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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 12:02:36 PM   
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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 12:15:10 PM   
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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 12:43:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm late the party as usual, but open, your answer is simple. Either stop going to her or do what one of the other posters suggested: give her more and a foot rub.

I do have a question, have you only seen her the couple of times? Do you two have any kind of friendly relationship outside of the dungeon?

One thing I would suggest is don't go for the cheapest pro.

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 1:39:36 PM   
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subbybound's 10/27/2015 saves you from a dismantling, from me, but understand another roots are deep and plethora on here. And it has postulated many similar variants.

As you were saved by a date barely, if she displeases you find another who will pleases you..slut bags of utter wretches are dime a dozen

Now if you had said i set eyes on her profile and stated she was Photoshopped, one picture, 50 times over and over again and when I turned up I said who the fukery are you swamp creature---> then I would have believed you...anyone who has enabled your musings I hold in equal contempt and zero value

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 2:04:03 PM   
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<Message edited by OsideGirl -- 5/31/2016 12:38:51 PM>

Even just to post one smiley, you had to edit your message? Great!

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 3:05:31 PM   
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I went to see a Dominatrix and had a very nice time.
She was friendly, sociable and really seemed to enjoy what she was doing.

I saw her the following week and she was much more business orientated. It took the fun out of it.

First of all you refer to her as a 'Dominatrix' which is the professional label for a Domme-for-hire, i.e., a BDSM provider of Topping services.
Was it your understanding that you were more than a client? Specifically, did you consider yourself her new sub and she your new Mistress, because you may have been viewing this all wrong from the get-go.

I'll go out on a limb here and say that your first session was as a new customer in a tip industry where you are expected to show your appreciation by tipping.
By your own admission, you enjoyed your rendezvous, and should have tipped her accordingly instead of getting relegated to the piddly low/no-tipping bastard category.

quote:

I saw her the following week and this time she was not only business orientated but in a hurry. She seemed mechanical and could hardly wait to end the session. I asked her about it and she snarled, "I've got a lot going on in my life right now. I've got a lot of things to do."

It sounds as if you had already taken the wind out of her sails. Could she have shown better professionalism? Sure, probably so, and we have no way of knowing how experienced as a professional she actually is, or whether she is a dabbler.

BTW, what exactly was it that you asked her? Verbatim. (No, not the newbie dude poster named verbatim)

quote:

I'm not going to see her again. Why can't each session be like the first?
I enjoyed it and I'm happy to pay the tribute.

Paying a fee for services rendered is NOT tribute, just like taking a lady out on a date entitles you to nothing further than hoping to enjoy that woman's company.

You are not interested in procuring services from her any longer. You are a disgruntled customer, she was never your Mistress, and you were not her sub -- just to be clear on this unclarified point.
It seems to me she decided early on that you were not worth the trouble to keep as a regular customer, to retain as a client, and certainly not suitable subby play partner material.

quote:

Why can't she enjoy it? Why does she have to treat it like a job?

See above.

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 3:26:28 PM   
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Paying a fee for services rendered is NOT tribute


Speaking of which - I'm curious, the going rate for a legitimate Pro here in San Diego is $200 - $300. So, he spent between $600 - $900 in three weeks? That's a lot of money to get your kinks fed.

Especially considering that San Diego and SoCal in general has a large kink community.


< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 5/31/2016 3:28:32 PM >

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 3:52:21 PM   
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I went to see a Dominatrix and had a very nice time.
She was friendly, sociable and really seemed to enjoy what she was doing.

I saw her the following week and she was much more business orientated. It took the fun out of it.

I saw her the following week and this time she was not only business orientated but in a hurry. She seemed mechanical and could hardly wait to end the session. I asked her about it and she snarled, "I've got a lot going on in my life right now. I've got a lot of things to do."

I'm not going to see her again. Why can't each session be like the first?
I enjoyed it and I'm happy to pay the tribute.
Why can't she enjoy it? Why does she have to treat it like a job?



