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RE: Still Need Growth - 1/5/2007 4:25:34 AM

Celeste43

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There are people who enjoy provoking others jealousy. If you go to a party together and he abandons you the whole night to flirt with a cute blonde, then you don't need growth, you need your partner to decide who he wants to be with.

If you're monogamous, then you are and you have every right to be. A man who claims to be monogamous until you are committed to him, and then says he's changed his mind doesn't have the right to go tomcatting around and expect you to accept this. You have the right to your boundaries.

Your post doesn't give us any idea if your jealousy is actually a red flag, a crossed boundary or indeed insecurity. So we can't offer much help. Personally I'm insecure but not jealous because he doesn't go around deliberately provoking my insecurities to make himself feel good. He is a trustworthy man and his word is his bond.

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RE: Still Need Growth - 1/5/2007 6:47:12 AM

Mercnbeth

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reposted from the "Green-eyed Monster" thread:

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perhaps it is a matter of perception. this slave does not have posessions,i.e. physical tangible things that could or could not be shared should she have that choice either. Everything belongs to Master. Including Himself. Master shares Himself with this slave. He also makes the decision regarding who He will share Himself and His slave with. each and every day this slave reminds herself and meditates on the fact that Master is NOT her posession. it works fabulously... posessiveness, jealousy and difficulty sharing, on this slave's part, are not an issue.

a long time ago this slave was afraid of the dark. y'know, monsters under the bed, that sort of thing. well, this slave got sick of being fearful, damn tired of it. so, as a challenge to rid this slave of her fear, this slave put the light on the other side of the room from the door so she would have to walk through the dark room to turn it on. putting on her best game face, this slave would walk through the room slowly, mentally challenging all the monsters to indeed come out and "get me" once and for all.
no monsters came out...and after some practice, this slave was no longer afraid of the dark.

personally, if this slave had jealousy problems, she would hope that Master would put her in situations that would challenge it, just like she challenged the monsters in the dark---not pat her on the head and say "there, there"---especially if she had specifically asked Him and also folks on a message board, for help in overcoming it.

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