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whitebottomboy -> RE: NEW BDSM Scam! BEWARE! (5/13/2016 8:12:03 AM)
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Methinks you are all being a bit hard on the OP.
I did not see his original post, but it isn't naïve to think highly-touted dating sites are scams. Rather, it is naïve to assume everyone should just know Alt.com is a scam.
When one tries to do research on the "best" sites related to kink, BDSM, etc. they find a great many lists and articles on the subject, ALL of which list Alt.com as the tried and true leader in the world of alternative lifestyle dating. And that site is listed right along with CollarSpace and FetLife, among others.
Some of these are legit articles on actual news outlet sites, written by clueless staff writers. But many must be plants by the crooks who own Alt.com. It does not take THAT long to figure out Alt.com is a scam top to bottom, but no one actually publicizes it.
As with many people just trying to find their way, I joined Alt.com to see what it was like. Afterall, they had bought and absorbed Bondage.com, which once had a thriving chat community.
I knew there would be troll messages from women who do not actually exist, as there are on every dating site, including CollarSpace, where I encountered two fake profiles just today.
What immediately clued me into Alt.com was a complete scam was the fact they do not even include the ability to say one is seeking a dominant partner or a submissive one, and their "experts" kept "matching" me to submissives even though my own orientation was set as submissive. How can they claim to even BE a BDSM site if you cannot stipulate your Dom/sub orientation when being matched?
Other sites like FemDomdating.com keep sending me photos of the fashion models who visited my profile, followed by a notice that someone just left me a message, which I cannot read or even see my inbox contents without paying them lots of money. Are there really that many 50 year old men stupid enough to assume 24 year old hotties are interested in him?
One recent site, which may or may not have some validity are MyBDSMWorld, which does seem to have interest in becoming an actual community, but does me the favor of randomly matching me to other members, usually male and submissive when I make clear I am straight and looking for a Domme. Perhaps they are just trying to get people to friend each other?
And just today I learned about BDSMMatch, which one of the current CollarSpace trolls called comeheresissyboy is trying to channel users to via the link KINKYDEJT.COM, which actually goes to BDSMMatch. I have not joined that site, as it is probably Alt.com at it again. But maybe not.
So it takes some time until people realize that FetLife and CollarSpace appear to be the only truly useful community sites. But since many men have no luck meeting anyone or even getting people to talk to them on either site, we shall continue to look elsewhere.
Not that there aren't other sites that are not set up as scams.
iPunishment is a spanking community, but unfortunately is worthless for dating, as there is no way to search for anyone, other than getting a list of all Females or all Males listed alphabetically, no way to know who actually still frequents the site etc.
Spanko.com has a legit community of chatters, but the owner is a crook. First he turned it into a porn video site and then expected the users to pay for the bandwidth. And as of 2016 users who paid for a LIFETIME membership were blocked in unless they pay a $20 a year fee. This is basically extortion and fraud, since we paid for LIFETIME membership. But no one seems willing to report him to Paypal to get his account shutdown.
It gets depressing to go to the Fetlife personals and see all those men of all ages hopeful in their search for some real connection with someone interested in more than emptying his wallet, who will never connect with anyone. It is not so depressing here, since I only see the Dommes and Switches in my age range, even if few of them even reply to my polite inquiries.
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