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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 6:52:09 AM

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From a copy and paste effort
1. half of them laugh
2. half of them say i don't understand and tell me to fuk off and block me :).

I am happy to rewrite your "copy and paste" in simple English where women might be able to understand what you are saying.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 6:55:31 AM

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My female slave initiated contact with me. Many have over the years. I think your perception of the "mentality" is skewed.

^ This.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 7:31:47 AM

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I've been musing over this, and whether it was online or in person; I initiated contact. If I liked a guy, they had my attention, if they had my attention, I soon had theirs.

Which is weird,since I'm usually oblivious to people around me.

I might have once thought men Should do the "hunting," but in hindsight, I may have enjoyed the hunt, but I put myself in their sights.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 7:40:45 AM

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Sometimes I go with the more simpler stuff eg
1. Nice juggs
2. Pro ones - I enquire how much do they charge for cleaning my cooker. They don't seem to like that one for some reason.
3. I am not wanting a rocket scientist - so perhaps my first mentioned strategy is really just a way of thinning the herd to someone actually looking, bit genuine, and affords my profile a five minute read...and that's too talk too not hump.

Look I can rarely find a profile on any site I actually want to mail. But that doesn't mean you will not get the odd good answer back from a blank, rubbish, entitled etc profile. Sometimes people surprise as you well know.

At the end of the day I feel sorry for most of the genuine guys who are actually looking - they dont stand a chance due to the sheer volume of married guys talking utter pants in the hope of a titty pictures. But those women are just equally to blame.

Where would you get annoyed or give up?

After you sent 100 mails to no replies, what about 1000 emails, 10,000, 100,000?

(Not included are married people openly looking for others and people looking for friendship bit of convo and poly households whatever they are)

On a site like this there are probably 1 women for every 8-40 guys, and I explained the volume of mail they get in a previous post. Some women can get 100-500 a day.

The reason many of us come onto the boards is for company or no one to really talk to in-depth about this and that.

The problem this site has always had is there are so few women - and I have never quite been able to fully work out why that is after all this years.Fake cartoon porn pictures hot fake lesbian profiles is not going to help things. If a women signs up on eg here most will think wtf and leave

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 7:45:35 AM

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1. Nice juggs

Yup, your pick up line needs work!

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 8:21:48 AM

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But my oven one was fine?

Sometimes I go with this one: Looking for hot Strumpet from outer-space ( I am not kidding actually that's my tag line on pof half the time)

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 9:36:45 AM

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My female slave initiated contact with me. Many have over the years. I think your perception of the "mentality" is skewed.

^ This.

Nikki's latest rant does raise an interesting point that he probably hasn't considered: does anybody in this thread, on seeing a profile over the other side that attracts their interest, click on the "view all posts" button to see what the object of their interest has been saying on the messageboards?
Perhaps this is why no woman has initiated contact with Nikki: they looked at his posting history, pissed themselves laughing, then went on to the next profile that their search had turned up.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 10:12:25 AM

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Who is Nikki?

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 11:17:32 AM

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Who is Nikki?

rm. He used to post as nasty Niikki or somesuch.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 11:34:06 AM

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But my oven one was fine?

Sometimes I go with this one: Looking for hot Strumpet from outer-space ( I am not kidding actually that's my tag line on pof half the time)

Well, if you want someone to clean your cooker for a price and you need her to dress sexy or be naked while doing it, you should be looking for a pro-sub and not a pro-domme. If you don't care what she wears, then just employ a cleaning lady!

And I think "Hot Strumpet from outer space" is kinda not too bad, except you told me before you don't care about looks, not your priority. So how about "Seeking Hot Strumpet from outer space (Inner Beauty appreciated too)"

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 11:50:59 AM

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Well, if you want someone to clean your cooker for a price and you need her to dress sexy or be naked while doing it, you should be looking for a pro-sub and not a pro-domme. If you don't care what she wears, then just employ a cleaning lady!

Raymond Chandler used to seek inspiration by watching his wife do the housework in the nude.
(Betcha Thomas Harris doesn't do that...)

