing our own vows but didn't bother to do). All that USCIS required was that we showed that we were in a committed relationship with each other (which is the only requirement for a marriage visa, love isn't). They didn't give a fuck why we were in a committed relationship. We passed all 3 reviews with flying colors, to the point that we were exempt from the home inspection part. Neither of us lied at any point in the review, and the ONLY relevant detail that was omitted was on which specific online dating site we met.

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