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domincalifornia -> RE: Double Standards (1/17/2016 11:45:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom

Both men and women are accused of double standards.

I was texting with a woman and she wanted to know how tall I was. I told her 6'. She said that is acceptable. She is 5' 11" so she only wants to date men who are 6' or taller.

I asked her how much does she weigh? She said, "What!?"
I told her when she gets on the scale, what is the digital number that appears?

She told me I'm rude and shallow - what does weight have anything to do with anything?
I told her I'm fit so I want to only date fit women. She then cussed me out.




I was surprised you are 34. By the time I was in my 30s, it was no surprise that people are hypocrites, maintain double standards, or that women are sensitive about their weight.




stef -> RE: Double Standards (1/18/2016 1:31:35 AM)


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ORIGINAL: domincalifornia

I was surprised you are 34. By the time I was in my 30s, it was no surprise that people are hypocrites, maintain double standards, or that women are sensitive about their weight.

To be fair, he's likely not 34, musclebound, a dom or any of the other things he claims to be.




NookieNotes -> RE: Double Standards (1/18/2016 3:11:10 AM)

I don't find weight to be a sensitive matter at all. Why would I? Men will either find me attractive or not. If they don't, that's fine. Many do.

For the record, I am 5'6". I weigh 160 pounds. I am a US size 10-12 right now, with measurements: 38C-30-43.

So, curvy, bottom heavy, and all me.

I also prefer men who are 5'10" or taller. And men who are in excellent physical shape. That's my preference. Luckily, some of those guys also prefer me (worship me, yay!), and we get along mentally as well, so I'm a happy camper.

Those who don't find me attractive for any reason:

  • They prefer blond hair...
  • I'm too fat...
  • I'm too skinny (yes! I get that, too)...
  • I'm too pale (living near the coast)...
  • I'm too old...
  • I'm too young...
  • My tits are too small...

    Don't matter. The ones who do find me attractive do.

    I don't understand the hubub. No one is universally desired by everyone, for either physical or mental reasons.




  • MariaB -> RE: Double Standards (1/18/2016 2:44:30 PM)

    We all have our sensitivities. Some people are just more sensitive than others.
    I'm pretty certain I asked Steve his weight before we met because although I don't mind skinny to plumpish, if he'd been bigger than plumpish I know he wouldn't of been my type and we all have a type don't we?
    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped [:D]




    Kana -> RE: Double Standards (1/18/2016 2:50:24 PM)

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    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped

    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.




    Wayward5oul -> RE: Double Standards (1/18/2016 4:40:26 PM)


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    ORIGINAL: Kana

    quote:

    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped

    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.

    That is so wrong on so many levels.




    sambowogambo -> RE: Double Standards. In this forum there are multiple standards regretably (1/20/2016 6:05:05 AM)

