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alpha499 -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 1:05:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Bunnicula


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ORIGINAL: Faldegast

While it's of course useful if everyone always are clear enough for everyone to correctly interpret what they are saying, it cannot be expected of anyone.

Even people that has entire staffs of people clarifying their communication still gets misinterpreted.

Then they need to hire better staff - if they cannot communicate what they want to say, then that's their problem, not the reader's. HE MEANS IT CAN GET MISINTERPRETTED SOMETIMES NOT ALWAYS.

And why you have a point that's not that clear cut. Many still believe that "might makes right" and there are good arguments for it.

They can believe what they want - 'stronger and/or richer' just means they are in a better position to bully, it doesn't make them right.IT IS NOT ABOUT WRONG OR RIGHT, IT IS ABOUT SOMETHING HAPPENING AND IN FULL EFFECT. LIKE HE TRIED TO EXPLAIN TO YOU AND FAILED. JUST LIKE I FAILED TO EXPLAIN TO YOU A VERY SIMPLE STATEMENT, LIKE THE SMOKING EXAMPLE HE GAVE YOU, IF SOMEONE DRIVES 15 MILES AT 3:00 AM TO GO BUY CIGARETTES DOES THIS MAKE THEM WRONG? THE PROBLEM IS YOU, AND MANY OTHERS LIKE YOU, CAN D WHAT THEY EXPECT ONLY UNDERSTAN.

Generally money is a reward for social contribution and there is a point in favouring those that contribute more to society.


So teachers, nurses, fire fighters, armed forces, paramedics, do not contribute as much to society as someone who sells videogames or mansions? Yeah, that makes sense...[8|]
THIS IS A FACT ..........SOMEONE RICHER IS CONTRIBUTING MORE TO THE SOCIETY AND ......SMARTER.

Also there is a strong correlation between income and knowledge, intelligence and skill.

So there aren't people who are intelligent, knowledgeable and highly skilled who chose to 'give back' to society without demanding a high wage? Yeah....no.

Even when the income comes from inherited money. Statistically it is more likely that someone richer than you are right and you are wrong.

That made me LOL! So, where are these 'statistics'?


"Winning" a debate doesn't mean that you are right. The other party may simply have inferior ability to express their knowledge.

Which is a point I was trying to make - if they can't communicate properly then they aren't going to win anything because they lack clarity and precision of thought.
MAY BE IT IS NOT CLARITY THEY LACK, MAY BE THEY ARE BEATING A DEAD HORSE.

Some rich people may be perceived as self-obsessed narcissistic assholes. However there are contradictions in that statement. Self obsessed people are rarely narcissistic in an entrepreneural sense, that's engaging in social improvement which are the opposite of being self obsessed. Also you imply that being narcissistic assholes are somehow something bad.
We clearly move in very different circles. The 'successful' businesspeople I have worked with across Europe and the US were, on the whole, assholes who only cared about themselves, their career and the money they were making. Sad, really.

Also you imply that being narcissistic assholes are somehow something bad.

Being an asshole is not a good thing. It means you're an asshole. Being a narcissistic asshole is just polishing that particular turd a little.


If you are a smoker intent on continuing habits you will find that a lot of people are narcissistic assholes. You may as well perceive them to be self-obsessed because they interfere with your choices. Does that make them so? Well they are probably partially complaining out of your impact on their own wellbeing. Does that make people self obsessed when complaining at others smoking habits? Partially. Are people narcissistic? Yeah they probably want to control the smoker to the degree that the habit is eliminated. I know I do, sometimes such as in public transportation my imagination carries away into quite hostile thoughts. I never act on them of course but they still are narcissistic. And finally if I point out that someone shouldn't smoke, am i an asshole? Yes. Is it wrong for me to be any of this?

Smoking is a nice example because most of us know how harmful it is and the smell makes it easy to detect. The impact of other choices you make on the wellbeing on others are less obvious to detect. If someone points it out because they smell the smoke and you don't you may classify their behaviour in another way than you would classify someone that complaints about smoking. That classifies you as a hypocrite.

I couldn't care less if people smoke, as long as they don't do it near me. I don't see them as narcissistic, I see them as addicts. Whether or not they are assholes too is entirely down to the invididual.
LOOKS BETTER THIS WAY AINT IT ?







LadyConstanze -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 1:19:02 PM)

OMG, I feel so bad now, I suspected my washing machine of eating my socks, now I realize they all have been turned into sock puppets....




LadyConstanze -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 1:29:43 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DAJOKER


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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

OMG, I feel so bad now, I suspected my washing machine of eating my socks, now I realize they all have been turned into sock puppets....

My socks cycle.. from the store .on my feet. To the trash can. Bad habit huh . I never washed my socks . I just throw them away.


And some of them magically end up as puppets?




Bunnicula -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 1:41:11 PM)

yawn...




LadyConstanze -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 2:18:17 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DAJOKER


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ORIGINAL: Bunnicula

yawn...

Is it very offensive to the trolls if you tell them they were not trolls? .



