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LadyPact -> RE: Feminists want equality, except when paying for dates (8/16/2016 7:19:10 AM)
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ORIGINAL: respectmen
Women have no right to say "who ask pays" when they aren't willing to do the asking out to begin with!
I already addressed this. If you happen to disagree that being poly, rather than being a woman, is what makes the game changer here, that's going to have to be on you. Maybe it's because you're single, but there are still a lot of people out there who don' think it's cool at all to be asked out by somebody who already has a primary partner.
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In any website, how much luck will most men have if they never make the first move, even the first email?
It's always bloody men expected to do all of that. To be a woman on any website, you don't have to do anything except exist.
I wonder how many women have written peon first over the years. I'm pretty confident that they have.
I can also assure you that I don't get to meet the number of people that I do just because I exist. I've been the person plenty of times over the years that wrote emails saying we were moving to a certain community or taking a trip to somebody's area. "Hey, we're going to be at event X." How hard is that?
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Its extremely unfair and unjustified to place the "who ask pays" rule when most of one gender aren't willing to do that work to begin with.
Why? You're completely skipping the point that most women are going to go where they want to go in the first place. I don't sit at home waiting for somebody to ask me if I want to go to the club. I go and I pay my door fee like everybody else.
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That said, it bothers me that a woman is never called a cheapskate or get ridiculed by others in any way if she was the one who did the asking out and refuses to pay for the man. In fact if a woman did do the asking out and the man complained about her not paying for him, I am sure he would get laughed at and ridiculed.
You're incorrect there, too. Do you remember the flack I got from some people on these forums because, rather than MP and I supporting someone, I wouldn't let a certain person stay with us without financially contributing? There were definitely people who thought I was completely in the wrong for asking a grown, able-bodied man to pay three hundred a month for his own room and board. There were people who called me cheap for it, so try that song and dance on somebody else.
That other post that you put on this thread? That was absolutely despicable. What on God's green earth would possibly make you think that was ok? I don't care if her pictures are on Fet. You have no right to post them on this thread without her consent. No matter how you slice it, that was just plain slimy.
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