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I can't afford to drive up there. I have been to 1763 before, but she can't just take off work to go spend the night in Atlanta. It costs money to be a member, which I don't mind, but I can't afford to drive a 7 hour round-trip multiple times per month and/or pay for a hotel room if I am tired at midnight when things end and don't ffeel like driving 3.5 hours to get home at 4 am to turn around and get back up at 7, and she certainly can't do that with work.
I used to make the drive on a pretty regular basis but mine was shorter than that. However, back when I was playing there semi-regularly, I didn't leave until the 2:00 AM closing time, so that wouldn't have gotten me home until after 4:00 AM. Staying over was the better option for me majority of the time. Either hotel or one of the 'mini-dungeons' (rooms) that they have there. (I presented there several times, so I will say that many of those overnight stays were free.)
I double checked on membership costs and it's still ten bucks for a six month membership. Twenty bucks will get you fourteen.
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Weekends are easier, but again, money is an issue. Does 1763 have S&M specific nights? The one time we went, it was general BDSM, and not anything specific. It was a terrible experience honestly. The one booth (play piercing) I wanted to see had the fewest chairs and over half of them were filled the whole night with people not paying attention to the demo, and none of the DM's were addressing people just hanging around demo booths rather than hanging in the designated hang out areas. Even then, I couldn't really tell who was a DM half the time and the few I found were busy talking up gaggles of girls, not even paying attention to the rest of the room.
I did a quick check and I didn't find anything that would be something like a designated heavy hitter night. Those are usually S/m specific for more intense (bad word choice there, but you get the drift) players. Unless you've got a serious following, most clubs don't do Heavy Hitters on a monthly basis because the revenue that their losing from the rope enthusiasts, fetishists, etc, doesn't always translate to what is best for your business. Commercial dungeons have to make a profit. It's just the way of the world.
I do have to ask you. The night you went with what you related above? Did you happen to go on a TNG night or something called "Stations of the Cross"? It's been more than a couple of years since I lived in GA and the TNG there was, at that time, anybody under 40. I'm absolutely willing to admit that things might have changed since the last time I was at a TNG event there, but if you're looking for the more serious dungeon etiquette, I would not recommend TNG nights. There atmosphere is (was) much looser, laid back, and not as strict about socializing in play areas.
The other part you said about DM's. I went and looked at the current staff of 1763, etc. Their red badge policy is still in place, meaning the person wearing the red badge is one of your DMs. Darn near half of the DMs are women. The males that are on staff, I still know most of them, and the ones I do know generally don't engage in that behavior. Jamie, the general manager, is gay. S** J**** and Mr L***, I know for a fact take that DM gig very seriously. (They probably wouldn't have been on shifts as DMs on a TNG night.)
My point in this is, if you are going to spend the money, do the travel, and so on, it is in to go to those events on the calendar that are best suited to you. Personally, I'd probably tell you to go on the first Saturday of the month. It used to be called ARM (Atlanta Regional Munch) but it's the 1763 Munch now. It's on the premises and it's more of a general catch all night. Also, you might want to think of planning your trip there on weekends when there are other major events in town.
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I wasn't very impressed. It was an extremely crowded night and other nights or fetish specific nights might be better, but again, that's aa long way to drive and a lot of money just to get known enough there to be trusted.
Yes, but it's catch 22. If you are a heavy sadist, you know that masochist is going to have to trust you. Nobody ever seeing you play isn't going to help you.
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At the moment, I don't have a job, and this week, I have an interview for a night position, 6 nights per week. If I get that job, that completely eliminates any ability to go.
Then, what you'll have to do is start looking at your surrounding area to see who is holding munches that are either afternoon or very early evening. Not meeting new people in person is not helping you. If you can't go to play nights, you're going to have to meet and get to know bottoms who might consider having a play arrangement around your schedule.
Other stuff. OK. You're frustrated and wanted to vent. Once you've blown off steam, you also have to look at what you are willing to DO. When what you are doing now isn't working for you, it's just logical to try something different. You've got some things working against you, so you have to look at the things that will help you overcome that.
If you really just wanted to b*tch and find other people to b*tch with you, well, that's not going to change much of anything.
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