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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/26/2017 9:51:34 PM   
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Donald Trump as an aphrodisiac?

Well it might work for some!


Well... there's at least one guy trying to use Trump to get some kink going.

He posted a Craigslist add offering to let people spank him for voting for Trump:

http://www.vocativ.com/376387/craigslist-trump-spank-white-guy/


Waste of a good spanking!


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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/26/2017 9:55:22 PM   
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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/27/2017 9:31:35 AM   
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Haha... it's actually kind of cute when you try to act insightful-- like listening to a really naive child talk about something they're convinced they understand.




Not to derail the thread, but seriously, you should save this comment to use on the RWNJ's in the P & R forum.


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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/27/2017 9:43:02 PM   
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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/27/2017 11:09:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I had a mate at sea who never waited to date the girls/females. He would just approach them in the street and ask if they would like to go back to the ship and fuck.
He got a LOT of black eyes.
He got a lot of fucks too when I think about it.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/28/2017 1:07:56 AM   
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I had a mate at sea who never waited to date the girls/females. He would just approach them in the street and ask if they would like to go back to the ship and fuck.
He got a LOT of black eyes.
He got a lot of fucks too when I think about it.

Personally, the ask 100 people out on the street test is probably effective. At least one will say yes eventually.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/28/2017 8:47:46 PM   
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You met online. You have the hots for each other. Would you fuck on the first date?

Interesting replies. My first reaction is No Way, not at my age.
(I pride myself on my self-restraint, yanno. )

Not counting when I was in my youth, of course, I must admit that after undergoing long periods of self-imposed celibacy where I don't feel sexual chemistry very often, I do end up testing sexual compatibility fairly early.

Btw Greta, dude absolutely has to be flirtatious and playful with me from the starting gate, and respond to constant verbal/mental foreplay.
It didn't matter that my sweetie is much shorter than I would normally prefer, a bit older than what I wanted, and half-bald and relatively average, because he's such a terrific guy.

This probably doesn't count, but my pet (he's vanilla, so he sees it more as being the teacher's pet!) and I did make out on the first date, as in good old-fashioned necking.
He is one of the rare ones who actually listens to what a woman says. And when I say that my neck is a big erogenous zone for me, I really mean it.
I know some others have told me in the past to just order a man to attend to me there as long as I want, but that isn't the same as having an enthusiastic lover who instinctively enjoys doing what I enjoy and doesn't try to rush things.
I can almost come just from that, and I have come from having my nipples sucked on without any genital stimulation.

Plus, I tend to become quite sexually aggressive on the infrequent occasions when I get high...more spontaneous, but not without taking necessary precautions. So, second date was the charm.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/28/2017 11:24:23 PM   
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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/29/2017 12:15:12 AM   
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It didn't matter that my sweetie is much shorter than I would normally prefer, a bit older than what I wanted, and half-bald and relatively average, because he's such a terrific guy.

It would matter to me if he is older than I wanted, shorter, half bald, as I either like total bald, or with hair. Not half ways.

I think no matter how terrific he is in other areas. I could not be with him. Physical attraction is rather important to me for long term. I do like having someone I consider eye candy. But my ideas of eye candy isn't hollywood standards either.

For a ONS, maybe...., possibly and it happens, just because if the guy is a nice guy, great conversation, I'd give him a chance to see if I will like him better after he rocks my world in bed. But the desire to want more will probably vanish. If I like someone just for their personality and not for their physicality. Chances are, I just like them as friends for the long term and not want more.

Recently a guy told me in frustration that, women wouldn't care about a man who is short, half bald, obese and rich, except for his money. She wouldn't care about anything else about him.

But I gave him a chance to prove to me he is spectacular in personality and character alone. Also giving him clear blue print of what will make me happy. His a vanilla guy.

But he totally fucked up on those blue prints, totally only focusing on what he likes and not what I like, not listening at all to my needs.

And then worst of all, I got sick. And when I was sick, food poisoning, in excruciating pain, he was more concern with his disappointment that my illness made me unable to meet up with him than actually show any concern for my illness at all.

When I did meet him the next day, as I was already mad. He claims just spending time with me having a drink makes him happy already. But later, after we left each other, he said he couldn't stand it that he couldn't fuck me anymore.

So the real problem isn't even his appearance. The real problem is his personality and character.

Even the gifts he gave me. You know the kind of "gifts" men give you are very very telling about him as a person.

Alot of man gift you what he likes, and not what you like. I hate that.

I told him point blank that the best kind of gifts I love to receive the most and makes me happiest are sex toys! Infact, I am always super happy when I get a dildo or whatever. Those are the best gifts!

Yet, he decided to do something, artistic with his hands, build something, but it wasn't a sex toy. He is talented artistically and good with his hands, with a different woman who appreciates those things, may appreciate his gift. But I didn't because he was giving me what he thinks is sweet. But I told him upfront that i have zero appreciation for artistic things. He wasn't listening.

