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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 3:21:25 PM   
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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 7:27:01 PM   
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You met online. You have the hots for each other. Would you fuck on the first date?


I do this all the time. I have already decided I am gonna fuck someone through online before I meet them. I can tell if we will get along or not through our interaction online already. It's often accurate. Probably because, sexual compatibility is what I will interrogate the guy on first before anything else. And I still consider it a date, because, it would still be like a date. Like, movies, dinner at a nice restaurant, champagne, romantic hotel room, spend weekend together, type of dates. I am not a spontaneous person, so I make decisions in advance for things like this and plan everything before meeting this stranger from online.

And end of the day, what happens is, you just find like-minded people. Guys who wanna be wishy washy and wait for like coffee first, before first real date, to decide if we wanna fuck is probably not for me.

But better for most other women.

If I bother meeting someone online, I want the sex! If I am not getting sex, I am not interested in meeting him.



I am the same way. Unless meeting face to face kills the chemistry, it's on.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 7:40:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sometimes (not often) if it is a local person I met online and we have the chemistry, but haven't spent time exploring each others goals, needs or relationship comparability... I'll meet them for lunch. We can explore comparability face to face. Chemistry is one thing and it is fast, but mutual life goals and perspectives are another and take a minute to sort out. I got lots of chemistry... chemistry is cheap. Finding someone that fits a relationship is another story. And I don't want to waste my time fucking people that have no potential to eventually become a relationship partner.
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Yup.

The second if she wants a vanilla coffee date first. Usually wet and squirming when they show up. But I date perverts, not puritans.

The shy ones waited until the second for corn-holing.



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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 8:59:32 PM   
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Sometimes (not often) if it is a local person I met online and we have the chemistry, but haven't spent time exploring each others goals, needs or relationship comparability... I'll meet them for lunch. We can explore comparability face to face. Chemistry is one thing and it is fast, but mutual life goals and perspectives are another and take a minute to sort out. I got lots of chemistry... chemistry is cheap. Finding someone that fits a relationship is another story. And I don't want to waste my time fucking people that have no potential to eventually become a relationship partner.
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Yup.

The second if she wants a vanilla coffee date first. Usually wet and squirming when they show up. But I date perverts, not puritans.

The shy ones waited until the second for corn-holing.



fwb works for me if she can date mono. I always behave stupidly when I get into a forever mindset. And it takes time to see if the right kind of intimacy will develop. Takes a while to get to an ownership phase. If you are going to disconnect-do it before that steel gets too thick between you.

But if that bond makes us stronger-I'd just go with it.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 9:27:58 PM   
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I am the same way. Unless meeting face to face kills the chemistry, it's on.

That almost never happens for me. I can tell so much about a person through questions I ask the guy, how open he is in answering me, and what his answers are.
I eliminate men who are clam up and does not talk openly or skip over questions I ask him, or gives me vague answers, alot of my questions about him are pre-qualifying questions. And I ask very personal and probing questions. By the time I meet someone for the first time in real life, i would have probably know alot of intimate details and personal details about him already that he probably never told many other people. I would have known more about him than most other people in his circle. So as I said, if it's a guy who refuses to open up, I move on, and tell him we are not a fit. It would never lead to a real life meeting.

And I will have sex with a man that I am physically unattracted to, IF he stimulates my mind. And pretty much, that is through our online correspondences where I will know if he stimulates my mind or not.

But whether there will be a second date, is full dependent on if we click in bed.

For me, if the sexuality cannot fit each other, it's the end of the road, and on that end, I seriously cannot tell until I mingle with the man in bed.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 9:34:24 PM   
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If I don't, there better be damned good reason to explain why it didn't happen. If there isn't one, there won't be a second date.

Lol, exactly! Ugh, men who act like ladies and need to get more comfortable with you with a few more dates before it gets sexual kinda annoys me. There will be no second date.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 9:36:02 PM   
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Guilty. She totally had 47.5 orgasms - all of them, as I have did that more than the once.

The proper frigid ladies make you wait a day.

I swear every man who gives me an orgasm figure is lying.

Because women don't orgase like men. It's impossible for you to count. And if she is counting, she is not enjoying herself and faking them.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 9:55:28 PM   
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I am the same way. Unless meeting face to face kills the chemistry, it's on.

That almost never happens for me. I can tell so much about a person through questions I ask the guy, how open he is in answering me, and what his answers are.
I eliminate men who are clam up and does not talk openly or skip over questions I ask him, or gives me vague answers, alot of my questions about him are pre-qualifying questions. And I ask very personal and probing questions. By the time I meet someone for the first time in real life, i would have probably know alot of intimate details and personal details about him already that he probably never told many other people. I would have known more about him than most other people in his circle. So as I said, if it's a guy who refuses to open up, I move on, and tell him we are not a fit. It would never lead to a real life meeting.

And I will have sex with a man that I am physically unattracted to, IF he stimulates my mind. And pretty much, that is through our online correspondences where I will know if he stimulates my mind or not.

But whether there will be a second date, is full dependent on if we click in bed.

For me, if the sexuality cannot fit each other, it's the end of the road, and on that end, I seriously cannot tell until I mingle with the man in bed.


Sexual interrogation is a big turn off, at least for me.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 10:15:21 PM   
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Sexual interrogation is a big turn off, at least for me.

Which is why we aren't sexually compatible and not personality compatible.
That's how I filter. I mean for me, with every 100 men who contacts me, only 1 will be the one that works with me and I will meet. So already through online, I've have filtered through many before I decide to meet. That's why when I meet, I already know I want to know him sexually now, as I already know him deeply as a person.