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 12:03:14 PM

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Raymond Chandler used to seek inspiration by watching his wife do the housework in the nude.
(Betcha Thomas Harris doesn't do that...)

Well, I have never wore clothes at home ever since I got my own home. So even in my ex vanilla marriage. I was cooking naked, cleaning naked always. Definitely have cleaned ovens and cookers naked. And wash dishes, mopped and vacuum. Clean kitty litter boxes Naked. Attempting to wok stir fry or flame alcohol on my food naked. My x-husband was always worried his balls would get scotch by oil if he cooked naked or something. So he always wore boxers for protection if he cooked. But I've definitely got hot burning oil splattered on my breast while cooking naked. And it never bothered me. I encouraged him to stay naked with me all the time.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 12:05:38 PM

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So which classic noir detective thrillers did your ex write, then?

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 1:53:29 PM

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the job for a man to do.

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I don't get why someone is getting butt hurt over people not contacting them. Do it yourself - or you really will be doing it yourself. Accepting realities is part of being sane.....

So a man is supposed to have no problem at with women being hypocrites and wanting to pick and choose when they want and don't want equality? What next? A woman gets to slap men in the face and men aren't entitled to complain?

What if a man openly said that he refuses to initiate contact and thinks it's the woman's job to do so? He would get ridiculed and laughed at. All the women who know that this is how that man thinks, how many would be approaching him to date? I would say ZERO. Because many of today's women are shameless fucking hypocrites. Gotta larf.

Perhaps you have a condition that inhibits reading comprehension. I initiatied contact whilst looking for another dom. I am a woman, therefore your premise is inaccurate.
If a man said he was waiting for women to come to him, I wouldn't laugh - I might sigh and shake my head, because he is going to be one lonely little dude. I really doubt anyone would spare a thought to ridicule or laugh at him - people are remarkably blind to things that don't concern them. I find it very odd that a man , raised in a Western country, is so obviously ....confused.... about the realities of life and dating. I was raised to wait for men to ask women out. I don't think it is quite as concrete as it used to be, but cultural conditioning is hard to beat. So if you don't want to be the lonely little man in the corner, beating his breast and lamenting that no-one loves him, I think you need to get off your outraged duff and make an effort - and be half-way nice about it. No-one likes a crybaby.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 8:23:22 PM

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the job for a man to do.

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I don't get why someone is getting butt hurt over people not contacting them. Do it yourself - or you really will be doing it yourself. Accepting realities is part of being sane.....

So a man is supposed to have no problem at with women being hypocrites and wanting to pick and choose when they want and don't want equality? What next? A woman gets to slap men in the face and men aren't entitled to complain?

What if a man openly said that he refuses to initiate contact and thinks it's the woman's job to do so? He would get ridiculed and laughed at. All the women who know that this is how that man thinks, how many would be approaching him to date? I would say ZERO. Because many of today's women are shameless fucking hypocrites. Gotta larf.

Perhaps you have a condition that inhibits reading comprehension. I initiatied contact whilst looking for another dom. I am a woman, therefore your premise is inaccurate.
If a man said he was waiting for women to come to him, I wouldn't laugh - I might sigh and shake my head, because he is going to be one lonely little dude. I really doubt anyone would spare a thought to ridicule or laugh at him - people are remarkably blind to things that don't concern them. I find it very odd that a man , raised in a Western country, is so obviously ....confused.... about the realities of life and dating. I was raised to wait for men to ask women out. I don't think it is quite as concrete as it used to be, but cultural conditioning is hard to beat. So if you don't want to be the lonely little man in the corner, beating his breast and lamenting that no-one loves him, I think you need to get off your outraged duff and make an effort - and be half-way nice about it. No-one likes a crybaby.

A quicky until I get home.

This isn't about me or my luck with women. This is about women's behaviour. The finger is pointing at women who have this hypocritical and sexist attitude but people like you try to move the finger at the man who is calling out on the bad behaviour from women.

