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RaynaSub -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (8/7/2007 11:56:00 AM)
I did not ask my Master to be collared. I was very good about dropping "hints", though. Pictures of collars starting appearing, as well as articles on collaring, even discussions on how much a collar would mean to me. I have a smart Master.

theq -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (8/12/2007 5:41:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hotprofessor I have been in relationship with a DOM for over 8 months now and I feel very comfortable with us. I would love to be "collared" and am wondering if a sumissive should ask to be collared? Is it up to the DOM to make the first move or should I tell him that I want to be his "collared" submissive? I'm replying to this as my personal thoughts on the matter. No, I would not like a girl near to me to ask for a collar (be it Consideration, Training, or Formal). That's just me...seems to forward. I'm a bit old fashioned in that way I suppose. I'll go as far as saying it may turn me off. Perhaps a better question to ask your Dominant is (again, in my book)...where are we heading in our relationship? Standard disclaimer attached to such replies: Mileage and performance of other Dominants may vary. Q Edited to add: I would be interested in knowing the girls feelings about being collared by me...I always want her to be open with her feelings. Asking for it...kind of presses me the wrong way. Then again, I'd not like to be proposed to for marriage either.

Subbieonly -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (3/30/2008 8:21:35 AM)
I believe it depends on the relationship. I don't think there is any right or wrong protocol. Also, how comfortable does He feel being asked this?

AMaster -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (3/30/2008 10:07:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wulftooth Don't know about BDSM, but on Gor you can do a submission where a Master must either collar you or kill you. On Urth it is more like collar you or let you go and have nothing more to do with you making you dead in essence to them. And all this time I thought I was not into Gor..........[;)]

xxblushesxx -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (3/30/2008 10:10:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Subbieonly I believe it depends on the relationship. I don't think there is any right or wrong protocol. Also, how comfortable does He feel being asked this? After two years, this has more than likely been resolved, dontcha think?

Drummerpunk7 -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (3/30/2008 2:04:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Caretakr Yes it is innapropriate to ask. The Dminant should do so, if they feel the sub is worthy. Who are you to say what is appropriate or not? In my experiences most subbies beg their collar. Submission is something that is given, not taken or demanded. A dom can't just walk up to someone and collar them. Gor isn't real in this respect. It has to be consensual. Now if the sub didn't want to make it look like they were EXPECTING a collar, then they could be sneaky and plant the idea in their doms mind, and thus it would appear to be his decision. I do not demand becky's submission, but I do demand obedience. Her submission is given to me willingly, and I cherish it. While she does not wear a physical collar yet, nor have we had any collaring ceremony or w/e, if she begs a collar frmo me, I will gladly find one suiting for her, and will be proud that she wears it to honor our bond. At any rate, you have no right to tell others what is appropriate, nor do I. To each his/her own. If a sub wants to beg collar, more power to em, and I wish them well. EDIT: omg terrible thread necromancy right here. I didn't even notice.

randsboy -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (4/13/2008 8:21:49 PM)
i first met my Master online. i asked for a collar and received what He called a temporary collar. after 4 years i was presented with my first official collar from Him. 6 years got me a large leather dog collar and about 8 1/2 years i finally acheived the collar i really wanter, a lock and chain. By asking for a collar after so short a time could land you out the door on your derrier or you could be asking for more than you are really prepared to handle. Be careful what you ask for and when. Your Master/Mistress will know when you are ready to be collared. Then you will know that you have acheived a goal worthy of that collar.[image]http://www.collarchat.com/upfiles/smiley/yesmaster.gif[/image]

Lordandmaster -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (4/13/2008 8:24:29 PM)
You should be able to ASK for anything, but that doesn't mean you're going to get it (or that you're going to get it when you expect). quote: ORIGINAL: Hotprofessor I would love to be "collared" and am wondering if a sumissive should ask to be collared? Is it up to the DOM to make the first move or should I tell him that I want to be his "collared" submissive?

antipode -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (4/13/2008 11:06:15 PM)
noprofile noanswer

LadyPact -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (4/13/2008 11:58:48 PM)
I admit to not reading the whole thread, or those who have posted here. All I can say is that it is different for everyone. When it was time for the discussion of a collar came for Me and My boy, there was not a lot of pretense involved. I had wanted it to be something memorable. Something special. In a beautiful setting that neither one of U/us would forget. Instead, it was rather ordinary. The subject came to My mind as a matter of happenstance. I told him to kneel, which he did, and proceeded to ask him what his thoughts were on wearing My collar. My boy looked up and Me, and replied, "I already feel collared to you, m'Lady". It was the most wonderful answer he could have given Me, and one I will never forget.

