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A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 9:25:20 AM

MarkWilliam

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If you had a choice, would you remain submissive, or would you prefer to be something else?

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 9:27:27 AM

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I consider myself primarily submissive, but do have definite Switch fantasies with a male submissive involved, so I guess I have all my bases covered - LOL!!

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 9:33:50 AM

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I would not change the fact that I am submissive. Of course, happiness in one's position relies heavily on being fullfilled. If a dom recognizes a sub's skills and utilizes them, acknowledging and showing pride in the sub's abilities, it makes an enourmous difference. At least to me. I suppose you could compare a good dom's treatment of his sub to a person's caring for his other possessions. They mean something special to him. As opposed to the person who just haphazardly throws his things about or kicks his dog. There's a reason why a Dom shouldn't pick just any old sub that will submit to him. There is a selection process for a reason. You need a good match of personality and skills.

Sorry if I rambled.

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 9:37:41 AM

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Difficult question to answer but it's like do I wish I'd been born black not white or whatever, hardly something I feel I've any control over anyway. I am as I am. Sometimes it feels I have something extra - vanilla sex plus all this exciting other power exchange stuff. It is a bit complex for me because I am generally submissive in most situations and I've had to work hard to work around that, adapt to that, cope with that in all kinds of situations and relationships and I have worked with it, not against it successfully but it's still been something that isn't always that convenient. The compensation is that some dominant men do genuinely appreciate the submissiveness which is good.

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 9:40:07 AM

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If you had a choice, would you remain submissive, or would you prefer to be something else?

I'd never change that aspect of myself. I couldn't even if I wanted to. It's who I am. It's been a long journey just to get to this point in my life where I acknowledge, accept and embrace my submissiveness. Why on Earth would I ever want to change that?

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 9:40:49 AM

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If you had a choice, would you remain submissive, or would you prefer to be something else?

I'm very comfortable and content inside my skin...I wouldn't change.

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 9:46:57 AM

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I like being a submissive now that I have found a man that can handle me and lets me be the best I can be.

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 10:01:48 AM

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If you had a choice, would you remain submissive, or would you prefer to be something else?

Hello MarkWilliam,

I'd have to to ask what the options were..LOL

Thinks....

I'd like to be a princess, please.

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 10:06:06 AM

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I don't think I would change, it is who I am. (although right now, perhaps being a plumber would be more advantageous) *goes back into the bathroom, plunger over her shoulder, plumbing snake in the other hand*

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 10:07:44 AM

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I would stay the way I am. wow great question! thank you

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 10:07:44 AM

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i meant something vanillarish agirl, but you'll always be a princess in my eyes ;-)

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 10:33:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: MarkWilliam

If you had a choice, would you remain submissive, or would you prefer to be something else?

Ah, to be 'normal.' Content with Tuesday and Saturday night sex. Doing my own thing when I wanted, how I wanted. No tears, no fears. Fitting in and being just .. regular. Cast off the cravings for pain. That was a biggie for me. Sick, sick, sick. It took a long time to accept this part of myself, to recognize that it is valid for me, despite not being acceptable to friends and family or even myself.

I'm not so sure it would be easier to be other than I am either. Things have gotten so mainstream these days, that being different is now what's normal!

Would I change it if I could. Hmm.. you know, I don't know. This is my 'norm' and I'd be someone else if it weren't. As I rather like me, I suppose I would like me whether I was a submissive or not as long as I was able to accept myself and see the truth of who I am.

Might be interesting as an experiment though if for nothing else, than to gain some additional personal insight into what makes me tick this way. Toss out that desire to please, to serve, to engage in a power exchange with someone capable of pulling all that I am out of me. Eeks.. that sounds awful! Guess that answered the question. Living with Himself would have to go away because he requires a person who submits. He is able to pull it all out, everything within me and use me in ways which allow me to continue to grow.. and that I wouldn't change for the world.

Guess that was making a very short answer long.. but then, I often have to go through a process to see what's right in front of me so I get it. ::chuckles::

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 10:35:11 AM

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I am me. Would I change me for something else?

Why? I am comfortable - happy and being true to myself.

What else is there?

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 10:35:29 AM

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W o W ....

since it took me so long ......to get here

and finally feel like i don't have to change who i am

i have spent ..to long finding me

to answer your question ...

no ... thank you

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 10:45:50 AM

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i know you asked subs, but it seems the question is would i rather be vanilla?

gosh why? is there any payoff i am not aware of? bigger dating pool? fitting in to society?

well bigger dating pool does not matter to me because my philosophy is that dating has lees to do with law of averages and more to do with "when the student is ready the teacher will come"

and fitting in to society? even the people who fit in to society do not fit in, there is no such thing, so why not have fun...

however your question causes me to ask ....would you rather be vanilla?...if so why? that would be a great thread if you want to get the ball rolling...

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 11:00:07 AM

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http://www.collarchat.com/m_245595/mpage_1/key_insane/tm.htm#245796
Coming to terms with yourself

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Nope. It's half insane to be who I am and I don't think anyone should CHOOSE it if it's not who they are, but no other way around it.

There are certainly personality traits and behavior patterns about me which I would like and am working on changing however.

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 11:04:52 AM

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I wouldn't want to change permanantly, it's just too ingrained into my personality. But I would love to be a domme for a day!

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 11:14:23 AM

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Thinks....

I'd like to be a princess, please.

Regards, agirl

I asked to be a princess, too... was told, "of course".

Funny but the job description reads exactly the same.

Edited to answer the OP...

No, I wouldn't choose anything else. I happen to like who I am... and it happens to match very well with a certain other that I like even more.

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 12:00:58 PM

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i meant something vanillarish agirl, but you'll always be a princess in my eyes ;-)

LOL....Ah, well.....I'll answer a little more seriously, in that case.

I wouldn't change being a slave to the Master I have. I'm not hugely *into* bdsm activities.......and quite likely would live perfectly well if they were absent....even with him.

My link to this is my relationship with him......while it could be feasable that I'd *happen across* another person that would inspire me enough to choose a TPE relationship....I highly doubt it.

I never have led a normal life in many ways...even my vanilla life was a bit weird.

I'm the same me..bdsm or not. Maybe I just don't see myself as *non-vanilla*.

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RE: A question for female subs... - 7/25/2006 12:06:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: agirl

Thinks....

I'd like to be a princess, please.

Regards, agirl

I asked to be a princess, too... was told, "of course".

Funny but the job description reads exactly the same.

Edited to answer the OP...

No, I wouldn't choose anything else. I happen to like who I am... and it happens to match very well with a certain other that I like even more.

Laughing here.........Yes.....He even gave me a mug with *princess* on it...and STILL nothing changed. In FACT ....I seemed to hear the words * Suck it up, princess* rather a lot more.

agirl

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