Bud....read the tea leaves....it'd the Benjamins!

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 4:46:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal


Paying a fee for services rendered is NOT tribute


Speaking of which - I'm curious, the going rate for a legitimate Pro here in San Diego is $200 - $300. So, he spent between $600 - $900 in three weeks? That's a lot of money to get your kinks fed.

Especially considering that San Diego and SoCal in general has a large kink community.


OK I musta missed that. I thought he said he paid 250 when he saw her. Which for this area, is pretty cheap. But, we dont have such a huge selection of kink stuffs. Also I was gonna ask about tipping as well. I'd almost be willing to bet there was no tip or gift.

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 5:45:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: FieryOpal


Paying a fee for services rendered is NOT tribute


Speaking of which - I'm curious, the going rate for a legitimate Pro here in San Diego is $200 - $300. So, he spent between $600 - $900 in three weeks? That's a lot of money to get your kinks fed.

Especially considering that San Diego and SoCal in general has a large kink community.


OK I musta missed that. I thought he said he paid 250 when he saw her. Which for this area, is pretty cheap. But, we dont have such a huge selection of kink stuffs. Also I was gonna ask about tipping as well. I'd almost be willing to bet there was no tip or gift.

Yes, if this is a situation where tipping is the norm, then no/poor tipping would not encourage a professional to put forth any extra effort into keeping that client. Standard business practice. Most people understand this.

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 8:37:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		$250 per hour for an experienced Dominatrix is dirt cheap.
@OP - if your not paying her at least $350 plus a tip, for the hour - you're cheap.

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 5/31/2016 9:52:54 PM   
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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 6/1/2016 2:16:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissKatya


**Edit** After checking the OP's posting history I see that he is just trolling (again). Oh well**


Thanks for that, his previous posts are quite "telling"

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 6/1/2016 8:32:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissKatya


**Edit** After checking the OP's posting history I see that he is just trolling (again). Oh well**


Thanks for that, his previous posts are quite "telling"



I'm laughing my ass off reading this thread. It's a joke, right?

@LC - After reading your responses to posts, they are quite "telling." Lol...

For all you ProDommes saying you deserve $350 an hour plus tips - do you pay the same amount when you see a doctor? massage therapist? dentist? If you're not paying your chiropractor $350 plus a tip for each treatment then you are dirt cheap!

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 6/1/2016 8:35:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FieryOpal


quote:

ORIGINAL: subbybound
I went to see a Dominatrix and had a very nice time.
She was friendly, sociable and really seemed to enjoy what she was doing.

I saw her the following week and she was much more business orientated. It took the fun out of it.

First of all you refer to her as a 'Dominatrix' which is the professional label for a Domme-for-hire, i.e., a BDSM provider of Topping services.
Was it your understanding that you were more than a client? Specifically, did you consider yourself her new sub and she your new Mistress, because you may have been viewing this all wrong from the get-go.

I'll go out on a limb here and say that your first session was as a new customer in a tip industry where you are expected to show your appreciation by tipping.
By your own admission, you enjoyed your rendezvous, and should have tipped her accordingly instead of getting relegated to the piddly low/no-tipping bastard category.

quote:

I saw her the following week and this time she was not only business orientated but in a hurry. She seemed mechanical and could hardly wait to end the session. I asked her about it and she snarled, "I've got a lot going on in my life right now. I've got a lot of things to do."

It sounds as if you had already taken the wind out of her sails. Could she have shown better professionalism? Sure, probably so, and we have no way of knowing how experienced as a professional she actually is, or whether she is a dabbler.

BTW, what exactly was it that you asked her? Verbatim. (No, not the newbie dude poster named verbatim)

quote:

I'm not going to see her again. Why can't each session be like the first?
I enjoyed it and I'm happy to pay the tribute.

