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ORIGINAL: BarbieDollTG
I'm a member on here and FetLife. It amazes me how many people post and then respond - only to flake out at the last second. I do not understand why.
Even on here people don't seem to reply. Is BDSM a thing of the past? I'm always polite, and on topic when saying hello to someone.
I reply to their requests.
I'm not sure if it's the fact that I'm male to female and a sub that bothers them or what. I'm serious about wanting to transition and plan to begin so in early 2017. I met a couple online and we plan on meeting in the next couple of weeks, but they are the only ones who seem serious. I'm not sure I get why other people who are closer aren't serious. Is it social anxiety or am I missing something else? I do have profile pics both here and on Fetlife.
I would love to meet more people like myself to get support and be supportive of them. But I have a busy work schedule and haven't been able to attend any of the local BDSM events.
I've just been very disappointed these last few months. The meeting with the couple I mentioned looks promising but I do want to meet people closer to me.
I work hard, I'm friendly and kinky, even if I'm a newbie. The one thing I am waiting for is to be steril when I transition before having sex, which seems to turn down people.
BDSM isn't just about sex. There are other ways to be kinky without having it to be just sex.
By the way, I live in Sacramento, CA so if you're a loving female domme or dominatrix, I would love to talk. I also have a Kik account but I'll save that info for a private message.
If you even bother to come back to the thread at this point, I would have to say that I agree with DarkSteven.
Obviously, BDSM is not a thing of the past. However, there will be people who won't want to be involved with someone who is MtF because of all that entails. If you bother to make time, I'm sure that you'll see that kink is alive and well in Sacramento, which is probably the better option. Sure. Online, you'll find some folks who will contact you due to thinking wherever you are in transition is 'hot' because they are thinking of the fetish aspects, but they don't tend to be the types who are really interesting in meeting real time.
Make the time to go out so that people can get to know you. It may improve your results.
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ORIGINAL: SmarterThanOne
I am a male Dom and I have a lot of luck turning vanilla women. Luckily the activities and lifestyle I enjoy is a common fantasy among many women, so simply living it catches a lot of interest from new partners. I have had very little luck with actual lifestyle women to be involved with.
Dude, next time, just use the term that people understand. Had you said "converting vanilla women," it probably wouldn't have become all of this.
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