Bless your heart and your cotton socks




LadyConstanze -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 2:27:25 PM)

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mnottertail -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 2:34:15 PM)

93 BF ................ nah, ain't got time.




stef -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 2:46:03 PM)

DaMoron needs to get DaLife.




freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 3:03:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DAJOKER
The fact that you have been moderated under alpha299 and are posting under the sock names of alpha499 and JOK3R in order to circumvent your moderation is in breach of ToS (section 7.2.5).
you are definitely good on a boring, slow and rainy day.
I remember a sock called freedomdwarf. was that sock you by a chance? yes that was you. and now you are posting under the sock freedomdwarf1. i am confused, what happened to section 7.2.5 when you cloned your original sock freedomdwarf after it got banned?. was that section in effect back then? does that section apply to you? have you violated that same section you are now supporting? ... last question, tell me. when you think, do you use your upper head or the lower one.

If you were old enough to remember that, then you will also remember that there was a 2 MONTH gap between the first and the second profile and they never overlapped let alone posted in the same thread under FOUR (4) different socks!!!!!




CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 3:59:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: J0K3ER
is it considered appropriate behavior to approach that woman decently, introduce yourself and ask her if she is into BDSM, i focus on the last part of the question which is ((( if she is into BDSM ))). and i will certainly consider your points of view.


In West Virginia, and possibly for most of the states in the USA, this would never happen. When going to play parties in a private home or in a larger place that can accommodate hundreds of people...we are told not to dress in a way that would "out" other party goers, that when we're outside, we're not to dress in a way "that would scare grandma".

If a woman were all dressed up like this to go to a man's home for a scene, it's very likely that at least one of his neighbors would phone the cops and report prostitution. Or they'd phone their preacher and the whole congregation would show up on the offending person's lawn to help perform an exorcism, because anybody dressing up like that must be infested with demons and anybody wanting someone to abuse them must be mentally ill or under demonic influence.

The only exception I can think of...would be for a Halloween party, IF other women are dressing up as Elvira, lady pirates, Princess Leia in her slave girl outfit (with her date dressed as Han Solo or whatever), etc. The preacher still might show up though, or the neighbors might show up with booze and insist on joining the party (which would wreck any plans for scening). [:D]


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I got your point but the question is "what if"? . what if she was into BDSM and was looking for some quick hook up.


No Domme EVER needs to dress up in fetish gear and go out among vanillas to get a quick hook up.

I'm 51, I live in a small town in the middle of nowhere, my ass is almost big as Jabba the Hutt, and I'm gimpy...and yet I still get more offers than I could handle even if I cloned myself a dozen times. If I were thin and in my 30's and loved to dress in fetish clothes...! Even when I was 39 and early 40's I'd get more than a hundred guys writing to me per week and trying their best to get me to meet up with them. I would never need to out myself in public by dressing up in fetish clothes to get a quick hook up.

Another point or two I want to make. Some men might fantasize about women (strangers) walking up to them saying, "Hey baby, you look HOT! Can we go to a motel room and f*ck? I'll even pay for the motel room!" But this isn't Pornworld, this is planet Earth, and women aren't flattered by this kind of attention.

Treating a stranger like she's a hooker or even a free hooker is not flattering; it's degrading.

A woman pumping gasoline into her car while all dressed up like Hollywood's idea of the perfect Domme...is likely a vanilla on her way to a party or to some sci-fi convention. Let her have her fun. If you enjoy the view, don't wreck her sense of security, just smile and count yourself lucky to have seen something you don't get to see every day. Make her uncomfortable and it might be the last time she ever gets dolled up.




Lucylastic -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 5:10:28 PM)

I have to wonder if any of our poor innocent and ignorant [sm=smoking.gif] suck poppets wrote this as a boy.



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DocStrange -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 5:13:52 PM)

Lucy, you give the sock puppet way too much credit. That vocabulary is way above the sock's capability :)


edited to add:
think more on the lines of kids throwing temper tantrums




Lucylastic -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 5:22:24 PM)

well Im being generous. I dont wanna give the mods any more work to do...




OsideGirl -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 7:41:57 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

well Im being generous. I dont wanna give the mods any more work to do...



I have so many on ignore. The Mod needs to do some work.




crazyml -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 9:10:44 PM)

Ah yes, it's true that mental health is an important issue. I hope for your sake that your participation on these boards his helping you deal with whatever crippling self-esteem issues you have.




Lucylastic -> RE: Serious question (10/28/2015 9:58:25 PM)

Its obviously a french thing.....[:D]




stef -> RE: Serious question (10/29/2015 1:47:44 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

Its obviously a french thing.....[:D]


He certainly gives new meaning to the term french dip.




LadyPact -> RE: Serious question (10/29/2015 5:28:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
I have so many on ignore. The Mod needs to do some work.

Unfortunately, I don't think it's going to go this way.

Kind of sad, really.





Awareness -> RE: Serious question (10/29/2015 6:10:07 AM)

You can approach any woman at pretty much any time provided you're socially adept and can charm them with conversation.

You appear to lack the social skills to do that. I'd suggest you focus on improving them.

If I wanted to talk to such a woman, I'd make eye contact, raise an eyebrow and quip, "Nice outfit."

All social interactions are effectively seeds. You sow them and see what happens. Some will flourish, some won't. Accept either outcome with equanimity.




zombiegurlsos -> RE: Serious question (10/29/2015 7:08:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

well Im being generous. I dont wanna give the mods any more work to do...



I have so many on ignore. The Mod needs to do some work.



Well just stop putting so many on ignore....., problem solved.... have a ok day...




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