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DesFIP -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/1/2017 8:12:49 PM)
Igor, again, back when I used to reply "thanks but no thanks", I universally got attacked for rejecting them. If I don't respond, I don't have to deal with the threats. In other words, you are paying for all the men who don't accept rejection gracefully. Those men taught women that it's unsafe to respond. And nowhere is it written that we must put ourselves in unsafe situations to spare a stranger's feelings.

igor2003 -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/1/2017 11:21:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Igor, again, back when I used to reply "thanks but no thanks", I universally got attacked for rejecting them. If I don't respond, I don't have to deal with the threats. In other words, you are paying for all the men who don't accept rejection gracefully. Those men taught women that it's unsafe to respond. And nowhere is it written that we must put ourselves in unsafe situations to spare a stranger's feelings. And I know you have just been SO traumatized that you could no longer show any class by at least saying "thanks but no thanks" to those that do make an effort, then hitting the "block" button just in case. You're doing nothing but making lame excuses.

LadyPact -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 12:17:26 AM)
Just how many emails do you think women get? Have you ever thought about just how much time it takes to type out "thanks but no thanks" tens of thousands of times? Here's the problem. You see your point of view. You took the time to write a message and because you did, you think you should get a reply. At the same time, your message was one of a thousand that somebody like me would get in a month. I was on this site less than four months when I went to SELF for the first time. I came home that Monday to over two hundred messages. That was from one three day weekend. Do you do that? I'll bet ya don't. But... You go ahead. Tell me all about how you'll answer all of your messages, because you think it's the "polite" thing to do. When you hit the first ten thousand, do the math. Those three seconds per message add up.

BitaTruble -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 5:13:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: igor2003 And I know you have just been SO traumatized that you could no longer show any class by at least saying "thanks but no thanks" to those that do make an effort, then hitting the "block" button just in case. You're doing nothing but making lame excuses. Simple fix then..write to women with class but be aware you will probably need to exhibit some yourself. I like the Rogers quote. ::chuckles::

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 6:06:26 AM)
Do you reply to the spam you get on your regular email account? No? Then why should we reply to the spam in our cmail?

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 6:15:06 AM)
Wrong thread

needlesandpins -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 6:24:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: igor2003 quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Igor, again, back when I used to reply "thanks but no thanks", I universally got attacked for rejecting them. If I don't respond, I don't have to deal with the threats. In other words, you are paying for all the men who don't accept rejection gracefully. Those men taught women that it's unsafe to respond. And nowhere is it written that we must put ourselves in unsafe situations to spare a stranger's feelings. And I know you have just been SO traumatized that you could no longer show any class by at least saying "thanks but no thanks" to those that do make an effort, then hitting the "block" button just in case. You're doing nothing but making lame excuses. Actually it's that kind of bullshit response to a woman's EXPLANATION to you that is totally without class. You remain under the impression that just because someone contacts us that we OWE something in return, we don't. I don't have to reply to every piece of mail that falls threw my door at home. If I run an advert to sell a horse I don't have to reply to everyone that contacts me if I feel they are totally unsuitable as future owners for that horse. I don't have to answer my phone every time it rings. Again, our time has a value too, not just yours. You have the choice to not contact people, we have the choice to make an educated decision on whether to reply, OR NOT, based on past experience, and a whole host of other variables, whether that suits you, or not. That choice has nothing to do with our lack of class, but rather the shear lack on the part of self entitled men that came before you. Adult about it, and get over it, because, ya know, that's what the rest of us do if we don't get a reply to our mail. Needles

shiftyw -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 8:10:03 AM)
Yah. While younger dudes have also responded with "fuck you whhhhy won't you talk to me you fat slut!" For me older gentlemen are way more inclined to go after my "class" and "unladylike" and "back in my day we had to write cursive and walk up hill both ways to school and women were afraid of us so they'd fucking respond!" I also find this whinefest to be so so so much more common on kink sites. On okc generally speaking if I didn't respond we just didn't talk, if I said thanks but no thanks, I might have gotten a nasty reply- but generally speaking not really- on here it's like insane. And all my fucking profile says is "just here for the forums" Like...it isn't an ad- I have it to receive mail from you lovelies, I just can't understand why I should have to respond to every dick that finds its way into my inbox

NoirMetal -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 8:12:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shiftyw Yah. While younger dudes have also responded with "fuck you whhhhy won't you talk to me you fat slut!" For me older gentlemen are way more inclined to go after my "class" and "unladylike" and "back in my day we had to write cursive and walk up hill both ways to school and women were afraid of us so they'd fucking respond!" I also find this whinefest to be so so so much more common on kink sites. On okc generally speaking if I didn't respond we just didn't talk, if I said thanks but no thanks, I might have gotten a nasty reply- but generally speaking not really- on here it's like insane. And all my fucking profile says is "just here for the forums" Like...it isn't an ad- I have it to receive mail from you lovelies, I just can't understand why I should have to respond to every dick that finds its way into my inbox I like the forums here for interesting people too. A lot of the local submissive ads here seem to be for free loaders,fakes or basket cases.

needlesandpins -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 9:07:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shiftyw Yah. While younger dudes have also responded with "fuck you whhhhy won't you talk to me you fat slut!" For me older gentlemen are way more inclined to go after my "class" and "unladylike" and "back in my day we had to write cursive and walk up hill both ways to school and women were afraid of us so they'd fucking respond!" I also find this whinefest to be so so so much more common on kink sites. On okc generally speaking if I didn't respond we just didn't talk, if I said thanks but no thanks, I might have gotten a nasty reply- but generally speaking not really- on here it's like insane. And all my fucking profile says is "just here for the forums" Like...it isn't an ad- I have it to receive mail from you lovelies, I just can't understand why I should have to respond to every dick that finds its way into my inbox That bold bit really made me chuckle! [:D] Needles

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 10:23:15 AM)
quote: or basket cases Hey, we have a right to be here too you know!

