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RE: Double Standards - 1/17/2016 11:45:06 PM   
domincalifornia


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Both men and women are accused of double standards.

I was texting with a woman and she wanted to know how tall I was. I told her 6'. She said that is acceptable. She is 5' 11" so she only wants to date men who are 6' or taller.

I asked her how much does she weigh? She said, "What!?"
I told her when she gets on the scale, what is the digital number that appears?

She told me I'm rude and shallow - what does weight have anything to do with anything?
I told her I'm fit so I want to only date fit women. She then cussed me out.




I was surprised you are 34. By the time I was in my 30s, it was no surprise that people are hypocrites, maintain double standards, or that women are sensitive about their weight.

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RE: Double Standards - 1/18/2016 1:31:35 AM   
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I was surprised you are 34. By the time I was in my 30s, it was no surprise that people are hypocrites, maintain double standards, or that women are sensitive about their weight.

To be fair, he's likely not 34, musclebound, a dom or any of the other things he claims to be.

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RE: Double Standards - 1/18/2016 3:11:10 AM   
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I don't find weight to be a sensitive matter at all. Why would I? Men will either find me attractive or not. If they don't, that's fine. Many do.

For the record, I am 5'6". I weigh 160 pounds. I am a US size 10-12 right now, with measurements: 38C-30-43.

So, curvy, bottom heavy, and all me.

I also prefer men who are 5'10" or taller. And men who are in excellent physical shape. That's my preference. Luckily, some of those guys also prefer me (worship me, yay!), and we get along mentally as well, so I'm a happy camper.

Those who don't find me attractive for any reason:

  • They prefer blond hair...
  • I'm too fat...
  • I'm too skinny (yes! I get that, too)...
  • I'm too pale (living near the coast)...
  • I'm too old...
  • I'm too young...
  • My tits are too small...

    Don't matter. The ones who do find me attractive do.

    I don't understand the hubub. No one is universally desired by everyone, for either physical or mental reasons.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/18/2016 2:44:30 PM   
    MariaB


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    We all have our sensitivities. Some people are just more sensitive than others.
    I'm pretty certain I asked Steve his weight before we met because although I don't mind skinny to plumpish, if he'd been bigger than plumpish I know he wouldn't of been my type and we all have a type don't we?
    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/18/2016 2:50:24 PM   
    Kana


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    quote:

    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped

    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/18/2016 4:40:26 PM   
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    quote:

    ORIGINAL: Kana

    quote:

    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped

    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.

    That is so wrong on so many levels.

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    RE: Double Standards. In this forum there are multiple ... - 1/20/2016 6:05:05 AM   
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    RE: Double Standards - 1/20/2016 8:14:45 AM   
    MariaB


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    quote:

    ORIGINAL: Kana

    quote:

    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped

    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.


    Spits my coffee

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/20/2016 1:50:20 PM   
    OsideGirl


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    quote:

    ORIGINAL: Kana

    quote:

    Remember the midget I met because I forgot to ask his height. If I'd asked his weight and he'd told me he was only 80lbs the penny might of dropped

    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.

    We need like buttons.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/20/2016 5:51:44 PM   
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    quote:


    Hey, don't feel bad. I once met a chick with no hands.
    never thought to ask that.
    I looked down at my handcuffs and wanted to weep.


    On the positive side, it would take pegging to new levels.



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    RE: Double Standards - 1/20/2016 8:42:51 PM   
    SWDesertDom


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    My standards are of the utmost importance to me, and critical to my well being and happiness. Yours are shallow and foolish.

    That being said, if you don't like short guys, I'd love to know before I get on the plane to fly across the country and meet you (no, I'm not lying about my height in my profile).

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/21/2016 2:10:00 AM   
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    I really like overweight men ALOT. They feel really nice to hug. And I could probably take a very high level of obesity for a man. And be very attracted to him. Once I hug this dude that was 6'5 and a crazy and ridiculously skinny 150lbs. I remembered stroking his back, and all I felt was strumming the bones on his back. It creep me out and it was like stroking a skeleton. The worst problem with him is that, he didn't think he was skinny, he thought he could lose more weight. I was like if he loses any more weight......, his gonna be like concentration starvation camp victims. Anyway, typical chinese male, they always love to be stick skeletor thin as seemingly the physique to aim for. But personality wise, we got along so well, and could hang out and talk all day. But I decided, I can't even sleep with him. My physical preferences got in the way.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/26/2016 5:33:36 PM   
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    That's pretty funny.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/26/2016 5:39:32 PM   
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    I don't know about his greater posting record, but you seem to be overreacting here IMO. I have not seen anything approaching misogyny.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/26/2016 6:54:04 PM   
    TieMeInKnottss


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    Honestly, I am usually very self-conscious about my weight but I can appreciate where you are coming from. Men who are average or below average in height are probably just as sensitive. Everyone has there Achilles heel. Don't think I would have responded the same way she did. There is a certain level of expected reciprocity when you ask a sensitive question.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/26/2016 9:12:20 PM   
    OsideGirl


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    ORIGINAL: cloudboy


    I don't know about his greater posting record, but you seem to be overreacting here IMO. I have not seen anything approaching misogyny.

    If you look at the overall posting history it becomes more apparent.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/28/2016 9:38:06 PM   
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    What I see a lot is that overweight women are usually praised while overweight men are deemed nothing more than fat losers.

    There is BBW appreciation and admiration all over the place. Just do one google search on BBW and there will be endless results that show admiration for BBWs. There are even beauty pageants for BBWs. Not to mention, even SSBBWs would get more admiration on this site than the average male.

    Does such appreciation exist for overweight men? Fuck no.

    Another round of applause for female privilege.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/28/2016 9:44:38 PM   
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    That's bull. There are many people who love BHM and places, sites, events, that cater to larger men.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/28/2016 9:57:39 PM   
    respectmen


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    quote:

    There are many people who love BHM and places, sites, events, that cater to larger men.


    Probably mostly or only when its related to BBWs. On it's own???

    I just did a google search on BBW, it came up with 91,200,000 results. Some results may have BBW in them but mean something else. As it seems though when looking through it, the vast majority of results mean exactly big women. On the other hand, I did a google search on BHM. I got 15,200,000 results. Huge difference! Not to mention, when you skim through the results of BHM, half to most of it is meaning something else and not big men.

    I can do a fetlife search on both if you want and tell you the results. I would expect a huge difference there too.

    Oh and I am yet to see a beauty pageant for big men.

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    RE: Double Standards - 1/28/2016 10:43:10 PM   
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    Oh and I am yet to see a beauty pageant for big men.

    Gitdafohkouttahere! You don't just have a classic case of womb envy, you have pussy envy. Chronic pussy envy.

    You have sexual objectification envy that only someone who has not experienced (non-consensual, or even consensually it would appear,) sexual objectification at the hands of others would entertain in that feeble little brain of yours.

    I'm not going to pull any punches with you, or humor you. Do you really think that beauty pageants epitomize the height of public appreciation for a woman's true value or celebrate her individual worth?

    You want to hold a beauty pageant for large men, knock yourself out. Put your money where your mouth is.


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