Wayward5oul
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ORIGINAL: CarpeComa
My point is that the level of risk isn't relevant to the majority of the naysayers, only that there is a possibility of a catastrophic failure and that this isn't a common practice. As a result, worst-first thinking kicks in, resulting in automatic rejection citing the catastrophic failure regardless of how unlikely it is.
You initially posted about ‘worst-first’ thinking in post #33. In the 32 posts prior to that, exactly 2 posters mentioned house fires. Throughout the entire thread, only 3 out of 16 posters mentioned house fires and/or other unforeseen events as obstacles. So your statement about the majority of naysayers going for ‘worst-first’ doesn’t hold water.
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ORIGINAL: CarpeComa
It absolutely is not about rational assessment. Almost none of the responses were about risk assessment, it was "you shouldn't do it because of the risk of X".
In actuality, most of the responses were direct, realistic answers to the OP.
Out of the 55+/- posts on this thread, there are several mentions of possible alternatives to long-term captivity, and advice on how to find such alternatives, such as
-short play scenes (either as one-time events or periodically)
-using a kink group to find someone with a cell that she could pay for a short-term experience (such as a weekend or longer)
-considering scaling back 24/7 captivity to something like 20-22 hours a day to lessen the burden on the dominant
-and the suggestion that the OP look at switches rather than dominants as possible captors, as the work involved in handling this type of scenario might appeal to someone who has masochistic or service tendencies as well
Most of the remaining posts directly answered the OP’s question about how realistic this desire was and should she just accept that it was not going to happen. Among the reasons they gave her were:
-many mentions of the burden of responsibility that captivity puts on the captor, which would be a big turn-off for many dominants
-several mentions of the long-term health effects, both physically and mentally, that would be seen in the prisoner (psychological effects from isolation, susceptibility to abuse by captor,
-a few mentions of what happens to a prisoner that is left with no resources and the ensuing financial repercussions (for both prisoner and captor, as maintaining a prisoner means additional expenses) both during and after imprisonment
-a few mentions of mundane daily considerations that people probably don’t consider when fantasizing about this scenario, but that could put a real damper on the reality of the scenarios, such as bathroom considerations, menstrual considerations, inconveniences the dominant must undertake to receive any services from the prisoner, basic health care (medical checkups, dental, etc assuming you don’t intend for the prisoner to waste away entirely) etc.
-a few mentions of alternative scenarios, such as home imprisonment rather than cell imprisonment, where the prisoner can be of more service to a captor while still experiencing a degree of captivity.
And oh yeah, the three mentions of house fires and other unforeseen events
The OP specifically asked why they couldn’t find anyone to do this. So all the people who spoke of obstacles were directly answering the OP’s question.
The fact that there are people out there who actually do consider unforeseen events as enough of a risk to not undertake this type of activity is one of the reasons that she will have difficulty finding this type of dynamic. How likely they are to happen is irrelevant. The fact that they exist is enough to deter many people from participating in this, which directly addresses the OP.
You talking about how they are all exaggerating does nothing to answer the OP’s question, nor helps her find a solution. In fact it begs another question-if, as you say, it isn’t so difficult, why is the OP having such issues finding someone?
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ORIGINAL: CarpeComa
The house burning down is an incredibly unlikely event, yet it was the go-to reason for rejection.
No, it wasn't. Apparently your own experiences in arguing this with people have affected your perception. It was all you focused on, but it was not even a primary reason discussed in this thread.
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