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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm not really big on posts that try to instruct people on human interaction that talk to people like they are children. Personally, I think we ought to let the 'on your kneezzzz, bitch' types alone. It saves the submissive women from having to waste their time on someone who's been 'coached' to have a conversation like a civilized human being.

However, I do applaud your attempt to begin a thread topic. While it is very gender/role specific, (it obviously comes from someone who is a het male who comes from the male D-type perspective) I'm sure it does help some people out there.

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm not really big on posts that try to instruct people on human interaction that talk to people like they are children. Personally, I think we ought to let the 'on your kneezzzz, bitch' types alone. It saves the submissive women from having to waste their time on someone who's been 'coached' to have a conversation like a civilized human being.

However, I do applaud your attempt to begin a thread topic. While it is very gender/role specific, (it obviously comes from someone who is a het male who comes from the male D-type perspective) I'm sure it does help some people out there.

When I was single, I wished for a way to filter out the fucking lesbians. Why the fuck so many lesbians are looking for "dominant men" is beyond me. Not to mention their profiles were almost invariably tedious as fuck.

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm not really big on posts that try to instruct people on human interaction that talk to people like they are children. Personally, I think we ought to let the 'on your kneezzzz, bitch' types alone. It saves the submissive women from having to waste their time on someone who's been 'coached' to have a conversation like a civilized human being.

However, I do applaud your attempt to begin a thread topic. While it is very gender/role specific, (it obviously comes from someone who is a het male who comes from the male D-type perspective) I'm sure it does help some people out there.

When I was single, I wished for a way to filter out the fucking lesbians. Why the fuck so many lesbians are looking for "dominant men" is beyond me. Not to mention their profiles were almost invariably tedious as fuck.

Because being Dommed isn't always about sex
Is that really that hard of a concept to grasp?

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm not really big on posts that try to instruct people on human interaction that talk to people like they are children. Personally, I think we ought to let the 'on your kneezzzz, bitch' types alone. It saves the submissive women from having to waste their time on someone who's been 'coached' to have a conversation like a civilized human being.

However, I do applaud your attempt to begin a thread topic. While it is very gender/role specific, (it obviously comes from someone who is a het male who comes from the male D-type perspective) I'm sure it does help some people out there.

When I was single, I wished for a way to filter out the fucking lesbians. Why the fuck so many lesbians are looking for "dominant men" is beyond me. Not to mention their profiles were almost invariably tedious as fuck.

Because being Dommed isn't always about sex
Is that really that hard of a concept to grasp?

Actually, it's because they're fake profiles. They're set up by scammers because so many men have the "Turn a Lesbian" fantasy and they hope she'll bring her lesbian friends. (Ever notice how many incredibly hot lesbians this site has?)

We used to catch the same IP address with dozens of these accounts - same with Femme Dommes and Unicorns.

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

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ORIGINAL: Awareness

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'm not really big on posts that try to instruct people on human interaction that talk to people like they are children. Personally, I think we ought to let the 'on your kneezzzz, bitch' types alone. It saves the submissive women from having to waste their time on someone who's been 'coached' to have a conversation like a civilized human being.

However, I do applaud your attempt to begin a thread topic. While it is very gender/role specific, (it obviously comes from someone who is a het male who comes from the male D-type perspective) I'm sure it does help some people out there.

When I was single, I wished for a way to filter out the fucking lesbians. Why the fuck so many lesbians are looking for "dominant men" is beyond me. Not to mention their profiles were almost invariably tedious as fuck.

Because being Dommed isn't always about sex
Is that really that hard of a concept to grasp?

Actually, it's because they're fake profiles. They're set up by scammers because so many men have the "Turn a Lesbian" fantasy and they hope she'll bring her lesbian friends. (Ever notice how many incredibly hot lesbians this site has?)

We used to catch the same IP address with dozens of these accounts - same with Femme Dommes and Unicorns.

Online sure, don't doubt that. But I know lesbians and asexual women who have Doms or enjoy being topped by men and no sex is involved

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl
Online sure, don't doubt that. But I know lesbians and asexual women who have Doms or enjoy being topped by men and no sex is involved

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl
Online sure, don't doubt that. But I know lesbians and asexual women who have Doms or enjoy being topped by men and no sex is involved

Yeah? How many?

I'm not saying the number is zero. Lets do the math...

Of ALL of the people that you know involved in BDSM, what is the ridiculously small number of female lesbians who are engaged with het men?

