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thishereboi -> RE: ON C/S A REAL SHORTAGE OF (10/14/2016 3:54:03 AM)
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar
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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl
Can't help but feel people who object to bisexuals do it because it bothers them on a personal level, not a rational one. Same level that bothers people when they find out I've been with non white guys. Pure discrimnation. And honestly someone with such a closed bigoted mind wouldn't be attractive to me anyway, so they can be miserable and complain about not finding anyone to meet their bigoted standards. Karma.
It's not unusual for actual lesbians to not only want to not have sex with men, but to also not want to have close personal relationships/friendships with men. Their circle of friends are only other females, they don't want to talk about anything that involves men, they don't like watching romantic comedies that involve heterosexual relationships, they hang out at lesbian bars instead of typical bars, their hobbies are female orientated, etc, etc.
All without them necessarily hating men (though some do). They just don't like living in a heterosexual dominated culture where they're constantly confronted with how they are 'different' and so they avoid that culture, and instead hang out in their own culture.
It's really no different from born deaf people who went to deaf schools having a whole culture of their own, and hanging out primarily with other Deaf people (look up the difference between Deaf with a big D, and deaf with a small d).
You, as a bisexual girl, would presumable not have that same desire to avoid typical heterosexual culture. You'd have friendships with males, you'd readily watch heterosexual dominated movies, you wouldn't want to exclusively go to lesbian bars/bdsm clubs, etc, etc.
Which would make you a TERRIBLE partner for a lesbian who has no interest in such things.
That's got nothing to do with her being bigoted. It's got nothing to do with her disapproving of you, or your past.
It's just got to do with the fact that, due to your interest in men (past or future) you wouldn't be very compatible with her style of life.
You saying that it's bigoted for somebody to only want to engage with partners with which they share mutual cultural interests, and declining to engage with partners who are socially incompatible with themselves because of sexual interests is extremely shortsighted and prudish.
It's akin to claiming that just because somebody is a heterosexual male they SHOULD be attracted to post-op mtF transsexuals, and that if they're not, they're bigots.
I am sure there are lesbians who fall neatly into the life you have painted above but in my experience they are few and far between. Mostly in the pages of fiction material to be honest.
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