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ORIGINAL: Greta75
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ORIGINAL: respectmen
What I see a lot is that overweight women are usually praised while overweight men are deemed nothing more than fat losers.
There is BBW appreciation and admiration all over the place. Just do one google search on BBW and there will be endless results that show admiration for BBWs. There are even beauty pageants for BBWs. Not to mention, even SSBBWs would get more admiration on this site than the average male.
Does such appreciation exist for overweight men? Fuck no.
Another round of applause for female privilege.
I love how you have been ignoring my adoration for overweight men. I LOVE overweight men! Bring them to me!
How convenient that he chooses to ignore your sentiment.
Nicky, unless you have some irrefutable proof to the contrary, men tend to be more of the extreme variety of fetishist. Hence the "celebration" of BBWs which is quite common among male submissives.
I won't say that women don't have our own fetishes. In general, we tend to be more selective, in that fetish criteria is not the cart that leads the horse.
For example, I used to have a (vanilla) fetish for men with well-groomed facial hair when I was younger. Still do, to some extent. But when I was younger, I absolutely couldn't find myself sexually attracted to virtually any clean-shaven men.
Dunno why, but that did change or shift in time. However, there are a combination of factors.
Notice I said 'well-groomed' -- scruffy is a turn-off (no Grizzly Adams, definitely not the ZZ Top look). Having a 3-4 day prickly shadow can also be a turn-off or it can be a sexy turn-on, just depends on if the guy can carry it off.
Now, I won't go so far as to say I go for overweight men; however, I have never found a skinny or slim man to be sexually attractive to me, nor a bodybuilder buff type. He has to have some meat on his bones, some muscle tone but not an artificially developed (pumped-up) physique. In other words, more on the "average" side, appearance-wise.
It's what's upstairs that matters more to me, as well as having a good sense of humor, being an interesting and responsive conversationalist, and having a charming and likeable disposition. Without these qualities and personality traits, none of the rest carries any weight (no pun intended) on my sex-o-meter. And until that meter registers a reading, my next tier of considerations doesn't kick in.
You are perhaps overly fixated with the superficial and letting the shallow perceptions of pop culture rule your life, which is truly a sad state.
Understandable for a young person still in his or her 20s, but you're in your 30s and should have individuated by now; this unhealthy obsession you have with male vs. female adversarial dynamics has stunted your emotional growth. If it doesn't serve to make you a better person, a better-functioning person, then let it go.
DreamLady
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