Do you know why those profiles get created. It's because there are (some) men dumb enough to fall for the fantasy and it gets their dick hard.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<RAISES HAND.>

I'm a straight woman who engages in BDSM with other women. At any given time, a full THIRD of my casual play partners are female.

Do you know why?

It's because women feel safer with me than 99% of the het male tops out there.

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ORIGINAL: ohthat1percent

Interesting read. I tend to disagree with the "power" concept, as in the sub has all the power. In all actuality, each person -- while online especially has their own power. I mean its online and people are adults. I do agree that a Man or Woman should not act like anyone's personal Dom before the actual relationship is solidified. However, here's where my beliefs tend to tangent off from many others. I want a man to be who he is and for me dominance is a part of his persona. For me, I don't see being a dominant or dominance as actions, I see it as part of the core of a man. So yes, I want to sense the dominance in him, I want to feel that power in him. This is not "actions" or words, its his demeanor, its his personality, it comes out in how he communicates etc. grins, I also want someone to communicate with me as what they feel is being a dominant. If they chose to say kneel or whatever other perceived dominant phrase, I WANT them to do so -- why? Because it will allow me to cut the BS. I would rather not have people trained to hide that to "get someone to speak with them." If their way of addressing someone they don't know who has the label or self-identification as sub or slave is to tell them to kneel, talk down to them etc, bring it on. It simply means I can easily delete you and not waste my time trying to figure out if dominance is a character you put on and take off or if its part of the building block of their persona.

Do messages get annoying -- sure but you don't even need to open emails to see what someone says. So its really not that big of a deal - - in the end, I don't want people "coached" as to how to approach me as a submissive because the men who are simple dominant men as who they are -- its not what they do.

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ORIGINAL: Bayudness

the " your couching a dumbass to be a better less detectable dumbass" point is one that I had not thought of. I really don't think a fakey wannabee would really understand what I am saying in my OP and wouldn't change his ways really, But it is a good point.

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ORIGINAL: NookieNotes

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ORIGINAL: Bayudness

the " your couching a dumbass to be a better less detectable dumbass" point is one that I had not thought of. I really don't think a fakey wannabee would really understand what I am saying in my OP and wouldn't change his ways really, But it is a good point.

I think it's utter shite. It's exclusionary and smacks of high school.

I go out of my way to teach people to interact better. I WANT people to learn how to connect with others. Most humans can only be their best human selves in connection with other humans they can learn from and grow with.

Give them the chance.

Many will not take it. And that's OK.

But to suggest that some people do not "deserve" to learn how to interact successfully? Ugh! What horrible snootiness. For shame.

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ORIGINAL: ohthat1percent

Interesting read. I tend to disagree with the "power" concept, as in the sub has all the power. In all actuality, each person -- while online especially has their own power. I mean its online and people are adults. I do agree that a Man or Woman should not act like anyone's personal Dom before the actual relationship is solidified. However, here's where my beliefs tend to tangent off from many others. I want a man to be who he is and for me dominance is a part of his persona. For me, I don't see being a dominant or dominance as actions, I see it as part of the core of a man. So yes, I want to sense the dominance in him, I want to feel that power in him. This is not "actions" or words, its his demeanor, its his personality, it comes out in how he communicates etc. grins, I also want someone to communicate with me as what they feel is being a dominant. If they chose to say kneel or whatever other perceived dominant phrase, I WANT them to do so -- why? Because it will allow me to cut the BS. I would rather not have people trained to hide that to "get someone to speak with them." If their way of addressing someone they don't know who has the label or self-identification as sub or slave is to tell them to kneel, talk down to them etc, bring it on. It simply means I can easily delete you and not waste my time trying to figure out if dominance is a character you put on and take off or if its part of the building block of their persona.

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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire


Bayudness You asked for opinions. To me you just wrote that because you wish women to perceive yourself to be, intelligent, credible, responsible, methodical and in demand from the feebler of the species who lack a modicum of intelligence. Strange I have seen almost the exact same thing written not to long ago

OR I actually am interested in other points of view on this. and to this end asked for these opinions.I do not wish anyone to perceive me as anything more then a curious poster stating what I see. If what you said were true I certainly wouldn't do it online where perception itself is a skewed chaotic mixture of txt. I assure you I am genuinely interested for my own self and for others gratification.

< Message edited by Bayudness -- 9/27/2016 6:07:42 AM >

(in reply to WickedsDesire)