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RE: Safe, Sane and Consensual - 7/19/2006 8:17:51 PM

ownedgirlie

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Hi Noah,

I have actually never taken offense to the "X." To me it is simply a lazy way of spelling Christian, Christmas, etc. Perhaps some do it not out of laziness, however, but simply use abbreviations because they are easy.

Regardless, to each their own. I was just bored the other day so went on a research spree while stuck at home. I'm weird like that. :)

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RE: Safe, Sane and Consensual - 7/19/2006 8:28:29 PM

tabularasa

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The only reason I have a problem with it is because it is almost exactly the same as the Romanized spelling of the ancient Chinese capital Xi'an. As is, it could mean "line" in Chinese. So I was confused reading the post. I try to limit my OCD-ness about the English language, but if some abbreviation creates confusion on some level, I think it's worth it to stick with the standard.

Sorry for linguistic digression.

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RE: Safe, Sane and Consensual - 7/19/2006 8:35:11 PM

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I apologize for not reading 3-plus pages of replies, but the answer, as I understand it, hadn't made the first page.

'Sane', also to mean 'in one's right mind', has always meant the discouragement of either party of using drugs or alcohol. If the submissive is not in this state, then he/she might not be able to defend themselves or discern when to use safe words. If the dominant is not in this state, then their actions might not be as responsible as they should be.

I would expect that a lot of people do not feel that they need to be absolutely strict about this, but for the most part I have always held to that particular 'S'. I used to have a relationship with a submissive who felt the need to drink heavily, and still wanted to play. Knowing that I could go further with pain play sounded like a rush, but in reality playing with her at all was just no fun.

Jeff

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