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Married men - 9/2/2016 12:18:57 PM   
Rush30


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Status: offline 		I sent a message to a women trying to start a conversation. She responded by saying she's not going to help a married man cheat on his wife.
I state clearly on my profile that my wife is aware of my activities on this site.

Does that mean that most women think I'm lying about my wife knowing?

I've seen several profiles from married women who are not looking to leave their husbands and just want to have fun.
Is this just the difference between
married men and married women?

Even just to have fun, dont women want to play with married men?
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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 12:43:45 PM   
littleladybug


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ORIGINAL: Rush30


Even just to have fun, dont women want to play with married men?


This woman doesn't.

Honestly, even if I were interested in getting involved with someone married, whose wife knew about it, I'd be very wary of any involvement until I communicated directly with the wife. Of course you would never do this, but I assure you that there are very many married guys around the internet who lie about their wife being ok with their extra-marital dalliances.


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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 12:47:02 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Until I talked to the spouse (either gender) - I wouldn't believe it.

In most cases (not all) women tend to look for relationships, so being involved with a married man is unappealing because it will not ever be a full relationship. Men tend to be more flexible about sex and relationships, so it's less of an issue to be involved in something that isn't going any further.

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 12:51:48 PM   
WhoreMods


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Status: offline 		Now if you're playing around with women besides your wife, I wonder how that herpes thing happened?

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 12:54:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Until I talked to the spouse (either gender) - I wouldn't believe it.

Bingo!

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 1:09:51 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Many women will want to talk directly with your wife to make sure she is okay with you having a play partner. There are also women who will not play with you even if your wife is okay with it. Being married will limit you in finding partners.

Whether BDSM is involved or not, it's always easier for a woman to find a partner than it is for a man. For example, if a woman would walk into a bar the odds that she can find someone who will join her in bed are pretty high. Not so much for a guy. So it's more a difference between men and women rather than married men and married women.




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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 1:16:51 PM   
Rush30


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Status: offline 		My question didn't have anything to do with herpes. But to satisfy your assumption, i caught my herpes from my wife to whom I've been married to for over 20 years, and she had it before we were married, and I knew about her having herpes after our 2nd date.

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 1:25:54 PM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		yeah that's the way to keep partners safe.

I do BDSM play in my D/s relationships, I don't have sex so being involved with a married man would be on my no list.

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 1:54:29 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		To be honest, not a lot of women would be willing to risk catching herpes for a casual sex relationship.

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 2:10:48 PM   
WhoreMods


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ORIGINAL: Rush30

My question didn't have anything to do with herpes.

Your other thread did.

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 2:11:22 PM   
Rush30


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Status: offline 		@osidegirl I posted another question in the health page about herpes. I try to address the issues of engaging in sexual activists with someone based on the assumption that they are STI free just because they say so.

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 2:14:08 PM   
Rush30


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Status: offline 		@whoremods I posted 2 separate questions in 2 different pages. Please stay on point for each question.
I want to hear what you have to say, just respond to each question separately. Thank you

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 2:18:07 PM   
WhoreMods


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Status: offline 		So just how did you find out that your wife had herpes on the second date, then?


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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 2:24:20 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Rush30

Please stay on point for each question.


Thread drift is normal and you don't get to control the thread.

Much like checking with the spouse, I also expect people to show me that they don't have an STD.


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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 2:45:23 PM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		with AIDS and other STD's, if people are going to have multiple sexual partners, they need to get checked and make sure their partners are checked.

and yes OP you can't control where threads go so get over it.

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 3:14:27 PM   
Rush30


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Status: offline 		She told me she had it. She wanted to open and honest about it. Just like I'm being open and honest about it today.





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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 3:24:39 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: LilJuly76

with AIDS and other STD's, if people are going to have multiple sexual partners, they need to get checked and make sure their partners are checked.




I used to make sure that my partners had paperwork.


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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 3:24:58 PM   
Rush30


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Status: offline 		Yes they should get checked. But the test ( especially for herpes) has to be done at the right time. Meaning the virus's may not show up on a test in the first 3 months. You can get false readings as well.
After the test Did person A have sex with someone after the test? before they had sex with person B?

As I said most doctors don't test for HSV, you have to ask for it. Because the medical world dosnt consider herpes a health threat.
The worst thing about herpes is the stigma. Also so many people are misinformed or uninformed.

I wasn't being rude by asking people to keep answers with the appropriate question, so I don't think you should rude to me.

I'm here just trying to find answers, and I hope posting questions doesn't become a shooting gallery.

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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 3:52:50 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: Rush30


As I said most doctors don't test for HSV, you have to ask for it. Because the medical world dosnt consider herpes a health threat.
The worst thing about herpes is the stigma. Also so many people are misinformed or uninformed.




You keep trying to paint it as a non-issue because it benefits you to have it viewed that way.

Sorry, regardless of whether it's viewed as a health threat by the medical profession (not entirely true since there are health issues that are associated with it) or if the chance is less than 1% without a break out....there's no way in hell I'd have casual sex with someone that has herpes.




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RE: Married men - 9/2/2016 4:49:30 PM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		if I had a Dominant that we did negotiate regular penis vagina sex, yes I would do that to. But subspace that's my sexual liberation, ten times better then a guys cock could ever be.

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