Paying a fee for services rendered is NOT tribute, just like taking a lady out on a date entitles you to nothing further than hoping to enjoy that woman's company.

You are not interested in procuring services from her any longer. You are a disgruntled customer, she was never your Mistress, and you were not her sub -- just to be clear on this unclarified point.
It seems to me she decided early on that you were not worth the trouble to keep as a regular customer, to retain as a client, and certainly not suitable subby play partner material.

quote:

Why can't she enjoy it? Why does she have to treat it like a job?

See above.


My ears ranged when you said my handle.

You are right that the first poster probly didnt tip and so he got lousy second experience from dominatrix.

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 6/1/2016 8:38:28 AM   
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$250 per hour for an experienced Dominatrix is dirt cheap.
@OP - if your not paying her at least $350 plus a tip, for the hour - you're cheap.


That is to much for most.
It is 100 an hour for young college girl in most places.

20 year old girl kick asss of 40 year old domme any day.
Not skills. 20 year old has no skills. Who cares?

20 year old ALWAYS kick ass of old matron.

Old matron cry but old matron was 20 year old kicking ass long ago to!

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 6/1/2016 8:54:25 AM   
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For all you ProDommes saying you deserve $350 an hour plus tips - do you pay the same amount when you see a doctor? massage therapist? dentist? If you're not paying your chiropractor $350 plus a tip for each treatment then you are dirt cheap!

It's the law of offer and demand. Why should pro dommes require less as long as there are enough males who are so stupid as to pay such amounts?

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 6/1/2016 9:02:46 AM   
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Please do not compare us to doctors and therapists.
Pro-Dommes are extremely talented individuals and we are putting our lives at risk everyday (at least in NY we are). It takes many many years to achieve certain skills and we continue to grow our skills in our profession. We deserve more pay than doctors and therapists because of this. Do you want an authentic experience of going to a dungeon and being treated a certain way? Where else can you get this? So you pay. $350+ per hour is reasonable.

- QualityFirst
Men aren't "stupid" to pay $350+ for our services. They are intelligent people who realize our talent and skills. You're "stupid" for saying that....

< Message edited by ProDommeNY -- 6/1/2016 9:10:46 AM >

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 6/1/2016 9:03:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissKatya


**Edit** After checking the OP's posting history I see that he is just trolling (again). Oh well**


Thanks for that, his previous posts are quite "telling"



I'm laughing my ass off reading this thread. It's a joke, right?

@LC - After reading your responses to posts, they are quite "telling." Lol...

For all you ProDommes saying you deserve $350 an hour plus tips - do you pay the same amount when you see a doctor? massage therapist? dentist? If you're not paying your chiropractor $350 plus a tip for each treatment then you are dirt cheap!


Wow, you can read but apparently you don't quite digest what you read, aren't you the whingy bloke who can't really get laid for love or money? With the fetish for larger ladies but they even refuse to meet you for a cup of coffee...

Seriously, if you can't see why you are a failure at your job and with women, I'm not going to clue you up again.

Btw a good personal trainer makes more than $300 per hour, not surprised you aren't quite in that league, they are also skilled at motivating people and (big problem for you) seem to have a brain... You're obviously also not quite in the range where you can afford top of the line doctors or dentists...

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RE: Why Do They Treat It Like A Job? - 6/1/2016 9:38:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MuscleBoundDom
For all you ProDommes saying you deserve $350 an hour plus tips - do you pay the same amount when you see a doctor? massage therapist? dentist? If you're not paying your chiropractor $350 plus a tip for each treatment then you are dirt cheap!

Apparently you're not very familiar with professional BDSM practitioners. Whether male or female, it requires; experience, skills, a wardrobe spanning many fetishes, and preferably, a well equipped dungeon. None of that is cheap nor maintained by others. It is solely the purview of the professional. So when you whinge about other fields being more costly? You prove how naive you truly are. Go crawl back under your rock and leave the adults to discourse.

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