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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 2:37:34 AM   
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Because he said "turning" vanilla women. Predatory language. My instincts tell me experienced subs don't give him a chance because they can spot a predator.

Actually, because I believe submissive traits is a natural sexual orientation, and you are born with it. There is no way anybody could, "Turn" a vanilla woman.

What they have done is "awaken" a submissive woman.

As one has to remember, society today encourages all women to be strong and independent and basically do better than men, so the idea of even being submissive to a man is quite alien these days. That's not what they are brought up to do these days.

IF she was a natural dominant, they couldn't have any success in "turning" her at all, that's what I believe.





I disagree. I think its a scale say to 100. When two people interact, typically the one with a higher level on the dominance scale will be in the Dominant position and the other sub. This is in all life. Work, vanilla relationships, friendships, etc.

Two low dominant people say a 10 and a 15 could still have a D/s relationship. A person at 97 could still sub to a 100.

Part of why I believe this is I have made some of my subs Dominate other subs. I have also seen Doms dominate other Doms.

*Also regarding turning... I didn't mean turn a dominant sub... I said turning as in turn a vanilla to kinky. Which I think is literally turning.


her point was you can't turn a truly vanilla girl kinky anymore than you can turn a truly gay man straight



Please read the quotes. You are missing something, a careful reread will show you are making an obvious error. :)

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 7:58:21 AM   
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No, no issues here at all.

Gentlemen take note and observe the number of red flags with this one. This is the demographic where false accusations are drawn from.

Ive never made an accusation false or otherwise, so fuck you, you woman hating cuntwaffle
Oh, you either have or you will. You clearly have major fucking issues. The chip on your shoulder is the least of it.


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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 8:34:40 AM   
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No, no issues here at all.

Gentlemen take note and observe the number of red flags with this one. This is the demographic where false accusations are drawn from.

Ive never made an accusation false or otherwise, so fuck you, you woman hating cuntwaffle
Oh, you either have or you will. You clearly have major fucking issues. The chip on your shoulder is the least of it.



Projecting much?

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 8:45:37 AM   
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I disagree. I think its a scale say to 100. When two people interact, typically the one with a higher level on the dominance scale will be in the Dominant position and the other sub. This is in all life. Work, vanilla relationships, friendships, etc.

Two low dominant people say a 10 and a 15 could still have a D/s relationship. A person at 97 could still sub to a 100.

Part of why I believe this is I have made some of my subs Dominate other subs. I have also seen Doms dominate other Doms.

*Also regarding turning... I didn't mean turn a dominant sub... I said turning as in turn a vanilla to kinky. Which I think is literally turning.

Vanilla to kinky isn't turning! Because many vanilla have not experienced kinky to EVEN KNOW whether they like it or not yet!
Kink like orientation of submissive or Dominant or Switches, I believe, you are born with it. You don't learn it. Because at your first exposure, you either hate it or love it depending on your natural orientation that is already there. It still is "awakening".

It's like anything you like or dislike, when you experience it, you will know.

As for those you claim like subs who subs others. They are switches. As simple as that.

Don't forget about switches. Personally for me, there is absolutely NO WAY I will ever consciously and willingly dominate, EVER. Not interested in dominating another sub either.

At work, I am a leader, in my vanilla life I am a leader. Nobody steps up. I step up! Everyone is afraid to make decisions. I make the decisions and take responsibility for it.

But that's work and not kink. Even at work, leading is my absolutely LAST option, but with Asians, many people are wishy and washy and if ya wanna get anything done, just volunteer and delegate and get them all together. Most just wanna follow instructions, nobody wants responsibility. And I am referring to anything, including just a simple event with friends.

One friend says, "We should do this!" Then it's all talk, nobody takes action. So I'll take action and put it together or no one else ever would. IF somebody else takes action, I will always offer my support and happy to follow another leader. Happier actually!

But that's real life. And if ya wanna get things done. You gotta step up and do it.