    What I write here many malevolent personalities will call mumbo jumbo. That is a term concocted by the former Bwana, white colonial rulers of my beloved country, South Africa. We served two masters, one the British were firm yet fair, and they governed well. The other, the Dutch Afrikaner were racist genocidists and blatant segregationists, just like the religious bigots of the USA southern states. Now we rule ourselves despite some blatantly corrupt opportunist politicians often repeating the Afrikaner methods.
    This will fall upon deaf ears and the three wise monkeys will be joined by the three mischievous monkeys. I fully realize that my appeal will be vilified by antagonists and that the Moderators will do absolutely nothing whatsoever in the form of censure to the perpetrators. Most probably the messenger relaying the true facts will be victimized and penalized and the perpetrators be permitted to continue their vile rhetoric. This has happened before when the website owners placed out advertisements for moderators and the advertisements made it clear that fairness and impartiality were necessary. They hired a number of individuals who collectively conspired to cause multiple problems for the forums and the website. They were partisan and never moderated the forums in any fair and impartial manner. If a person disagreed with something the moderators supported are believed then that person was barred permanently from the message boards. That was contrary to the websites policies but the moderators concerned breached website protocols frequently.No warning, no appeal. Also they found that their account could not be accessed by others and at times even themselves. Many complained to the management who did nothing for several years until they realized that certain people were actually contributing to the websites ill reputation and profit loss. They then took action. The criminal element within collarspace was removed from office. They were replaced by new moderators. These new ones are fairer but also often very ineffective. They fail to realize that the self same group of malevolent individuals who include the former moderators and employees are the self same ones who frequently click onto the report button and complain about mostly innocent threads. These same malevolent individuals conspire daily to cause trouble in the forums. The accuse many of being trolls and sock puppets, few they accuse actually are such. Any sock puppets that exist do so because of the behaviour of those malevolent individuals. In order to try to justify their otherwise suspect behaviour they use terms like troll and sock to justify the vile and obnoxious comment attacks upon people.
    The TOS are guidelines relating to online user conduct. They are written legalize that cannot really be enforced. Owners, employees, moderators, and members regularly ignore the TOS but only a minority are penalized for doing so and this signifies selected victimization of certain individuals and the majority are permitted to continue with the bullying, intimidation and victimization without censure.
    These forums are visited 24/7/365 by people from around the world. They each come from different cultures that exhibit different attitudes and toleration levels to anyone who does not think and act likes them. The reality is we are all from diverse backgrounds. We have been shaped by our environment. One man’s meat is another man’s poison. We are never all going to agree with all topics on the forums but we must each respect other people’s perspectives even if they are blatantly wrong. We, ourselves, can be wrong at times and therefore should comprehend that being wrong is a human trait failing. Some of us are good at certain things and bad at others. Nobody excels at everything. Many are intolerant of spelling, punctuation and grammar mistakes, but may themselves be inadequate when it comes to Arithmetic let alone mathematics. How quick we all are to condemn others for failings we may share. None of us are perfect because like infinity perfection cannot be attained, we can only aspire to attain. Politics and Religion conspire to divide people so we are easier to control and manipulate. We are lied to daily but it is dressed as truth but has no foundation and cannot stand up to inquisitive scrutiny. There are several competing sets of malevolent troublemakers frequenting these boards. They loathe each other and they each create multiple sock puppets to mock each other and annoy innocent thread starters. They think that they alone are the only ones entitled to use the forums as a private message exchange and they do not tolerate anyone they see as being another interloper. They each claim one person alone is responsible for all the trolls and socks. To use a British Expression, ‘I should Cocoa’ are ‘It’s just not Cricket’. I doubt if anyone has the time to create thousands of such cyber entities it is frankly far too much trouble. Several rival sets of troublemakers sure have the time and indeed, are actively engaged in doing so as you read these very words. If you were to waste time and remain awake and observe these boards you would witness that many appear never to be offline are even sleep much. They are constantly writing to their online friends and allies and also constantly attacking their online enemies and many new to the forum threads starters. They are always vile in their comments.
    Moderators wakey, wakey, rise and shine. Do your jobs it’s what you volunteered for. Watch out for the serial reporter complaining about people without real foundation. Members report anyone who aimlessly attacks someone’s thread when the thread starter has not been rude are aggressive. If you do nothing then the message boards will deteriorate to a level of the kindergarten and not be worth entering. So report any and every vile comment and attack against a person who is a not being rude and obnoxious and they can be moderated and the boards will benefit. Do not let the malevolent few make malicious reports and go without challenge. I have sown the seeds and await the harvest. I have sown the wind and await the whirlwind. Moderator if you read this take heed of it and act rationally and fairly. See who the serial reporters are and ignore them unless they can justify their complaint




    MariaB -> RE: Double Standards (1/20/2016 8:14:45 AM)


    quote:

    ORIGINAL: Kana

    quote:

    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped

    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.


    Spits my coffee [:D]




    OsideGirl -> RE: Double Standards (1/20/2016 1:50:20 PM)


    quote:

    ORIGINAL: Kana

    quote:

    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped

    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.

    We need like buttons.




    MissKatya -> RE: Double Standards (1/20/2016 5:51:44 PM)


    quote:


    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.


    On the positive side, it would take pegging to new levels.