Hillwilliam -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 12:21:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shiftyw For me older gentlemen are way more inclined to go after my "class" and "unladylike" and "back in my day we had to write cursive and walk up hill both ways to school" You forgot "barefoot through the snow"

DocStrange -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 3:24:12 PM)
Some gave the analogy of responding to employment application or have something for sale. I do not feel that is real comparison to a personal want ad. But lets look at it from another point of view. How about large BDSM event or even a regular event that you attend. Any you let it be known you are looking for a sub. If a sub approached your properly at such an event and asked if you would be interested in what he/she has to offer, would you say nothing and not reply at all if for some reason the sub did not appeal to you? Or would you tell sub no thank you? So the next question then becomes why the difference from email no response to an in person response? I think this is a much fairer analogy. I do not discount women get an ungodly amount of email. But my original statement was with the caveat that the email was an honest reply to what you were seeking and not the thousands of wanker emails. My bias on this may be due to my age and how I was raised? The attitude of “I do not owe you a thing” I think is part of the digital revolution? I do not recall that type of attitude early on in my exposure to the BDSM world. I was into BDSM prior to email and internet. I grew up in Cincinnati, Ohio, there was no local BDSM groups back then. Hell Playboy, Penthouse and Hustler magazines were illegal in Hamilton county where I lived. My first ventures into BDSM were via hand written letters to ads in adult BDSM/swinger magazines which I had to travel outside the county limits to get. Interestingly the hand written letters almost always got a reply even if they were not interested. Funny how times have changed.

AtUrCervix -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 3:31:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Just how many emails do you think women get? Have you ever thought about just how much time it takes to type out "thanks but no thanks" tens of thousands of times? Here's the problem. You see your point of view. You took the time to write a message and because you did, you think you should get a reply. At the same time, your message was one of a thousand that somebody like me would get in a month. I was on this site less than four months when I went to SELF for the first time. I came home that Monday to over two hundred messages. That was from one three day weekend. Do you do that? I'll bet ya don't. But... You go ahead. Tell me all about how you'll answer all of your messages, because you think it's the "polite" thing to do. When you hit the first ten thousand, do the math. Those three seconds per message add up. (Apparently LP has not seen the set in that Jim Carry movie where the whole email response issue was resolved).

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 4:32:44 PM)
Oh look, cunt-for-brains hasn't figured out that movies aren't real life.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 4:45:13 PM)
quote: Some gave the analogy of responding to employment application or have something for sale. I do not feel that is real comparison to a personal want ad. Many of us do not have personal want ads up, but still get the stupid "let's get it on" emails. So pay attention you fat ignorant shit. quote: If a sub approached your properly at such an event Do 20 to 30, or more subs approach you at an event? No? Now you know why that is a stupid analogy. No wonder nobody wants to fuck you. quote: I think this is a much fairer analogy. And you are wrong, as explained above. Pay attention you ugly cow. quote: My bias on this may be due to my age and how I was raised? No, it is because you really have no fucking clue what a woman's inbox is like on a dating site. You just have no clue so stop mansplaining to us why we really should reply to the shit we have no interest in. Stop being such a stupid fuckwitted whore. quote: Interestingly the hand written letters almost always got a reply even if they were not interested. Funny how times have changed. Do you really think they were getting 30, 40, 50 or more such handwritten messages a day for them to reply to. Wake the fuck up blind man, it is the bulk of the shit that causes the ignoring, we just don't have the time. hell my profile all but tells people to fuck off, and yet I still get wankers wanting to chat and "see where it goes". Instead of telling us how we should deal with our inboxes, how about you shut yourt uninformed little gob and listen and learn for a change. Git that you worthless little fuck? P.S. The gratuitious insults were added so you would have an idea what the responses to "thanks but no thanks" are almost always like. Did you like it? No, I didn't think so, well neither do we, and we get it many times a day, just for saying "no thank you", the way you say we should.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 4:50:51 PM)
Some of the better replies I have gotten to the "Thanks but no thanks" reply. Fuck you, I hope you die of AIDS I hope your daughter gets kidnapped Gonna find you and rape your daughter in front of you then light her on fire I will find you and make you kine I will kill your mother You are going to die Your family will die one by one until you are mine I will rape and murder some child every day until you agree to be my slave Want that sort of insanity in your inbox?

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 5:18:47 PM)
Here's one my girlfriend just got on another site. quote: I know where you work, you are dead meat. Fun stuff for a girl of 22 to get told, eh?

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 5:23:21 PM)
One I got years ago. quote: I know where your mother lives, she's going to get a battery acid enema i didn't take this one too seriously because my mother had been dead nearly 15 years at the time, but still, a little less than classy, wouldn't you agree?

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Feeling Entitled for a Reply (4/2/2017 5:36:36 PM)
(Most) men have no clue what women get in their inboxes. Women understand perfectly why women don't reply with a thanks but no thanks. Men will never stop whining about women not replying to their messages. The threads doing that whining go back as far as one cares to look. A very few smart men DO get it, and they don't bitch about the female failure to reply. Those who do whine about it make themselves look stupid. But feel free to continue. Edit: this was a general reply, not to Dizzy.

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