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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/24/2006 5:13:21 PM

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/24/2006 7:44:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressMaamNH

It is a personal preference, as I have found that those younger than that generally have not matured to the point where they can see beyond the end of their dick, and understand the true meaning of service and servitude. Now I know that will raise the hackles on many, (especially those under the age of 35)

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Well i agree with You Ma'am. Most guys out there that is all they can think of, but not all of them. Since most do they kinda mess it up for those that don't.
i am 30, and sex is not a factor at all for me in this lifestyle. i could care less if i ever have sex with a Lady again, all i want to do is to serve a Mistress.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/24/2006 7:58:05 PM

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Age means everything. Youth, virility and beauty happens, and everyone is attracted to those to attributes. Age brings loss of energy, fat and wrinkles, which NONE of us enjoy seeing in our fantasy sub or slave.

Yeah, and at 48, all 3 are right around the corner for ya! I imagine you'll soon find that sword cuts both ways. Isn't life grand?

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/24/2006 8:28:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: brisslave
can A/anyone help with explaining why Mistresses always ask for Younger subs/slaves, yet also experince. i myself am seeking a Mistress in R?T to serve. yet at 43 am told by those older than me or around my age im to old. if i reply or answer a Younger Mistress im again told im told to old. How can a Mistress reqiure an experinced sub/slave with experince when it seems to come across that most require younger. is age trully that much of a factor.even at 43 im no less a slave than a 21 year old. id like to see O/others point of view on this matter.

This is definitely not true of all Dommes. Personally, I prefer mature male subs in the 39 - 59 age range. I have also heard males subs in their early 20's say that they get turned down for being too young.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/25/2006 2:41:50 AM

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hmmmm I have a slight leaning for younger than me ... but its based on my complete lifetyle not the bdsm component .. its about the odds of haveing things in common outside of bdsm

I enjoy activities that mostly seem to be enjoyed by people younger than I such as bush raves (a type of dance festival held out in the bush ) and other left of center alternative things .. most of my friends are in their thirties,... many of whom I have known for more than 10 years ,,,,

so I only seek people who fit within the totality of my lifestyle, not just share a few kinks with me .. they dont need to enjoy all the things I do ... but they need to be comfortable liveing life from a certain angle/style .......but I still look at the whole person first .. not just their age ...

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/25/2006 10:07:14 AM

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brisslave~~

If you were closer, you might be right up my alley..lol. I dont take on anyone younger than 35 anymore, as what I am looking for has changed over the years. Maturity and having a well rounded life is more important. When seeking play partners only, age is not an issue at all for me. But, now that I am interested in exploring 24/7 age is a factor.

Age is also a two way street. I have found some men who fantasize about the "young, hot domme" who they can marry and raise little baby dom/mes. So just keep looking. Go join local groups, go to events...meet people in real life!

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/25/2006 10:33:36 AM

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I do not focus on age. For me its their interests outside of BDSM and wether or not we are going to enjoy one anothers company. I have met 20somethings that I can talk to for hours and really get along well with and I have met 60somethings that I can connect with equally. Age is irrelevant.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/26/2006 7:36:46 PM

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I think it is quite a contradiction to seeking a YOUNG and EXPERIENCE sub. How can someone gain that much experience while still young with so many such Doms and Dommes out there. Could be a sign of laziness in regards to training from a blank slate or don't know how.

On the other hand, I had Dommes tell I am to young (even if it is only 2-3 years difference), not self-suficient enough, not enough experience, not sure of what I want or seek (without much experience, bit hard to be competly sure), and other reasons I will not get into but miffed about.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/26/2006 10:51:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: andyfreeze

Age means everything. Youth, virility and beauty happens, and everyone is attracted to those to attributes. Age brings loss of energy, fat and wrinkles, which NONE of us enjoy seeing in our fantasy sub or slave.

The key phrases you have used is “fantasy sub or slave”, most fantasy Dommes live on sprawling mansions on their own private islands with stables full of human livestock
Or are leaders of Amazonian tribes etc.

“Real people” no matter what age are more complex than a very shallow fantasy image. I Personally like Dommes close to my own age (give or take a decade) we have more life experiences in common.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/26/2006 11:02:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: andyfreeze

Age means everything. Youth, virility and beauty happens, and everyone is attracted to those to attributes. Age brings loss of energy, fat and wrinkles, which NONE of us enjoy seeing in our fantasy sub or slave.

Age also brings at least some of us maturity, wisdom and the knowledge to distinguish between our anuses and wholes in the ground.

