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freedomdwarf1 -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 1:36:46 PM)
This might help to explain things. Excerpt: "Dan Savage once observed that “most adult bisexuals, for whatever reason, wind up in opposite-sex relationships.” Whether or not you’re a fan of Savage (or his sometimes dubious takes on bisexuality), the statistics support his assertion: The massive 2013 Pew Research LGBT Survey found 84 percent of self-identified bisexuals in committed relationships have a partner of the opposite sex, while only 9 percent are in same-sex relationships." This would seem to back up Ishtar's assertion.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 1:58:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl Cite? I don't cite sources for an informal discussion on a message board (you're not grading my papers). If that makes you disregard my statements, I don't really care, as we're not engaging in any kind of formal debate. However, there are various studies out there that indicate that: - Women are much more likely to start off identifying as heterosexual, to later shift to being bisexual - Bisexual women are much more likely to have more long term relationships with men than women - Bisexual woman are more likely than bisexual men to never have a same sex relationship, and only have infrequent sexual contact with their own sex (sexual adventures with women are cool; dating them is not) They shouldn't be hard to find if you're really interested. All of those things would make that a lesbian might very well be wary to trust that a bisexual woman is really interested in a long term relationship, instead of just 'experimenting' until the right man comes along. Thanks. I wonder if that's because of societal pressure though. Being that heterosexuality is more accepted in general than homosexuality. If I fell in love with a woman and wasn't already married to my husband the only thing holding me back from being in a committed relationship would be how my friends and family would react, honestly. And I hate that. I'm understanding better why a lesbian would worry about a bisexual woman. But I don't think the reasons you give are why the OP has an issue with bisexual women. Her reason was because cocks are gross. Explain that one quote: ORIGINAL: bondageerone lesbian means women for women, the site of a mans c... makes me sick... I do not hate men.. my pleasure comes from women only. so bi girls who play both ways are out for me... xx

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 2:03:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl Her reason was because cocks are gross. Explain that one It's her preference. It's really quite simple. [8\|]

Danemora -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 2:11:15 PM)
People do not owe you an explanation or justification regarding their own sexual preferences because...to be blunt...its really none of your business who they are sexual with or why.

Kana -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 2:14:41 PM)
From the Washington Post "More specifically, 1.8 percent of men self-identify as gay and 0.4 percent as bisexual, and 1.5 percent of women self-identify as lesbian and 0.9 percent as bisexual. The results are generally in the same ballpark as past estimates — and far below the long-debunked 10 percent estimate." 1.5% of the population isn't a lot. As C-space tends to be a micro that is pretty representative of the macro, that answers your question there. Purely as an observation from clubs, it seems everyone in my area thirty or younger is A-Bi and B-a switch. Greedy fucks.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 3:10:22 PM)
FR I see no problem with a lesbian not wnting a relationship with a bi woman. I don't want a relationship with a straight guy, therefore I only date bi guys. As for UllrsIshtar's claim about bi women and their relationships, well I agree with her, I don't personally know any bi women who had long term relationships with women, they had flings and some really torrid affairs, but not actual long term relationships, so yeah, in my admittedly very limited personal experience, bi women do men more than women.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 3:19:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick FR I see no problem with a lesbian not wnting a relationship with a bi woman. I don't want a relationship with a straight guy, therefore I only date bi guys. As for UllrsIshtar's claim about bi women and their relationships, well I agree with her, I don't personally know any bi women who had long term relationships with women, they had flings and some really torrid affairs, but not actual long term relationships, so yeah, in my admittedly very limited personal experience, bi women do men more than women. Personal question, are you worried about the bi guys leaving you for other men?

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 3:27:56 PM)
No more than I am worried about them leaving me for another woman, it's not something I concern myself with.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 4:05:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick No more than I am worried about them leaving me for another woman, it's not something I concern myself with. Yeah, that's how I'd feel too. Interesting discussion all.around. I am better informed. I apologize to any offense I may have caused.

Bhruic -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 4:09:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick Why not, plenty of women rule out bi men. True. I was just wondering about the motivation. I think many lesbians consider bi girls as tourists, who will never commit to a relationship. I'm not saying that is so, I'm just repeating what I have heard lesbian friends say... But I have other lesbian friends who don't seem to care, and judge commitment on its own merits. I think women who rule out bi men often do it for different reasons... more visceral reasons that they may not always understand, but that don't come from a good place, IMHO.

