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*ahem* Courtesy of Karen Straughan, here is the female privilege list. It's not necessarily comprehensive, although I do believe it covers the main bases.
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Women are requested to consider whether they can answer "yes" to these questions:
1) People are likely to assume I am a warm and empathetic person.
2) People are likely to assist me when I must perform a physically arduous task.
3) If my car breaks down or I am otherwise in distress, people will be more likely to stop and help me.
4) If I am being physically assaulted, no matter the gender of my assailant, it is more likely that passersby will intervene.
5) People are likely to assume I am a competent parent, unless and until I prove otherwise.
6) People are more likely to respect my right to be offended by inappropriate or impolite behavior.
7) If I yell, people are not likely to believe I am going to hurt them.
8) Dress codes in the workplace and in leisure contexts are more likely to allow me to choose clothing that emphasize my most attractive features and minimize those I am unhappy with.
9) I am allowed by society to wear make-up to make myself more attractive without anyone questioning my sexual orientation. I am given a large social leeway in the kinds of hairstyles I can choose that will flatter my facial features.
10) If I work in a profession that is dominated by the opposite gender, people are likely to see it as "heroic", or a sign of social progress, rather than that I am deficient in some way.
11) If I show weakness, the first response of most people will be to console or help me, not criticize me, ignore me, or dismiss me as pathetic.
12) I am not expected to make the "first move" when meeting members of the opposite sex for the purposes of dating.
13) Members of the opposite gender are expected to make the first move; therefore, it is less likely I will be sexually rejected by those I come into close contact with in a dating context.
14) I am not expected to spend a significant portion of my yearly income on a token that accompanies a marriage proposal.
15) I am less likely to be expected to spend a significant amount of money on gifts, tokens, and activities during courtship and dating.
16) If I am having dinner with a member of the opposite gender in a dating context, and I do not reach for the check, people are unlikely to assume I am cheap.
17) If I am having dinner with a member of the opposite gender in a non-dating context, and I do not reach for the check, people are still unlikely to assume I am cheap.
18) If I earn less than my partner, no one will look at me funny.
19) If I earn nothing and my partner supports me, no one will look at me funny.
20) If I am unemployed and my partner is supporting me, people other than my partner are unlikely to pressure me because I am "not trying hard enough" to find employment.
21) If I earn less than my partner, people are unlikely to expect me to contribute equally to our living expenses.
22) If I am skilled in activities/hobbies that are commonly attributed to the opposite gender (kick boxing, operating power tools, shingling a roof, knitting, scrap-booking, floral arranging), people will see me as admirable. No one is likely to think I am a weirdo or wonder if I'm gay.
23) If I am completing a task with a member of the opposite gender, it will be expected that they take the greater physical burden--such as carrying the heavier boxes.
24) If I cry or am hurt, men and women are unlikely to tell me to "suck it up".
25) If I choose to stay at home with my children while my partner works, people are unlikely to think I am a deadbeat, unskilled, or shirking my responsibility to my family.
26) If I choose discontinue, temporarily leave, or reduce my participation in a high-status career in order to spend time at home caring for children, people are likely to consider it a "noble sacrifice" rather than a waste of my talents.
27) If I work and have a family, my employer will be less likely to require me to work overtime or bring work home with me. This will be the case even if I equally share domestic duties with my partner, or have outside domestic help (housekeeper, nanny).
28) If an employer claims to have "non-sexist" hiring policies, I can assume this to mean that members of my gender will be more likely to be hired, rather than less.
29) If I choose a career in early childhood or elementary level education, or volunteer to work with youth, no one will wonder if it's because I am a pedophile. They will trust me, even if they are aware that members of my own gender can and sometimes do use these positions to facilitate their sexual abuse of children.
30) If I commit a crime against children, even before details come out, people are likely to want to believe I have been falsely accused, was "failed by the system", or was somehow "driven to it" by factors outside my control (such as mental illness, poverty, lack of social services, childhood abuse), because members of my gender "just don't do stuff like that". It is unlikely they will automatically attribute my actions to unprovoked aggression or hold me entirely responsible for them.
31) If I am a victim of domestic violence, there are many services in my community that will help people of my gender. It is unlikely I will be denied services based on my gender.
32) If my partner physically abuses me, I will be believed by the authorities. Their belief will not depend on whether I have physical signs of injury.
33) If I physically abuse my partner, people--including the authorities and victim's services personnel--are likely to assume it was in self defence. Even if I tell them I hit first and my partner is non-violent, they are likely to wonder if my partner did something to instigate the assault, like cheating on me, yelling at me, or otherwise provoking me to lose control.