Not all of us are interested in a "fantasy sub or slave" or dom for that matter. Some of us are interested in real people with whom we can communicate and laugh and enjoy our time together.

I suspect that some of us are so hung up on our "fantasy sub or slave" or dom that a fantasy is all we will ever have.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/27/2006 9:47:12 PM

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i am a dom. but this idea that younger FEMALES (not wemon) are something 2 b desired ............well i dont think so!. your dom. is so into a male (sorry) emotion that she thinks this 2 b what she wants. do this.fuck the ever loving shit out of her and (this is 4 a good cause) let some inexperinced bitch move in. she will realize her misunderstanding. DO NOT SAY ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!! let her realize on her own. DO Not leave the room.....always and i mean ALWAYS BE BY YOUR WOMANS SIDE DWEEBKAT

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/27/2006 9:49:29 PM

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i, too, am 43 and am running into the same problem. don't feel bad.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/27/2006 10:45:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: brisslave
Is age trully that much of a factor? Even at 43 im no less a slave than a 21 year old. I'd like to see O/others' points of view on this matter.

At the age of twenty one it can be difficult to determine if a male is more a slave to his own sexual biochemistry and senses than to anyone he may declare undying obedience to. Combine this with society's predilection for shallow self indulgence and it is easy to see why young males are difficult to trust as self-actualized and learned in their supposed calling for servitude. Having sought a male slave for my pet, it has struck me as either sad or laughable how many young ones don the paper masks with the earnest belief they know what they are flirting with, but so seldom do they ever have a part.

This is why I have so often emphatically challenged the "supply and demand" idea bruited about by a number of Dominas, among whom it is thought submissive males are in abundance. It has always been my contention that, while interest in the stage play is popular, truly servile males are not.

Experience has lead me to understand that with the trials of age come certain epifanies—insights into one's own character and motive. With the older human such milestones have been passed, putting in their possession better theory and personal understanding.

My pet wanted a younger boy (one under her age) for what I suspect are obvious immediate reasons, but likewise desired one who knew what slavery truly entailed. It took sometime to find the correct candidate; we had to shovel through a lot of dirt before finding him. Had she increased the acceptable gamut of age range to forty, she would of had far more likely candidates, and this is the reality one must face when holding out for both youth and an ideal disposition combined; it will take much more time and patience.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/28/2006 6:09:18 AM

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hang in there bris...my Mistress prefers older subs. She says they know their place better, have fewer "wants" and are more eager to please. btw...She is 29 and i am 56.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/29/2006 7:26:29 PM

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I have to say that I DO care how old they are. Under 25 and most have no idea what they have or how to use it. Few have maturity and manners that come with experience of someone twice their age. For me personally, I also have some head space issues with people older than my parents. I guess that puts me wanting the mid-to-late 30's through the mid-50's range.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/30/2006 12:26:29 PM

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i'm in my fifties and not the prime target for most young Mistresses which is fine because i want a loving, stable LTR anyway and the age differential just adds to the obstacles that one finds in all relationships. This is just an impression not backed by any quantitative evidence, but it feels as if Women in their forties and older seem more reality-based and less fantasy reliant than Women in their twenties. Everyone is different, i know, but i'm referring to general impressions. i try to stay in shape and not do things that tend to age guys prematurely and then just have confidence that you have something to offer the right Woman.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 7/30/2006 3:34:18 PM

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I'm 49, collared and owned by a Master who is also my lover and 5 years older. I also work as a semi-pro sub to fund our lifestyle.

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ORIGINAL: brisslave
Is age trully that much of a factor? Even at 43 im no less a slave than a 21 year old. I'd like to see O/others' points of view on this matter.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 8/23/2006 4:41:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: peterK50

The atttitude of many Domina's is "It's a buyers market" for male subs. They can pretty much get what they want & if they want young & pretty then they can get it. There is a lot of lip service given to maturity, experience & stability, but it doesn't seem to work out that way.

I really try to keep within my age range. I've drawn a line from 50-65.. but as I age.. that will move also, IF I was "looking". Just being realistic. (but I would insist on a full head of hair!)

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 8/24/2006 6:29:55 PM

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I don't set a carved in stone age limit, but I will say there is something just odd about being reminded that your chosen partner is of an age to comfortably socialize with your relatives, be it the generation ahead or behind.

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RE: sub/slaves ages - 8/24/2006 8:32:30 PM

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Ms. Mlicious is in her late thirties. She has two servants. I am 42, and I believe her other slave is in mid fifties. There is room for young and old in our lifestyle.

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