Luciferica -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (4/14/2008 12:04:19 AM)
Collaring theoretically should be equal, you should be able to ask..just make sure it's what you really want...I take as much pride in my pet wearing his collar as he does in wearing it!

MistressOfGa -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (4/14/2008 1:41:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: popeye1250 Imp, you did it well! As for a Collar I'd find one that looked like a piece of jewelry made of medal but that would have to be welded or saudered on so that it was around her neck permanently so that she couldn't take it off. popeye, I would love my subs collar to be permanent, to where he couldn't remove it, but in reality, it can't be. He can't wear it at work. He does, however, have a "work collar" that he can wear while working. But to have a permanent one like you suggest would be impossible for him right now. To the OP, When you decide whether you are a sub wanting to be collared or a Dom who lives in Chicago, I will take your post seriously. Interesting to note that your HotProfessor profile is gone, or you put it in hiding. MoGa [sm=oddballs.gif]

MistressOfGa -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (4/14/2008 1:43:50 AM)
quote: My boy looked up and Me, and replied, "I already feel collared to you, m'Lady". It was the most wonderful answer he could have given Me, and one I will never forget. Aww! [sm=cute.gif]

WillowRain -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (4/14/2008 7:20:56 AM)
Hrm, and yet here on EARTH, where we all live, it might be far better for someone to simply talk to their partner openly about how they feel. Assuming that her Dominant is someone she knows face to face, who she spends time with, asking him how he feels one night after dinner when they are hanging out would be appropriate.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (4/14/2008 10:09:20 AM)
Do you guys realize that the OP is from 7/21/2006 and no longer has a profile? Further someone called them out as having dual conflicting profiles. …For those truly curious about the proper protocol in this resurrected thread, nowhere in the lifestyle, BDSM, D/s. M/s or Gorian, have I seen it deemed improper for a slave to formally petition a Master for ownership.

BikerDomRealTime -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (5/3/2008 7:54:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hotprofessor HI Everyone: I have been in relationship with a DOM for over 8 months now and I feel very comfortable with us. I would love to be "collared" and am wondering if a sumissive should ask to be collared? Is it up to the DOM to make the first move or should I tell him that I want to be his "collared" submissive? Thanks ahead of time for any help in this. Hotprofessor I don't think it is necessarily up to the Dom to make the first move. I think is it says a lot from the sub/slave if she asks or begs for a collar. Sure you can ask, you can even beg for it, it should never hurt to ask for anything. Maybe that is what he is waiting for. But you may not like the answer that he will give you.

michaels4evr -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (5/3/2008 10:00:30 PM)
Honestly, I wouldn't want it any other way. A slave or submissive who wants me as his or her Mistress would have to petition me for it. edited to add..being that this is the ask a Master board.. Likewise, I would find it predatory if I were uncollared and a Master asked me or commanded me to become His submissive. There would be nothing wrong with Him letting me know his desire, but I would still see it my role to beg or petition for His collar. -michael's

variation30 -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (5/4/2008 1:23:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wulftooth Don't know about BDSM, but on Gor you can do a submission where a Master must either collar you or kill you. I just rolled my eyes so hard I gave myself a migraine.

KatyLied -> RE: Asking to be collared - right or wrong? (5/4/2008 6:28:33 AM)
quote: I was very good about dropping "hints", though. Pictures of collars starting appearing, as well as articles on collaring, even discussions on how much a collar would mean to me. I have a smart Master. He didn't find your behavior to be a bit manipulative?

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