And the outcome of that, is I end up also meeting men who needs intense mental connection to have a great sexual experience.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 10:21:27 PM   
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Sexual interrogation is a big turn off, at least for me.

Which is why we aren't sexually compatible and not personality compatible.
That's how I filter. I mean for me, with every 100 men who contacts me, only 1 will be the one that works with me and I will meet. So already through online, I've have filtered through many before I decide to meet. That's why when I meet, I already know I want to know him sexually now, as I already know him deeply as a person.

And the outcome of that, is I end up also meeting men who needs intense mental connection to have a great sexual experience.

Yep, you don't make a good dance partner.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/22/2017 11:14:13 PM   
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If I don't, there better be damned good reason to explain why it didn't happen. If there isn't one, there won't be a second date.

Lol, exactly! Ugh, men who act like ladies and need to get more comfortable with you with a few more dates before it gets sexual kinda annoys me. There will be no second date.


Oh it's not a matter of 'him needing to get more comfortable'. I've never gone out with a man who was of the type who wanted to 'date and wait'. Those types know I'm not for them, and they're not for me, before we can get to a first date.

What I meant was: If I'm into him, I'll fuck him on the first date (unless there's a good reason why sex that date can't/won't happen... usually dealing with logistics). If I don't fuck him on the first date, I'm just not that into him, and there is no point in having another date.

I haven't dated somebody whom I didn't meet online first in over 15 years. So I usually do my 'getting to know each other' in emails and on the phone, to the point that I already know I'm into him, intellectually, and relationship wise.

That first date really is only to figure out the sexual compatibility, so if sex doesn't happen, it's a pretty bad sign.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/23/2017 12:43:16 AM   
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Yep, you don't make a good dance partner.

I don't dance and cannot dance at all.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/23/2017 9:53:06 AM   
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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/23/2017 11:06:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		It'd depend on who the first date was with, how desperate I was, how hard up she was, and whether or not I thought she'd go for it...

Chaska all that stupid "Oh, if they can't dance then they're going to be crap in bed?" bullshit? Fuck that noise.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/23/2017 3:15:22 PM   
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As a single woman, no.

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Sooo . . . as a married woman . . . . ?

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/23/2017 6:31:43 PM   
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Chaska all that stupid "Oh, if they can't dance then they're going to be crap in bed?" bullshit? Fuck that noise.

It's possible. You know what? In a world where you have men who prefer a woman to just stay still and don't move and don't make a sound. I had a girlfriend married to a man like that for 17 years. She was a virgin with him and he was all she ever knew. And she always felt restricted to express herself in bed until she left him.

I've came across quite a few men who don't like it when a woman scream in orgasms either.

So what is "good in bed"? Subjective of the man.

PS: The girlfriend I was talking about is European and her xhusband is European too. And every man who wanted me to be quieter in bed has been white.

On the other hand, there is a trend over here, according to feedback from the guys that I've spoken to about this. Usually you get a very sensual, sexy, seemingly sexual female dancer on the dance floor, but in the bedroom, she can be the complete opposite, very reserve and shy and not as comfortable as expressing herself.

On the other hand, if you get someone who seem quiet, frigid in public. Get her into privacy of a bedroom. Everything changes.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/23/2017 6:32:09 PM   
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You met online. You have the hots for each other. Would you fuck on the first date?


I thought my answer might be no, because I don't think that people should feel that they have to fuck on their first date (or any date for that matter).

Then I reflected on the reality of my life. I don't really do dating as such because I can't be bothered with all the auditioning that people do. I do meet friends for a coffee or a drink, but "dating" to get to know someone or to do the whole accept/reject ritual leaves me cold.

When I think about it, apart from one ill-advised "date" in my teens, every meet up I have that has been arranged as a "date" in my adult life has led either to fucking or some other non-penetrative sexual activity. Turns out that despite what I thought I thought about first date sex, it's something that almost invariably I do.

On reflection, I'm with UllrsIshtar on this. I may meet up with people for all sorts of reasons but if it's a "date", the sexual tension is already implied or absolutely explicit. Getting involved in something sexual isn't inevitable but it tends to be a strong possibility.

That said, I don't date much.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/23/2017 11:25:09 PM   
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It'd depend on who the first date was with, how desperate I was, how hard up she was, and whether or not I thought she'd go for it...

Chaska all that stupid "Oh, if they can't dance then they're going to be crap in bed?" bullshit? Fuck that noise.

You're as bereft of brain matter as greta about sexuality not to have understood the metaphorical sense of what I said. Personally I've never had to undergo a sexual interrogation having every little box checked to see if I'm a suitable sexual partner. Obviously the two of you have never heard something as basic as pheromones, I baffled that I even need to try to explain such trivia to adults.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/24/2017 1:07:00 AM   
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Sexual interrogation is a big turn off, at least for me.



Yep, you don't make a good dance partner.

In the future it would be helpful if you followed the conversation, used the quote
function of what someone actual said and not make shit up.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/24/2017 4:57:08 AM   
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Obviously the two of you have never heard something as basic as pheromones, I baffled that I even need to try to explain such trivia to adults.

Sex for me is technical and the skill set the man has.
No matter how attracted I am to a man physically. But if his sexual style and skills does not fit me. It will be bad sex for me. But I could have sex with the ugliest and most unattractive man on earth but if he got the right skills and sexual style, he can make me cum my brains out.

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