    SWDesertDom -> RE: Double Standards (1/20/2016 8:42:51 PM)

    My standards are of the utmost importance to me, and critical to my well being and happiness. Yours are shallow and foolish.

    That being said, if you don't like short guys, I'd love to know before I get on the plane to fly across the country and meet you (no, I'm not lying about my height in my profile).




    Greta75 -> RE: Double Standards (1/21/2016 2:10:00 AM)

    I really like overweight men ALOT. They feel really nice to hug. And I could probably take a very high level of obesity for a man. And be very attracted to him. Once I hug this dude that was 6'5 and a crazy and ridiculously skinny 150lbs. I remembered stroking his back, and all I felt was strumming the bones on his back. It creep me out and it was like stroking a skeleton. The worst problem with him is that, he didn't think he was skinny, he thought he could lose more weight. I was like if he loses any more weight......, his gonna be like concentration starvation camp victims. Anyway, typical chinese male, they always love to be stick skeletor thin as seemingly the physique to aim for. But personality wise, we got along so well, and could hang out and talk all day. But I decided, I can't even sleep with him. My physical preferences got in the way.




    cloudboy -> RE: Double Standards (1/26/2016 5:33:36 PM)


    That's pretty funny.




    cloudboy -> RE: Double Standards (1/26/2016 5:39:32 PM)


    I don't know about his greater posting record, but you seem to be overreacting here IMO. I have not seen anything approaching misogyny.




    TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Double Standards (1/26/2016 6:54:04 PM)

    Honestly, I am usually very self-conscious about my weight but I can appreciate where you are coming from. Men who are average or below average in height are probably just as sensitive. Everyone has there Achilles heel. Don't think I would have responded the same way she did. There is a certain level of expected reciprocity when you ask a sensitive question.




    OsideGirl -> RE: Double Standards (1/26/2016 9:12:20 PM)


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    ORIGINAL: cloudboy


    I don't know about his greater posting record, but you seem to be overreacting here IMO. I have not seen anything approaching misogyny.

    If you look at the overall posting history it becomes more apparent.




    respectmen -> RE: Double Standards (1/28/2016 9:38:06 PM)

    What I see a lot is that overweight women are usually praised while overweight men are deemed nothing more than fat losers.

    There is BBW appreciation and admiration all over the place. Just do one google search on BBW and there will be endless results that show admiration for BBWs. There are even beauty pageants for BBWs. Not to mention, even SSBBWs would get more admiration on this site than the average male.

    Does such appreciation exist for overweight men? Fuck no.

    Another round of applause for female privilege.




    sexyred1 -> RE: Double Standards (1/28/2016 9:44:38 PM)

    That's bull. There are many people who love BHM and places, sites, events, that cater to larger men.




    respectmen -> RE: Double Standards (1/28/2016 9:57:39 PM)

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    There are many people who love BHM and places, sites, events, that cater to larger men.


    Probably mostly or only when its related to BBWs. On it's own???

    I just did a google search on BBW, it came up with 91,200,000 results. Some results may have BBW in them but mean something else. As it seems though when looking through it, the vast majority of results mean exactly big women. On the other hand, I did a google search on BHM. I got 15,200,000 results. Huge difference! Not to mention, when you skim through the results of BHM, half to most of it is meaning something else and not big men.

    I can do a fetlife search on both if you want and tell you the results. I would expect a huge difference there too.

    Oh and I am yet to see a beauty pageant for big men.




    dreamlady -> RE: Double Standards (1/28/2016 10:43:10 PM)


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    ORIGINAL: respectmen

    Oh and I am yet to see a beauty pageant for big men.

    Gitdafohkouttahere! You don't just have a classic case of womb envy, you have pussy envy. Chronic pussy envy.

    You have sexual objectification envy that only someone who has not experienced (non-consensual, or even consensually it would appear,) sexual objectification at the hands of others would entertain in that feeble little brain of yours.

    I'm not going to pull any punches with you, or humor you. Do you really think that beauty pageants epitomize the height of public appreciation for a woman's true value or celebrate her individual worth?

    You want to hold a beauty pageant for large men, knock yourself out. Put your money where your mouth is.


    DreamLady




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