34) If I physically abuse my partner, and they reciprocate, they are as likely or more likely to be the one arrested as I am, even if my partner's reciprocation was in self-defence.
35) If my partner physically abuses me, and I reciprocate--even if I admit my reciprocation was not in self-defence but out of anger--it is unlikely that I will be arrested.
36) If I am divorced, and my ex-partner earns more than I do, it is more likely I will be awarded spousal support, even if am employed and self-supporting, than if our positions were reversed.
37) If I am divorced, the default assumption in the family court system is that I will have primary custody of my children. This will be the case, even if my ex-partner and I shared breadwinning and childcare duties roughly equally during the marriage.
38) If my ex-partner sues me for custody, they are unlikely to be as successful as I would be were our positions reversed. The burden will be on them to prove I am an unfit parent, rather than that they are more fit, before this likelihood tips in their favor.
39) If I am divorced, I will in almost every case be awarded child support. If my ex-partner does not abide by the terms of the custody/child support order, they will face legal consequences as serious as a prison sentence. They will face these consequences even if their reason for not paying is that their financial situation has changed since the marriage. They will face these consequences even if I do not fulfill my own legal obligations spelled out in the custody order to permit or facilitate their access to my children--my right to distance myself from my ex-partner is likely to take precedence over my children's right to involvement with their non-custodial parent.
40) If I am divorced and my partner is awarded primary custody of my children, I will only rarely be required to pay child support, even if I can afford it. If I am required to pay child support and I do not, for whatever reason, it is unlikely that I will face any legal consequences.
41) If I abuse the legal process during my divorce by obtaining a fraudulent temporary restraining order, misrepresenting my financial status, hiding assets, or otherwise perjuring myself, it is very unlikely I will be charged with a crime. In fact, my abuse of the legal process--even after it has been discovered by the court--is likely to benefit me in matters such as custody. Moreover, "the good of the children" will be treated as a reason to not penalize me monetarily--such as by reducing my share of joint assets.
42) If my ex-partner abuses the legal process in the above ways, they are more likely to be penalized criminally by being charged, or monetarily through reduction of their share of our joint assets.
43) If I have consensual sex with my partner and we are both underage, and a charge of statutory rape is filed, I will never be the one charged. This will be the case even if I pressured my partner to have sex and they objected.
44) If I am raped by a member of the opposite gender, and I am not below the age of consent, no one will tell me such a crime does not exist.
45) If I am raped by a member of the opposite gender, knowledgeable members of the medical and criminal justice communities are unlikely to consider my body's involuntary and automatic responses to sexual stimuli as "proof" that I gave consent.
46) If I am the victim of a statutory rape committed by a member of the opposite gender, and it results in a pregnancy, I will have a choice as to what my parental responsibilities to that child will be. I will not be legally required to be financially responsible for a child that results if I have been raped by an adult.
So in regards to your female privilege... well, there's that for a start.
Now I don't necessarily have a problem with this, because I'm a gender essentialist. I have privileges which women don't and vice versa. It's swings and roundabouts and it generally all evens out. However, I do have a problem with women whining about male privilege and forgetting to take a long, hard, look at themselves.
It gets back the fundamentals of men and women being biologically and therefore psychologically different. Unless we start to seriously mess with our DNA, we're pretty much always going to be different, so people need to suck it up and get on with their lives. Throwing all their effort into a fake cause ("women are oppressed!!!") because they have a need to believe in a fucking conspiracy theory is pathetic.
I seriously wish I had the time to go over these point by point. Unfortunately, I honestly don't.
Now, some of these, I would have said yes. Some, I didn't believe at all. Over half are things that are being discussed as privilege, without looking at the other side of it. Make-up made this category multiple times, as it completely forgets things like women having issues with employers over it, (i.e., employer insisting that women wear it in some jobs). Skips the fact of the cost, where you will have none. Same for hairstyles, as I'm paying more for my cuts than you will, even if we have the same hair length. I will also pay more for things like coloring. I didn't buy the lines that included any form of "people won't assume I'm gay". That's a crock. Ask any woman who has what some people would term 'a male looking cut'. Same thing happens for women in certain professions or good at certain athletics.
I'm big enough to admit, I had two that I felt were 'betterment of society' and those were about adults vrs children areas. No, I'm not saying women never do it. At the same time, I think you have to consider how many people have been arrested for sexually harming children and just which gender is more likely to be a member of NAMBLA. I don't have the link. (Maybe somebody will with the description, as it was just a few days ago.) Man was molesting a teen girl on a bus. Another man thought something didn't look right and beat the sh^t out of the perpetrator. Correction. Found the link. http://pix11.com/2016/10/27/hip-hop-artist-stops-sexual-assault-of-teen-girl-on-queens-bus/
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