And anyway, it's how things can go south.

It's like my x-marriage where I would tell my xhusband that every year, I just want this specific chocolate cake from this place for my birthday. Yet every year, he finds a new interesting different place and brings me a new chocolate cake from some new fancy desert place. I don't get it. Is the gift meant for him or for me? It's my birthday cake! I don't want anything new. I want my favourite chocolate cake! I like it for it's very specific taste. That cannot be recreated by other cake shops.

It's just sometimes, I guess, criss cross. These two guys, for a different woman, they may seriously appreciate the gestures. But for me, I don't like surprises. I like predictability, and I like to tell them what I want if they wanna give me something, and I want to know I am getting exactly what I asked for, so I don't get things I don't appreciate and them wasting their time and money on something I don't even like. I prefer to be gifted nothing at all, than to be gifted anything I don't like. I told my x-husband, the safest gift he can give me is, to be there for me when I need him. Material gifts, not necessarily at all. Like I don't even need them in a relationship at all. I never ask for gifts, but men when they are smitten with you, often likes to gift. So that's how those gifts happen, without me asking for it.

The is very prevalent in the vanilla world. Vanilla men just love to gift. But I have also met guys who just listened and gave me what made me happy. But every guy who has ever gotten it right happen to be physically attractive too, which is strange.

So physically unattractive guys just seem to not have the right social skills, and then also lacking in looks department. Why is it related? I have no idea, and I don't date women, so I don't know if the experience is the same for men dating women. Are the physically attractive ones generally better personality and character?

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/29/2017 10:54:06 AM   
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Of course I fuck with total abandon. And scream the whole house down. That's the only way to have sex! If I am not getting murdered by orgasms continuously for hours, the guy is probably not doing a good job of fucking me properly.
And it's not crazy! It's called awesome sex!


I don't mean that awesome sex is crazy.
I mean that you are crazy, which is probably why the sex is good.

There's a certain perversely self-destructive thrill involved for whomever you're with, I'm sure.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/29/2017 11:04:05 AM   
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There's a certain perversely self-destructive thrill involved for whomever you're with, I'm sure.

It's interesting how you equate sexual activities with "self destruction" now. That's an interesting way to look at sex.

I simply see it was pure mindless pleasure and just pure indulgent. And always mutual! I don't want an experience with a man who is just accommodating me for the sake of sex, through my interrogation, one of the purpose is to find a man who precisely enjoy everything I enjoy so the enjoyment can be absolutely mutual for both of us. Ensures equally fantastic sexual experience for both.

Anyway, if there wasn't equal mutual excitement. It's probably not gonna be great for both.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/29/2017 12:45:23 PM   
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Of course I fuck with total abandon. And scream the whole house down. That's the only way to have sex! If I am not getting murdered by orgasms continuously for hours, the guy is probably not doing a good job of fucking me properly.
And it's not crazy! It's called awesome sex!


I don't mean that awesome sex is crazy.
I mean that you are crazy, which is probably why the sex is good.

There's a certain perversely self-destructive thrill involved for whomever you're with, I'm sure.


You are one to judge craziness... lol. You're a nutcase yourself.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 5/29/2017 10:18:07 PM   
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Of course I fuck with total abandon. And scream the whole house down. That's the only way to have sex! If I am not getting murdered by orgasms continuously for hours, the guy is probably not doing a good job of fucking me properly.
And it's not crazy! It's called awesome sex!


I don't mean that awesome sex is crazy.
I mean that you are crazy, which is probably why the sex is good.

There's a certain perversely self-destructive thrill involved for whomever you're with, I'm sure.


You are one to judge craziness... lol. You're a nutcase yourself.


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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 6/3/2017 9:08:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		OP, here's how it works for me.

First of all, the guy has to turn out to be fuckable. Aside from on-line interactions where he has made favorable impressions on me (and vice versa, it should go without saying), I will know this when we meet.

Then, his dick has to be fuckable-looking or have fuck-appeal. This may require a bit of exploratory inspection.
He could have a nice-looking dick but it may not feel as hard and firm as a diamond cutter.

I can also tell from the way he kisses whether he'll be a slobbering hot mess or whether I can surmise that he will have staying power.

Therefore, all of this might take more than the first date for me to determine what kind of lover a guy is.
Some submissive men get off on being sexually humiliated or rejected as a sexual partner, but that doesn't turn me on.

I have a teasing fetish, so I want to test his responses to that important aspect of displaying passion along with delayed gratification.
This, to me, is the difference between just having sex and making love.
I can just have sex all by myself. Two people coming (no pun intended) together to make love is altogether different in that respect.

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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 6/3/2017 9:31:07 PM   
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RE: -=Would you fuck on the first date?=- - 6/4/2017 5:45:44 PM   
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