But in kink. Hell NO! Never ever dominating! And fortunately in kink, it's about finding a leader you want to follow who will never make you lead or expect you to lead.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 9:47:04 AM   
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Turning... them on to kink! Turning them them from a vanilla person to a kinky person. If you are their first, sure you do. Just like you would turn a virgin into a non virgin. Really everyone is obsessed with reading into a simple word. This is precisely why vanilla subs are easier in my experience.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 10:02:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe not so predatory as having different focuses than average lifestylers. Why do you assume he abandons them anyway? Maybe they just graduate to the more intensive stuff he isn't interested in, like full-on ageplay for instance (just guessing here.havent seen his profile)

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 10:11:43 AM   
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@Greta75 - And @everyone else :

Turning... them on to kink! Turning them them from a vanilla person to a kinky person. If you are their first, sure you do. Just like you would turn a virgin into a non virgin. Really everyone is obsessed with reading into a simple word. This is precisely why vanilla subs are easier in my experience.


And there it is folks, because they don't know any better they are easier.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 10:18:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		What makes you assume that these people he interacts with don't know any better? Do you know these people personally to be able to confirm that they do in fact not know any better?

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 11:03:23 AM   
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When I was last active here, I got a lot of people pissed at me because I said that single women in their thirties seemed to be depressed and have a ton of baggage. I imagine a few posters here remember that. I still think it's true. (On average, obviously there are exceptions.) But broad brush:

21-31: Hopeful about life, planning and happy.
41-51: Finally some me-time, let's be serious but have fun.

and

31-41: the Desert of Despair and Broken Promises.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 11:08:10 AM   
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@Greta75 - And @everyone else :

Turning... them on to kink! Turning them them from a vanilla person to a kinky person. If you are their first, sure you do. Just like you would turn a virgin into a non virgin. Really everyone is obsessed with reading into a simple word. This is precisely why vanilla subs are easier in my experience.


And there it is folks, because they don't know any better they are easier.



OMG, you really are the most self-righteous, sour, belittling, close-minded cunt that's been on these forums for a long time, aren't you? ... and that's saying a lot.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 11:14:49 AM   
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@Greta75 - And @everyone else :

Turning... them on to kink! Turning them them from a vanilla person to a kinky person. If you are their first, sure you do. Just like you would turn a virgin into a non virgin. Really everyone is obsessed with reading into a simple word. This is precisely why vanilla subs are easier in my experience.

Losing your virginity is breaking of a physical hymen.
Not the same as turning. You cannot turn natural orientation. You can't force a pure lesbian to be straight. You can't force a naturally dominant person to be submissive. You can't force someone who isn't into a specific kink to love it.

It has to be in them.

But breaking of hymen is a physical barrier all women have, and it's the physical act of tearing it open.

Submissive, dominant, kinks, gays, lesbians, all naturally inborn psychological orientation.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 11:18:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		There exits only two sites, of all sites I have ever been on I have been unable to meet someone from...this one...and that other one...Do I know people I have met on them - yes. Actually I am not sure there are any on here i actually have met in the real world. I think last time I searched this site it returned, from a population 5.3 million 30 women who had logged on in the last month. Of that 30, 6 may be real women as opposed to whorebags, men pretending they are women. of that potential 6 i cannot say for sure which were married or an utter fuking monster..i can run that for nottingham, london, new york.

For some strange reason women are pretty rare on these places, and the ones actually looking even rarer....its about 33-40:1 ratio wise on a good day. And you will find that most women, i cannot speak for the men, to be anchored to these sites and with powerbase to be in splendid relationships and yet still afford 25 hours a day to be here,

Choice is a wonderful thing.


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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 11:26:56 AM   
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21-31: Hopeful about life, planning and happy.
41-51: Finally some me-time, let's be serious but have fun.
and
31-41: the Desert of Despair and Broken Promises.

The most depressed end of the world time of my life was in my teens. After I left home, and stayed away from my parents who makes me wanna kill myself all the time, I just felt a peacefulness and hope I was unable to feel when I was living with them.
But what is interesting is, I was openly depressed and suicidal, but that is the stage of my life, looking back that amazes me, teenage boys don't mind and enjoy being my listening ear with no expectations. I don't know what is it about that time.

But of course, adult men, perhaps it is the daily stress they are going through in their own lives too, loves positive energy women, upbeat and cheerful to lift them. That's just the standard.

