TexasMaam
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SweetDommes, I think you rock!
I haven't logged in for a few days so I was really sort of tickled by all the responses.
Ahem. Drunk? What in any way shape or fashion implied that I was drunk? I rarely drink, and then usually in good company, with dinner, a glass of wine, perhaps two at the most. No. I was most assuredly not drunk. I gave up getting drunk at about age 19.
To clarify, if it matters to anyone, while the boy in question was not My submissive, certainly not My slave, he was asking for the opportunity to get to know Me in hopes of becoming My sub...specifically, for the 24/7 kind of one on one relationship that I hope to one day find. We got past the initial ability to write and communicate with a stumble or two, but we both pressed onward, he kept writing sensibly and I kept reading and thinking. Remember, our first conversation was delightful!
However, One of My major 'pet peeves' when talking to a sub at any time is being cut off, or cut short. It happens to be something I look for, test for, in initial compatibility contacts. A well trained submissive, even though he's not My submissive, will almost always show enough respect, regard, and even perception enough to know when to either allow the Domme to end the conversation or, alternatively, ask permission to be excused to continue the conversation at a later time. An untrained submissive will usually have spent enough time learning a few manners and behavioral tips online, at the very least.
I would never expect a man at work, for example, to "beg My permission to leave, please Ma'am", whether he's My sub or not, but I damn sure better hear him say something to the effect of: "I'm so glad you called/thank you for calling/it was so good to hear your voice"....pick one...followed by: " I really have a report that's due in about 15 minutes/I'm due in a meeting in a short while and need to get ready/I have a few proximity issues(a neat euphemism for 'can't talk now' that anyone vanilla could understand if they overheard)/I'd like to try to talk again later if that's o.k."...pick one....something polite and gracious by way of excusing himself from My presence. I expect nothing less from a vanilla male contact, why would I accept less from a sub?
As for those who feel I might have overreacted, read further:
At the outset of the conversation I had already clarified whether he was able to talk, was alone, etc.
He was watching a comedy and was breaking out in raucous laughter throughout the short conversation. Now, if it was My DVD player, and I was truly serious about getting to know a Domme whom I'd been pleading to phone me for the past three weeks or more, I believe if I really really REALLY wanted to 'become a sub' or 'get to know a Domme' I'd have muted the DVD and made a major effort to further the great conversation that had taken place earlier that evening.
Why, I mute the TV when My neighbor calls, just to be polite. How important can TV possibly be??? *AHA! You've discovered another of My 'pet peeves'!
Since he was obviously otherwise 'focused', I deliberately tested, or pushed, ever so gently, to see whether he was paying any attention to the conversation. He responded succinctly (a surprise, since I was suspecting it was he who had perhaps enjoyed a few brewskies, given the raucous laughter), so I continued the conversation for a few sentences longer, listening to the TV blare in the background.
Then, in the next sentence, he interrupted Me. I mentioned that he'd wanted to talk, and had asked that I call, (rather tongue in cheek because I could already tell which way this was going), and he interrupted Me again, continuing his previous train of thought. When I fell silent, for a moment, he checked to see if I was still there. I responded that I was, indeed, still on the line, and I was just about to ask that he mute his TV (to give him one more chance, because any fellow with a submissive heart would certainly have had a light bulb go off in his head and responded! ) and THAT's when he suddenly interrupted the third time and said he had to go.
You folks can argue and postulate and theorize all you want to, but in My book that's a sure sign he's not capable of being My sub!
He might be someone else's sub, but if he's not capable of being My sub, why waste both our time?
It is worth noting that I have been pretty open here at CM about the fact that I've been spoiled by an exemplary sub who is going to be very difficult to replace. bobbi, boy, you're gonna be a tough act to follow. *sigh* 
Now, please excuse Me because I'm here on page 2 of the thread and I want to read each and every intriguiging, provacative, challenging, rude, comical, objective, enlightening post, no matter what they say!
Thanks to all who responded! Even you, Tress, you witchy old thing.
TexasMaam
< Message edited by TexasMaam -- 7/28/2006 7:32:36 PM >
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