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LadyPact -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 12:48:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: roboslavedog
I am curious though.... please enlighten me Ladies.... what kind of initial statements in a message make you click READ instead of DELETE UNREAD?

That is a dang fine question! Here are some examples of emails that even I'll respond to. Please do keep in mind, I don't use the hover feature that much unless I know these are possibilities.

The opening has to be hi LP, Lady Pact, or my real first name. If I see the terms Mistress, Goddess, Her High Exalted Pooh Bah, or any ridiculous thing that some stranger shouldn't be calling me, you are automatically toast.

Real examples:

"I just moved to the <insert town/location here> area and I was wondering if you could tell me where the local munch is held?"

"I was at Club XYZ and saw your presentation on <insert topic>. I was wondering if you would answer a couple of questions about ..."

"I met you at Club ABC on Friday night. I was the guy wearing ..."

"I was talking to <person we know in common X> the other day and your name came up." (This one, I actually will write person we know in common X to verify that's correct before I'll answer the email.)

"That is a very nice corset in your profile picture. Do you mind if I ask where you got it from?"

I will answer emails *if*:

I know you in person.

We both know another individual in common (that means in person, not the net) and that other person can tell me you are a decent human being.

You are a long term poster from the forums (five years or more) and you've got a decent posting history that contributes to topics, seem pleasant enough, etc.




QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 1:14:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Danemora

I think you give random strangers way too much fucking power over you.

I'm afraid you are right, but I cannot avoid it.



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 1:19:35 PM)


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ORIGINAL: littleladybug


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

There are clearly still respectful dominants here who are not lazy. Today I received the following message:

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We thank you for the message but unfortunately despite your intresting profile we are looking for a sub in the age cap of 40 we are sorry but we wish you the best of luck

Much more polite and agreeable than a blunt "deleted unread".


I suppose, if you're looking at this like applying for a job.

I don't look at this in that way.

I may be wrong, but I have the impression that some dominant women think: "It's only a man [female supremacy], and moreover only a sub".



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 1:25:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

The opening has to be hi LP, Lady Pact, or my real first name.

So if someone doesn't know this, and he addresses you with "Dear Lady", its "deleted unread"? Then he can better play on the lottery.



mnottertail -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 1:30:54 PM)

Fast Reply to all men wondering:
And you will receive some of those.

But (and its only a smattering of what goes on) they get mail like you wouldnt believe.

a typical male encounter would be....

Hi, yadda yadda yadda, blah blah blah.

The woman goes, oh, thats not really interesting.....but I cant write a note, you're not at all interesting....
or, why would he ask limits? they are on my profile. ....or jeeze he is too far away, and this would never work, or he wants this and I want that..........and they get 10s if not 100s of these all the time, not the one or two a year that men get in total, or a can I smell your dirty panties, or whatever, and they have...........AND YOU CAN QUOTE ME, at least once if not more answered these no-gos in a : Thank you but I feel we are not compatible (or along those lines) and got.

FUCK YOU YOU FAT WHORE, YOU ARE A FAKE, YOU ARE NOT A DOMINATE, GET THE FUCK OFF THIS SIGHT!!!........

So, rather than put up with the whole testosterone tizzy, they simply think the better of you, and delete it. (Hey, and there are all sorts of other reasons than you dont fit something, they might be in negotiation right now with another, and feel some loyalty.........and so on)

But you can better believe that is found to be their best course thru experience.



LadyPact -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 1:34:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
So if someone doesn't know this, and he addresses you with "Dear Lady", its "deleted unread"? Then he can better play on the lottery.

Dear Lady, Dear Lady P, some people call me Pact. Pretty much any version of my screen name fits. I didn't think I'd have to type out all of them to convey the point.

Now, if somebody went with something like "Dear Sweet Lady" or "Dear Lady of the Night" or some other silly thing, yeah, they'd be deleted.

Lotteries must be quite good in your country. Here, they run chance of one in millions. I can promise I return more emails than that.




QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 1:39:55 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MissKatya


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

Not at all, dear lady. I have no problem at all with rejection, just with the way how it is done.


That is called having a problem with rejection.

I don't understand.

Premisses: a (I have a problem with rejection) is false and b (I have a problem with the way how it is done) is correct.
Your conclusion: a is correct.

This cannot be boolean logic, it must be feminine logic.

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But I have much more respect for a lady who answers me with "Stupid maggot!" then with "deleted unread".


This isn't about having respect-it's about having your needs met. Her responding to you with "stupid maggot" is what you expect as a response due to the stereotype of a dominant woman that you formed in your mind and when she chooses to delete/unread your message instead (which is reality for a majority of Dommes), you have an issue with it because she didn't live up to what you wanted, which is, to have your kink met through her response.


False because based on false assumptions. Please read what I wrote, not what you think I wrote.

If a dominant just answers with "No" or "Not interested" (even if it's a copy and paste), it's OK to me. I don't expect a dominant to call me a stupid maggot. I just said that, IF a dominant does so, I have more respect for her than if she does "deleted unread".



mnottertail -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 1:43:55 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
So if someone doesn't know this, and he addresses you with "Dear Lady", its "deleted unread"? Then he can better play on the lottery.

