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InsertUsernamehe -> How to message dom? (8/20/2016 2:26:25 AM)
to all the Doms out there. What do you expect when you get a message. is it better do do a more vanilla style message, or is it better to state your intentions out the gate? Also what are your thoughts on honnorifics (mistress,godess) in the first message?

tittie -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 2:56:21 AM)
My thoughts are simple Just be polite I usually address a Dom as Sir Not because I am his Just out of respect .. Most of the time they will say I don't need to say Sir But I think it's a sweet gesture a little bit of courtesy can go a long way

InsertUsernamehe -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 3:32:34 AM)
Good advice. Do you typically jist introduce yourself like on pof or okc or do you lay your cards on the table ie "I want to submit to you"

HoneyBears -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 4:01:32 AM)
- FR - quote: ORIGINAL: InsertUsernamehe Do you typically jist introduce yourself like on pof or okc or do you lay your cards on the table ie "I want to submit to you" How would you even know whether you want to submit to a total stranger you have never even met in person? How does a dominant know whether they want to dominate you, accept your submission, decide to keep you or own you, before they have gotten a chance to know you better as a person? Have some sense about you, boy. This may be a kink site, but it is not some kind of free-for-all sex hook-up site where you go around waving a WANNA FUCK [or insert WANNA ### here] banner.

Kana -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 4:04:34 AM)
Send naked pics, home address, bank account information and all credit card numbers. On the first message. Otherwise, if that's not for you, why not try simply introducing yourself, say what attracted you to them out of the 100,000 doms on Cspace and what you have to offer them.

LilJuly76 -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 4:58:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HoneyBears - FR - quote: ORIGINAL: InsertUsernamehe Do you typically jist introduce yourself like on pof or okc or do you lay your cards on the table ie "I want to submit to you" How would you even know whether you want to submit to a total stranger you have never even met in person? How does a dominant know whether they want to dominate you, accept your submission, decide to keep you or own you, before they have gotten a chance to know you better as a person? Have some sense about you, boy. This may be a kink site, but it is not some kind of free-for-all sex hook-up site where you go around waving a WANNA FUCK [or insert WANNA ### here] banner. I notice this is a common trend online so called submissives self claim as slaves and randomly message Dominants saying "I'm your slave do whatever you want to me fuck me hard!"

DarkSteven -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 7:36:39 AM)
Fella, if you mean women, call them Dommes to avoid confusion. Now, if the only point you're messaging them is that they're female, you're doing it wrong. 90+% of the time, you will not be playing with them. You'll be shopping, taking out the trash...vanilla stuff. Women understand this but for some reason most men don't. So send them a vanilla message focusing on something about her that you like. Her taste in music, she's traveled to a place you've always wondered about - you get the idea. If she reads it, she'll be amazed.

OsideGirl -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 10:49:24 AM)
You email her like she's a human being rather than a fetish delivery system.

DesFIP -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 12:32:09 PM)
Read her profile. If she wants to be called Goddess by a total stranger, she'll say so. Otherwise address them by their screen name. If you don't fit the criteria in her profile, don't write. She won't make an exception for you.

Gauge -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 9:35:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: InsertUsernamehe to all the Doms out there. What do you expect when you get a message. is it better do do a more vanilla style message, or is it better to state your intentions out the gate? Also what are your thoughts on honnorifics (mistress,godess) in the first message? For me, the fact that we are both on a kink site actually negates any kink in any contact I have tried. To me, the kink is implied. I want to know about the person that I am writing to and I approach things with that in mind. I want to know if you like home cooked meals, I want to know what music you listen to, I want to know if you like pets, I want to know what their idea of a good time is. After I see if we have anything at all in common, I can then talk about kink. I usually tell the ones that do write to me, that they do not have to call me Sir if they do that, because my title means something to me and I feel that they can start doing that if we connect. I look at it this way, if you wouldn't walk up to someone in real life and say the things you might to introduce yourself, don't say them when trying to catch the attention of someone online. After all, for those of us that are, in fact, actual people, we have heard everything. I don't give a shit how submissive someone is, I want to know if I can eat dinner with them... or other things. Perhaps that does not make sense, but it does to me.

tittie -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 10:55:01 PM)
I don't lay my cards on the table Because I do not wish to submit to just anyone I'm picky like that

MizzesMia -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 11:00:03 PM)
OMG YES. YES. YES! EVERY WORD. quote: ORIGINAL: HoneyBears - FR - Have some sense about you, boy. This may be a kink site, but it is not some kind of free-for-all sex hook-up site where you go around waving a WANNA FUCK sign...