For me, it's always clear to me that when I want a man, the key is to be the person he always goes to for comfort and positivity. You always got to be stronger for him and don't fall apart.

Sad to say when I think about it. It sucks! Seems very catch 22 especially for a woman like me who seeks a strong man where I can be weak. But I find myself always having to be stronger.





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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 11:35:17 AM   
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There exits only two sites, of all sites I have ever been on I have been unable to meet someone from...this one...and that other one...

I really think it's because, you don't type normal! You kinda type in rhymes all the time. It's just strange. And many times I have no idea what you are typing about.
If there is one thing about women, communicating to them in a manner where they can feel a connection to you is important. And I don't know if you are playing a character online all the time or do you really speak like this in real life.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 12:19:18 PM   
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When I was last active here, I got a lot of people pissed at me because I said that single women in their thirties seemed to be depressed and have a ton of baggage. I imagine a few posters here remember that. I still think it's true. (On average, obviously there are exceptions.) But broad brush:

21-31: Hopeful about life, planning and happy.
41-51: Finally some me-time, let's be serious but have fun.

and

31-41: the Desert of Despair and Broken Promises.


Lol I feel like that is just true enough to be wise, if we take the age group to be an approximation of life stage/maturity rather than a hard number. And if that is so, I look forward to being 41!

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 12:35:45 PM   
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What makes you assume that these people he interacts with don't know any better? Do you know these people personally to be able to confirm that they do in fact not know any better?

He just said it himself. You're really defending this guy?

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 12:37:03 PM   
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@Greta75 - And @everyone else :

Turning... them on to kink! Turning them them from a vanilla person to a kinky person. If you are their first, sure you do. Just like you would turn a virgin into a non virgin. Really everyone is obsessed with reading into a simple word. This is precisely why vanilla subs are easier in my experience.


And there it is folks, because they don't know any better they are easier.



OMG, you really are the most self-righteous, sour, belittling, close-minded cunt that's been on these forums for a long time, aren't you? ... and that's saying a lot.

Why is cunt an insult?

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 12:44:26 PM   
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What makes you assume that these people he interacts with don't know any better? Do you know these people personally to be able to confirm that they do in fact not know any better?

He just said it himself. You're really defending this guy?


He said nothing of the sort. He said vanilla subs are easier in his experience. YOU are the one who said they didn't know any better. He didn't.

He said:
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@Greta75 - And @everyone else :

Turning... them on to kink! Turning them them from a vanilla person to a kinky person. If you are their first, sure you do. Just like you would turn a virgin into a non virgin. Really everyone is obsessed with reading into a simple word. This is precisely why vanilla subs are easier in my experience.


To which you replied:

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And there it is folks, because they don't know any better they are easier


So I asked YOU a very simple question since YOU were the one to make the assertion. What the fuck gives you the idea these people he speaks of don't know any better?




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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 1:06:51 PM   
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What makes you assume that these people he interacts with don't know any better? Do you know these people personally to be able to confirm that they do in fact not know any better?

He just said it himself. You're really defending this guy?


He said nothing of the sort. He said vanilla subs are easier in his experience. YOU are the one who said they didn't know any better. He didn't.

He said:
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ORIGINAL: SmarterThanOne

@Greta75 - And @everyone else :

Turning... them on to kink! Turning them them from a vanilla person to a kinky person. If you are their first, sure you do. Just like you would turn a virgin into a non virgin. Really everyone is obsessed with reading into a simple word. This is precisely why vanilla subs are easier in my experience.


To which you replied:

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And there it is folks, because they don't know any better they are easier


So I asked YOU a very simple question since YOU were the one to make the assertion. What the fuck gives you the idea these people he speaks of don't know any better?





She does that all the time. It's what nearly every post she makes is based on:

She half reads what people say, doesn't understand it, and then goes on the attack making accusations based on things people never even said, and she just made up.

There's no talking to her about it, because she doesn't have the reading comprehension or the cognitive skills needed to realize she's launching personal attacks based on things she dreamed up.

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RE: Why is it so hard to find serious people? - 11/2/2016 1:23:52 PM   
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