Diffident -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 4:26:11 PM)
Another possible reason why a Lesbian would only want to be with another Lesbian is that growing up she might have faced overt discrimination/harassment/bullying, feelings of not fitting in, of not being like other girls, of being alone, rejection by family members/previous friends, or else the paralysing fear of this keeping her from being honest about who she really, maybe for many years, and that only someone else who had also been through it could truly understand. Growing up Gay can be tough in ways that I know that I could not even begin to imagine, which is why the Teenage Gay suicide rate is shockingly high. Being Bi is not the same thing at all really. I am with freedomdwarf1 on this particular flame war though. No-one ever needs to have a reason or explanation for what their preferences or requirements are in a potential partner. Whether Straight/Gay or Bi, it could be "Must have Long, Dark Hair, Tattoos, Oh and they must have an Irish accent. Yum. Yum. Reason? Because that is what I like." and it really is no-one else's business but theirs.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 4:44:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl I apologize to any offense I may have caused. Just for the record: I don't think you're wrong for calling a lesbian whose reason for not dating bisexual women is "cause cock is disgusting" a bigot. I just don't think that ALL reasons lesbians have for not dating bisexual women are bigoted in nature.

Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 4:46:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl I apologize to any offense I may have caused. Just for the record: I don't think you're wrong for calling a lesbian whose reason for not dating bisexual women is "cause cock is disgusting" a bigot. I just don't think that ALL reasons lesbians have for not dating bisexual women are bigoted in nature. Agreed

ohthat1percent -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 5:29:54 PM)
You do realize there are many BDSM sites that actually charge. There are also, I believe, gay and lesbian sited that charge. If you are so eager for a charge, why aren't you looking into those? quote: ORIGINAL: bondageerone ps to lucy. I have suggested many times to C/S they make a charge.. this would hopefully get rid of the morons/idiots.. like ????? you know who I mean xx

ohthat1percent -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/12/2016 5:47:19 PM)
Fast Reply -- just a general reply to all the various responses I have read thus far --- I am finding it odd people are discombobulated because people differentiate between Straight, Gay and bisexual, and state that they don't want men or women who are whatever. Does it matter why? More so, it shouldn't matter to anyone but that person. It always seems people ask this "what's the motivation or reason behind what you want or more so "don't want," kind of question in an accusatory way, as if the people who don't want bisexuals or gays or straight are somehow wrong. People like what they like, it shouldn't matter why or what their motivation is for not wanting to be with certain people especially sexually. Sometimes people can articulate it -- other times the reason is simply it squicks them out because that's what they feel. Its not wrong, its not incorrect, and its not offensive -- it simply is someone's personal sexual preference or relationship preference. The only other thing it does is narrow their playing field. I mean seriously people are allowed their preferences -- it gets really tiring when people who are what the person doesn't want they have a concept of offense and believe they are owed an explanation and if that explanation isn't sufficient then that person is wrong in their sexual preferences of people. I do note that the "disapproval" tone comes more with gays not wanting bisexual people than heterosexuals not wanting bisexuals. Odd how that is Sexual preference and attraction should not be held to political correctness of accepting anything and anyone because otherwise you are discriminating, Sorry but that is just wrong thinking. Everyone has preferences -- it doesn't matter why. People need to just accept that people may just not be into them because of whahtever..

bondageerone -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/13/2016 2:38:21 AM)
dear Great...... you are entitled to your way, and the amount of men that want me, purely for sex, shows me how pathetic they really are. xx

Greta75 -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/13/2016 3:32:45 AM)
FR The reason I would not engage with a bisexual male. Is you know relationships come and go. But I would hate to be left for another man. By a man ya know! That be crap! Also, it's like I want a pure dominant and not a switch. A part of me will always feel like he is not "whole" without male sex. Just like a switch is not "whole" without switching. So I totally understand lesbians not wanting to date a bisexual. In my country, it's very bitter for lesbians when they lose their girlfriend to a male. Seems to hurt worst.

Greta75 -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/13/2016 3:45:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl Her reason was because cocks are gross. Explain that one I am a straight woman who thinks cocks are gross. I mean seriously. From my first sight of a cock. I never liked how it looked like. Till today, I still don't like the appearance of any cocks. I just like how it feels inside me. But I always don't like the appearances of it. I like looking at wrists and calves better than cocks. And I have met straight men who also tell me, they don't like the appearances of vaginas! It's just, physical preferences and taste in aesthetic things. Like, some things just don't look great to some people forever.

longwayhome -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/13/2016 4:35:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic Were you guaranteed lesbians when you signed on??? You should ask for your money back. [sm=goodpost.gif] Sorry for getting to this post a bit late, but this is so true. The rest of the stuff on the thread about personal preference is a bit beyond me. Why should we be bothered about anyone else's preferences or judge them for it? As long as it's a personal preference and not an open prejudice, what is the problem? You can choose not to hang around with certain people in your personal life, but as long as you respect them in your workplace, at the shops, when you meet them on night's out etc. what's the beef? It's a bit of a shame if I am attracted to someone and they aren't attracted to me because I'm the wrong sex or sexuality but, ho hum, that's life. I'm sure plenty of people don't like my attitude, clothes, friends or politics either. What I am sure about is that nobody gets a written guarantee of "finding" the person they want on this or any other site. Life doesn't present this stuff to you gift-wrapped, so why do people have the expectation that a website will, no matter how specialised it is? [Rhetorical question of course]

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