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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 7:46:28 AM

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Homestead: I appreciated the good joke!

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 7:47:16 AM

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Clowns are scarey

http://www.ouchytheclown.com/

(and this guy is for real)

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 8:08:27 AM

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Homestead: Ha! I've seen Ouchy's ad on the Dungeon.net bdsm websites. I gotta credit him w/superior creativity. To me, He somehow manages to give off off a whiff of 'Daddy Domness' while maybe doing much more despicable things than any Daddy Dom might ever be capable of contemplating (or, that could be my imagination running away w/me again. In any case, I thought it was a riot).

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 8:17:18 AM

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I identify with his statement, "Making you laugh while I hurt you."

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 8:38:50 AM

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Homestead: Yes. He's got his priorities down! I have the impression that even though on the surface his persona might strike some as ridiculous, that he has a long list of satisified customers somewhere.

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 8:53:34 AM

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If you check out the insane clown posse, he's into some pretty intense stuff.

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 8:58:26 AM

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I am going to give it a look, just out of curiosity. Thanks for the tip.

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 9:07:59 AM

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The fem nazi clown with the needles was cute.

And I was amused at him getting beaten with the industial grade eggbeater as well.

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 9:13:09 AM

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What's that with clowns being scary?
I thought clowns were supposed to be funny?
Hmmm, people are afraid of the strangest things.

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 9:13:34 AM

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I think he is just trying to make people more comfortable w/Sadism, maybe. What a creative guy.

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/1/2006 9:49:53 AM

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I am almost 35. I have been involved in various facets of D/s and BDSM since I was 19. I don't see the "going down hill" so many talk about here. I think the internet has simply opened more avenues for people. In 15+ years, I think it has improved in so many ways. People are no longer geographically bound and that is fabulous! I have met so many extremely dominant successful men and women in the past 15 years..from all over the world. I have become friends with some of the most devoted servants who have inspired me, counseled me, and sometimes told me to "Buck up and deal". I think the forums here on collar me are by far the best. I imagine that the personals side is just as good. I know that there have been at least 20 men, that I if I were not owned, I would be jumping through hoops to attract and meet. I think that is pretty good numbers for any dating service. I just ignore the folks out for nothing but sex. I don't see abuse like that little kid saw dead people ...everywhere..so perhaps I have my head buried in the sand but I don't believe the world of people interested in D/s, M/s, or BDSM is full of psychos and abusers. I think the number is roughly equal to my chances of meeting one in the mall or my local grocery store. I believe there are more, way more service oriented and ownership oriented folks now, than there were when I first discovered I was like this. I'm sorry your experience has not met with your expectations.

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I have to ask why so many feel that it is necessary to post a naked or near naked photo for all to see. I have always been under the impression that this life is not of SEX and NUDITY but is of the desire between a Master and his. Those desires are what makes them both fulfilled not what some book says you have to act as. I often wonder if the life is becomeing nothing but a way to bring self gradification to some and to others a way to lure ones into a abusive relation under cover of saying it is the way the life is. You see so many saying I posted a photo and if you want to talk to me you have to post one as well. To me that smacks of a player using the life to gain access to someone naked photos to steal and post on some other porn site. I have seen this life style go down hill over the past few years as the internet has become more avaible. I wonder if this site charged for access if we would have so many players. Is the real meaning of the site lost by the players and ones seeking porn. Just look at the adds this and other sites use and I have to say I think a lot of those photos are fake. I live in a smaller comunity and I have never seen any of the photos of the girls that it uses walking down the street in real life. IN fact one of the towns it uses does not even have a store in it or a gas station only a stop sign but there are over 30 photos from that location, hard to believe. Or is the whole life style becomeing nothing more than a way to have kink in your sex life, you find more and more I want to be controlled in the bed room but vanilla outside of it. To me you can't have it both ways and achieve the same effect. But then again I have my own opinion and not that of others.

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/2/2006 2:06:44 AM

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P.S. Not to throw this thread off-track, but - I did read the recent updates on the thread on Fear in the Ask a Master, forum, and I don't get why more people don't recognize 'psychological bdsm' (of lack of a better term) more often as a legitimate past of bdsm activity either. It's obvious to me it 1) Exists and 2) Could be just as fulfilling as any physical bdsm activity (maybe more). Although I personally credit you with opening my mind to aknowledging its existence more, via your posts.

Hey there Susan...This caught my eye, re: "psychological bdsm." In my experiences, this avenue of submission runs deepest. In fact any physical activity we experience together has huge psychological and emotional depths for me - if not as a direct result of the act itself while it is occuring, but in the aftermath, affecting me in all areas of life.

An example of aftermath - My father, who is quite ill, had a stay in the hospital recently. While he was in there, some really awful things were happening to him (I won't get into detail here) and I was assisting in the situation. It was horribly traumatic for me, and when all was said and done, I excused myself a moment and went to the bathroom, where I locked the door and bawled my eyes out. When I thought I had composed myself, I realized I was paralyzed in fear - I could not leave the bathroom. I could NOT go back out there and face more trauma. I just stood there, staring at the door. And then I thought of my Master, and I thought of some things he has put me through, which had nothing to do with pain. And I thought, "If I could do that, then this is quite do-able. I was able to take a deep breath and go back to my Dad's room for more.

Didn't mean to hijack this...but the complexities of the psyche is amazing to me, and its place in D/s no less so. Thanks for bringing it up.

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/2/2006 2:41:03 AM

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Thanks to Susan for bringing up the idea and thanks to you OwneG for a touching story. I'm glad you found the strength to help your dad.

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/2/2006 9:35:49 AM

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Simple Because they want to and can.

BDSM and pictures is what ever who ever wants it to be. Who cares if someone is an exhibitionist and puts up nearly nude pics. I don't/

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RE: Web sites and the life style - 8/2/2006 1:17:57 PM

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ownedgirlie: What a beautiful and inspiring story about using your past D/s and M/s experiences to help fend off feelings of helplessness when your dad was in the hospital. That was so wonderful, it almost made me cry.

ExSteel: Your'e welcome.

-Susan

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