Dear Lady, Dear Lady P, some people call me Pact. Pretty much any version of my screen name fits. I didn't think I'd have to type out all of them to convey the point.

Now, if somebody went with something like "Dear Sweet Lady" or "Dear Lady of the Night" or some other silly thing, yeah, they'd be deleted.

Lotteries must be quite good in your country. Here, they run chance of one in millions. I can promise I return more emails than that.




Dear Miss Lady Ma'am,

How you doing?

~Madea



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 1:44:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

LOL and that is why you are moaning at women.

The worse is that even a woman with only one brain cell can easily dominate me.



Lucylastic -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 1:58:48 PM)

Then i suggest you need to define what your submission is worth. Because, most good dommes i know dont want their submissive to fall prey to any woman who has strong opinion.
Unless she is that way inclined.



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:14:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

FUCK YOU YOU FAT WHORE, YOU ARE A FAKE, YOU ARE NOT A DOMINATE, GET THE FUCK OFF THIS SIGHT!!!........

And because some men react in this way, better assume that all men are morons?

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But you can better believe that is found to be their best course thru experience.

Experience often only leads to reinforcing bad practices.



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:17:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Lotteries must be quite good in your country. Here, they run chance of one in millions. I can promise I return more emails than that.

Oh but when "Dear lady" is OK to you, then he can better play with you. [:D]



MissKatya -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:17:34 PM)


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I don't understand.


Of course you don't....and that is why you are here, whining about it.

Hey, I'm not the 63 year old who is searching for a Domme-you are.

And if you want to dismiss every comment on this thread as "feminine logic", then by all means.

It only hurts you in the end.

I said enough here. You can respond to this (or not). I'm not bothering anymore.

Like I said...I'm not the one searching. You are.



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:20:51 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

Then i suggest you need to define what your submission is worth. Because, most good dommes i know dont want their submissive to fall prey to any woman who has strong opinion.
Unless she is that way inclined.

Oh but once a belong to a domme, I am 100% faithful to her.



QualityFirst -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:26:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissKatya


And if you want to dismiss every comment on this thread as "feminine logic", then by all means.

No, don't care, I only do so with comments that comprise very genuine feminine logic.

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I said enough here. You can respond to this (or not). I'm not bothering anymore.

Thank you for visiting. And feel free to come back whenever you want.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:29:43 PM)

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And because some men react in this way, better assume that all men are morons?

Yes, because that "some" is actually a surprisingly large number.



Danemora -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:30:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

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ORIGINAL: Danemora

I think you give random strangers way too much fucking power over you.

I'm afraid you are right, but I cannot avoid it.



Thats bullshit. You CAN avoid it by not getting all torn up inside over stupid insignificant shit. Some domme deletes your message unread? Big hairy fucking deal. Its not the end of the world unless you CHOOSE to let it be.

As I said, sack up.



mnottertail -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:30:35 PM)


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

FUCK YOU YOU FAT WHORE, YOU ARE A FAKE, YOU ARE NOT A DOMINATE, GET THE FUCK OFF THIS SIGHT!!!........

And because some men react in this way, better assume that all men are morons?

quote:

But you can better believe that is found to be their best course thru experience.

Experience often only leads to reinforcing bad practices.




They don't assume all men are morons, they have done an inventory of themselves and understood their limitations in that they cannot separate out the morons from the good guys that they aren't interested in, they send you a demure message (delete unread) ..........what can we glean from this tidbit? They are not interested, and not interested in conversation.

Yes, throw gas on a fire, ever done it? I have several times, sometimes it works out well, and some times it works out for shit. If I do not do it at all, am I reinforcing bad practice?

I cannot in the leastwise agree with your sentiments, you see?

You are talking to a door here, and I am a guy. It ain't going to get you no pussy, either one.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:31:00 PM)

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No, don't care, I only do so with comments that comprise very genuine feminine logic.

define feminine logic.



LadyPact -> RE: Deleted unread (5/9/2016 2:38:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst
Oh but when "Dear lady" is OK to you, then he can better play with you. [:D]

No, and you are being presumptuous.

It would still have to have the content of something along the examples that I gave. There is no "better play with you" because that's not the criteria that I would need for a play partner. Very simply, it was some random examples of questions that I would (and have) answer via email, rather than deleting the message if I used the hover feature. If I got something like the following, I'd still delete it if the greeting was acceptable.

"Dear Lady Pact,

I am a <stated age> male submissive living in <country other than I reside>. I am blah, blah, blah ..."

No question. I'd delete that.


ETA - By the way, this absolutely does display that you are not doing to well at not writing to women outside of your age group. If their upper limit is 40, that means they are probably about half of your age. In some cases, people will accept age gaps up to a certain point but I know few exceptionally few Dominant women that would do a thirty year age gap with someone their senior.


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

There are clearly still respectful dominants here who are not lazy. Today I received the following message:

quote:

We thank you for the message but unfortunately despite your intresting profile we are looking for a sub in the age cap of 40 we are sorry but we wish you the best of luck

Much more polite and agreeable than a blunt "deleted unread".






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