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ORIGINAL: secretsss

I am absolutely amazed at the so-called dominants who get offended by a sub or slave adding them to their favorites. 
I rejoined this community after a 6 month hiatus and now I am beginning to remember why I left all those months ago.
Today was a lazy Saturday, another storm running through St. Louis.  So, I decided to read profiles.  I read many of them and everytime that I ran across one that was particularly interesting, I would add it to my favorites. I added 7 people to my favorites, 3 subs and 4 dominants. My thinking was that I could go back and re-read them another time and maybe muster the courage to write a few emails. 
Now, I am not here to find my soul-mate or life partner. My profile clearly states that I am just here to make friends and have some intellectual conversations. I am long time member of the d/s sub-culture. I found d/s when I was 22 and I will soon be 40.  So, let's not count the actual years.   Of course, I feel most comfortable on d/s sites, discussing d/s and bdsm related topics.  Oops didn't mean to digress.  Anyway, all three of the submissives (2 ladies and 1 male) wrote very nice letters of introduction, after noticing that I added them to my favorites. Two very nasty wannabee male dominants wrote to berate me for not asking their permission before adding their name to my favorites list.  Is this what d/s has come to?  Have dominants become this insecure?  Are manners now reserved for submissives?  Can someone please shed some light on this matter?
To end on a positive note, it looks like I am on my way to making three new friends.  Thank goodness for subbies.
secrets

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ORIGINAL: secretsss

I am absolutely amazed at the so-called dominants who get offended by a sub or slave adding them to their favorites. 
I rejoined this community after a 6 month hiatus and now I am beginning to remember why I left all those months ago.
Today was a lazy Saturday, another storm running through St. Louis.  So, I decided to read profiles.  I read many of them and everytime that I ran across one that was particularly interesting, I would add it to my favorites. I added 7 people to my favorites, 3 subs and 4 dominants. My thinking was that I could go back and re-read them another time and maybe muster the courage to write a few emails. 
Now, I am not here to find my soul-mate or life partner. My profile clearly states that I am just here to make friends and have some intellectual conversations. I am long time member of the d/s sub-culture. I found d/s when I was 22 and I will soon be 40.  So, let's not count the actual years.   Of course, I feel most comfortable on d/s sites, discussing d/s and bdsm related topics.  Oops didn't mean to digress.  Anyway, all three of the submissives (2 ladies and 1 male) wrote very nice letters of introduction, after noticing that I added them to my favorites. Two very nasty wannabee male dominants wrote to berate me for not asking their permission before adding their name to my favorites list.  Is this what d/s has come to?  Have dominants become this insecure?  Are manners now reserved for submissives?  Can someone please shed some light on this matter?
To end on a positive note, it looks like I am on my way to making three new friends.  Thank goodness for subbies.
secrets

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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW


Littlesarbonn, I am probably the one that yelled at you....but if you had read my profile it clearly asks that you don't add me until we have had a conversation.  I don't think up to this point we have had one.  I don't believe I was rude, perhaps it was perceived that way.  I probably just asked you to remove me like I have done others when they add me without benefit of a conversation.

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW


Littlesarbonn, I am probably the one that yelled at you....but if you had read my profile it clearly asks that you don't add me until we have had a conversation.  I don't think up to this point we have had one.  I don't believe I was rude, perhaps it was perceived that way.  I probably just asked you to remove me like I have done others when they add me without benefit of a conversation.

No, it wasn't you. You've never been on my favorite list. Don't take it as an insult, but I've never heard of you before today.

The person who threw a fit, threw a fit about everything. One read of her profile, and you'd see that. That's actually why I made it a favorite. I wanted to read that profile again. It was hilarious. It was like the person reading it was already married to her, and she was planning a divorce.

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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

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ORIGINAL: BBBTBW


Littlesarbonn, I am probably the one that yelled at you....but if you had read my profile it clearly asks that you don't add me until we have had a conversation.  I don't think up to this point we have had one.  I don't believe I was rude, perhaps it was perceived that way.  I probably just asked you to remove me like I have done others when they add me without benefit of a conversation.

No, it wasn't you. You've never been on my favorite list. Don't take it as an insult, but I've never heard of you before today.

The person who threw a fit, threw a fit about everything. One read of her profile, and you'd see that. That's actually why I made it a favorite. I wanted to read that profile again. It was hilarious. It was like the person reading it was already married to her, and she was planning a divorce.

not insulted at all....perhaps I have just seen your name on the message boards....

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ORIGINAL: amativedame

What you can choose to do (in order to prevent other people from getting "bumped off") is to "hide" those you don't want to view in your admirers list.  Downside to that will be that they won't come up in a search... but odds are if you were to hide them like that, would you really want them to come up in a search? lol