MizzesMia -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 11:02:53 PM)
[sm=agree.gif] quote: ORIGINAL: Gauge quote: ORIGINAL: InsertUsernamehe to all the Doms out there. What do you expect when you get a message. is it better do do a more vanilla style message, or is it better to state your intentions out the gate? Also what are your thoughts on honnorifics (mistress,godess) in the first message? For me, the fact that we are both on a kink site actually negates any kink in any contact I have tried. To me, the kink is implied. I want to know about the person that I am writing to and I approach things with that in mind. I want to know if you like home cooked meals, I want to know what music you listen to, I want to know if you like pets, I want to know what their idea of a good time is. After I see if we have anything at all in common, I can then talk about kink. I usually tell the ones that do write to me, that they do not have to call me Sir if they do that, because my title means something to me and I feel that they can start doing that if we connect. I look at it this way, if you wouldn't walk up to someone in real life and say the things you might to introduce yourself, don't say them when trying to catch the attention of someone online. After all, for those of us that are, in fact, actual people, we have heard everything. I don't give a shit how submissive someone is, I want to know if I can eat dinner with them... or other things. Perhaps that does not make sense, but it does to me.

MizzesMia -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 11:04:13 PM)
[sm=agree.gif] quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl You email her like she's a human being rather than a fetish delivery system. [sm=goodpost.gif][sm=goodpost.gif]

MizzesMia -> RE: How to message dom? (8/20/2016 11:05:29 PM)
[sm=agree.gif][sm=agree.gif][sm=agree.gif] quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Fella, if you mean women, call them Dommes to avoid confusion. Now, if the only point you're messaging them is that they're female, you're doing it wrong. 90+% of the time, you will not be playing with them. You'll be shopping, taking out the trash...vanilla stuff. Women understand this but for some reason most men don't. So send them a vanilla message focusing on something about her that you like. Her taste in music, she's traveled to a place you've always wondered about - you get the idea. If she reads it, she'll be amazed. [sm=goodpost.gif][sm=goodpost.gif][sm=goodpost.gif]

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: How to message dom? (8/21/2016 12:30:23 AM)
quote: Also what are your thoughts on honnorifics (mistress,godess) in the first message? I find the idea both funny and pathetic at the same time. Sorry.

SnowRanger -> RE: How to message dom? (8/21/2016 12:57:11 AM)
Hello A/all, This one is pretty easy really. What would you do face to face? I recognize that society has coarsened recently, but, "Da-Yum Bitch!' is still met with disdain. CS is just a place to find people with similar interests. You still have to start with step one... "Hello, how are you?" We guys seem to think that just because this is CollarSpace we can skip the first 14 steps. Mention something in her profile that piqued your interest. "I see that you listed Chainsaw-Operation in your Lives-For. Do you prefer Husquvarna or Stihl? See? Intelligent questions about her profile will get you points. If you absolutely have to mention a photo, "Nice tits!" isn't going to make it. Asking her about the stone on her necklace would be better. I don't worry about protocol in my first missive. I use I rather than i and you rather than You. If she has preferences, you will know soon enough. DO NOT EVER send her an unsolicited photo of a rooster! Period! The ladies are universally disgusted with "cock shots." That one seems reasonable to me. Good luck in your search, Mike SnowRanger

princessmika -> RE: How to message dom? (8/21/2016 12:13:50 PM)
For Me personally, the biggest annoyance with receiving messages is when the sub didn't properly research anything about Me. For example, on here, this means he didn't read My profile, especially when the sub seemingly is copying and pasting a generic message. Somewhere else, it could mean the sub didn't read the FAQ of My website and/or asked Me information that is readily available on My website. I find that, if the sub has properly done research, there's a 95% chance that the message will be responded to. It's when the sub didn't even respect My time enough to do some basic reading that I have available for everyone to read, that is when I simply disregard the message.

MistressLinda50 -> RE: How to message dom? (8/25/2016 9:44:04 AM)
I have to agree with most of you. I respond more to those messages that start with a nice greeting and talks to me as the woman I am. I agree stating you're my SLAVE in the first contact is just outside, I don't know you and I don't know yet if I want to, the same for you writing me. I feel let's get to know each other and then see where or if it will go further.

NookieNotes -> RE: How to message dom? (8/26/2016 7:26:58 AM)
A recent exchange: Him: Mistress your slave awaits your direction. Me: I don't own you. You are not my slave. Him: Your slave is new to this and hopes to be broken in by a Mistress like you. Me: I'm not sure what makes you think that this is how you approach a dominant woman, but you are going about it all wrong. Him: Mistress, please instruct your slave in the correct way. As your slave said he is a virgin at this and has not received training. Me: It is not my responsibility to teach you how behave like a worthwhile human being. Is this how you would introduce yourself to a woman at a restaurant? Would you keep calling yourself her slave, even after she said you were not? How did you make it to 61 acting this way? I won't respond again, if you can't figure out how to act like a decent chap. Him: goodbye.

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