Using your same logic, if women complain about glass ceilings for example, can men treat women like how women treat men? So for example, men tell women that they have to work harder than men to break the glass ceiling and if women complain about that opinion, they are in the wrong and are deserving of ridicule and shame for complaining about it?

If what I just said is misogynist; why isn't it misandrist when women act the same way in a situation where it's unequal and men are told they have to work harder than women to achieve the same thing?

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/30/2017 9:47:58 PM

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So which classic noir detective thrillers did your ex write, then?

It would be interesting if my ex could write anything ha! He was definitely not a reader. Neither a writer.
Ironically, fortunately we met at work, I doubt I would have ever been drawn to him if it was online. His writing is terrible. I mean, verbally, he speaks very well. It's abit strange in my country because of all the different mother tongue that different types of Chinese people speak. In past, even Chinese couldn't communicate with each other as we all spoke different languages. I mean, neither of my grandparents, mom and dad side could speak Mandarin, which is the national language of China now. And both my parents speak a different mother tongue. When I go to my grandparents, on each side, it's two whole different languages they are speaking. So technically I know 4 languages, but it doesn't count, since 3 of them are chinese languages ha.

In UK, it would be depending on your state of origin. But in Singapore, it's fully reliant on what Chinese ethnic group you are from and whether did you grow up at home speaking those languages. The accent differs. Like if someone speaks Cantonese at home, their English accent will be completely different from someone who speaks Hakka at home. And verbally, both me and him have the precise same accent, which was pretty cool, like we speak the same type of English.

But expressing himself in writing, is terrible.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/31/2017 3:49:32 AM

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This thread really is about your behavior, because so far you haven't proved your assertion. Better get on it. All we have is what you say, and as far as I can tell from your previous writings, you have an agenda and a somewhat skewed point of view.
I was pointing out that I don't have the behavior you are accusing all women of, therefore your original premise is flawed. If I am/was intiating contact with men, then there are women out there that do the same thing. I don't think i'm a special little snowflake in these matters.

So, basically, you need to prove your assertion - and it shouldn't be purely anecdotal. After all, just because no-one contacts you, doesn't mean it is the same way for every man.

And for the record, I didn't call you misogynistic - I just thought it very very loudly.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/31/2017 6:03:14 AM

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So, basically, you need to prove your assertion - and it shouldn't be purely anecdotal. After all, just because no-one contacts you, doesn't mean it is the same way for every man.

There is just no there, there. It is Nick being Nick. He must get some benefit or satisfaction from his trolling.

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And for the record, I didn't call you misogynistic - I just thought it very very loudly.

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/31/2017 1:02:00 PM

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So for example, men tell women that they have to work harder than men to break the glass ceiling and if women complain about that opinion, they are in the wrong and are deserving of ridicule and shame for complaining about it?

If what I just said is misogynist; why isn't it misandrist when women act the same way in a situation where it's unequal and men are told they have to work harder than women to achieve the same thing?

Which women are telling men that they have to work harder than women to achieve the same thing?

The problem with your argument isn't that your logic is wrong, the problem with your argument is that your starting premise is wrong.
You keep bitching about how 'women' expect men to do X, but you never demonstrate that women, as a group, actually expect men to do X.

Every woman on this thread has said that she initiates contact with men. So which women exactly is it that think that it's only men's jobs to initiate contact?

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RE: Women who think it's only the man's job to initiate... - 5/31/2017 1:26:24 PM

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So for example, men tell women that they have to work harder than men to break the glass ceiling and if women complain about that opinion, they are in the wrong and are deserving of ridicule and shame for complaining about it?

If what I just said is misogynist; why isn't it misandrist when women act the same way in a situation where it's unequal and men are told they have to work harder than women to achieve the same thing?

Which women are telling men that they have to work harder than women to achieve the same thing?

The problem with your argument isn't that your logic is wrong, the problem with your argument is that your starting premise is wrong.
You keep bitching about how 'women' expect men to do X, but you never demonstrate that women, as a group, actually expect men to do X.

Every woman on this thread has said that she initiates contact with men. So which women exactly is it that think that it's only men's jobs to initiate contact?