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RE: Is It Just Me? - 8/11/2006 1:30:44 PM

Lordandmaster

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Well, for most sane people, it's just me. But for some people, it's me and my alter ego. Then for some really fucked up people, it's me, Enrique, that little boy who never says his name, Q. George Humdinger III, Wally, Cheryl, Biggie JaZappa, ...

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RE: Is It Just Me? - 8/12/2006 1:02:57 AM

mons

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greetings to all

i agree with you i had someone ask to pay me i am and never had taken money from any sub or slave and i do think it is wrong to think we all are in the same boat.

i do not have anything against pro dommes but i am not one i know some who are ery nice and kind but we who are not pro domme wish to let others know this i have always said this is for my pleasure and it is.

so males read my profile before you assume what i may be not what you wish me to be. i have respect for many of the pro domme not all but i know many who are kind and nice it is just they take money.
so i vented

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RE: Is It Just Me? - 8/12/2006 10:09:46 AM

WinterWolf

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I haven't had my coffee either and I am just about as annoyed iwth some aspects of this lifestyle as you are.
So, to my Domme friends (you know who you are), I must first say, you are an exception to the rule and none of what I'm about to say applies to you.

I have NOT met many Dommes who do not want money for being a top.
Some of these Dommes have even approached me, testing to see if I am a closet switch. I'm not offended by it, but I do have to wonder about the mentality of Dommes.
I have pondered this;
Do Dommes think there is no joy in being in a D/s relationship without getting paid for it?
I have never met a Dom who would take money to play a scene with a sub, even when there is no "getting off" involved for him. ( I know getting off is subjective, so here I mean it as "busting a nut"). I have met some trainers who get paid, but they are performing a very specific task of teaching someone a specialized skill or task.

Most of the Dommes I have met, not only do it for money, but have the attitude that they are a true "Goddess on Earth", I don't mean "Goddess" in the wiccan sense, I mean they believe that they deserve to be reveared.
This self imposed 'Goddess' status tends to turn me off from talking to them at all, for IMHO,
Who made you better than me?
Just Because you have a vagina between your legs and call yourself a Domme, you are better than I?
I think NOT!

Show me a Domme who doesn't want money for the sheer pleasure of TPE, and who actually wants a D/s RELATIONSHIP. I will be surprised to say the least.
Show me a Domme who can humble herself, one who does not NEED to be called "Mistress goddes and all powerfull being of darkness pain and pleasure" (or some other ridiculous title), and I will say she is a Domme who deserves that amount of respect.
I don't need, nor do I like, subs to call me anything other than my name if I'm not involved with them (except for 'sir' if they can't remember my name or if they are ordered to by their top). My little girl calls me daddy, and that's it for me. So I am put off by those Doms/Dommes who need a title from everyone, just as you may be put off by Doms who think all women should submitt to his power.

So I'm happy to have read something from a Woman, who is Domme and needs no clients to reassure her of this.

thank you,

You may now return to your regular programming.

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RE: Is It Just Me? - 8/12/2006 10:57:00 AM

WinterWolf

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.........I take My "job" as Pro as seriously as I take My volunteer work at the library.....

Since when did TPE become a friggin JOB?
This type of thing makes me think that there are but a handfull of women who actually enjoy being a Top for the TPE. I regarde any woman who says she's a prodomme as a woman with a skill and not a real Alpha type person. Those who I know that are REAL Alpha women get respect because they earn it and show that they deserve it, and never demand it.
And that is rare indeed!
Just as in nature, you find a mostly patriarchal society, BUT, there are those in the animal kingdom with Matriarchs. I think since women have never been in a true matriarch they think they can only do it as a job to get paid at.

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RE: Is It Just Me? - 8/12/2006 12:37:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: WinterWolf

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ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66
.........I take My "job" as Pro as seriously as I take My volunteer work at the library.....

Since when did TPE become a friggin JOB?
This type of thing makes me think that there are but a handfull of women who actually enjoy being a Top for the TPE. I regarde any woman who says she's a prodomme as a woman with a skill and not a real Alpha type person. Those who I know that are REAL Alpha women get respect because they earn it and show that they deserve it, and never demand it.
And that is rare indeed!
Just as in nature, you find a mostly patriarchal society, BUT, there are those in the animal kingdom with Matriarchs. I think since women have never been in a true matriarch they think they can only do it as a job to get paid at.

I only called it a "job" because of the following post.
I actually do enjoy it as a Lifestyle,I'm fairly sure My slave bishop is a happy girl too.

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I agree with you michael, the Pro Domme isn't in control she's just doing what she gets paid to do and the sub is a customer who tells her what he wants/desires. He isn't being forced into it, its something he wants to do and she is just doing a job.

~Lashra

Not this Dominatrix...I frankly get sick of being lumped into some catagory that implies I am a money sucking slug.I have the barter system also,not everyone has money but I feel they should still be able to try it once.
I take My "job" as Pro as seriously as I take My volunteer work at the library.
I will say again that while they(submissives) tell Me what they like doesnt mean they get it.
Sometimes they never get it...but yet they come back.I'm sure in hopes that someday they will.

I find that by doing what I want I get more that come back for a 2nd session.The ones I have catered to dont come back. They may want a certain scene but they want the CONTROL to be with the Domme.Anyone who really wants to Top from the bottom....doesnt do well here.I make them leave.Just becasue they paid doesnt mean they get to be disrespectful.

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RE: Is It Just Me? - 8/13/2006 11:05:23 AM

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Oh look! A post from an attractive person who is in control of their world, confident and can manage to see through the shit. Not being in a lesser position of some kind of insecurity which would make him speak out of convenience to his own personal situation as opposed to seeing things in the bigger picture like he is now.
Dont see that kind of thing everyday!

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ORIGINAL: WinterWolf

I haven't had my coffee either and I am just about as annoyed iwth some aspects of this lifestyle as you are.
So, to my Domme friends (you know who you are), I must first say, you are an exception to the rule and none of what I'm about to say applies to you.

I have NOT met many Dommes who do not want money for being a top.
Some of these Dommes have even approached me, testing to see if I am a closet switch. I'm not offended by it, but I do have to wonder about the mentality of Dommes.
I have pondered this;
Do Dommes think there is no joy in being in a D/s relationship without getting paid for it?
I have never met a Dom who would take money to play a scene with a sub, even when there is no "getting off" involved for him. ( I know getting off is subjective, so here I mean it as "busting a nut"). I have met some trainers who get paid, but they are performing a very specific task of teaching someone a specialized skill or task.

Most of the Dommes I have met, not only do it for money, but have the attitude that they are a true "Goddess on Earth", I don't mean "Goddess" in the wiccan sense, I mean they believe that they deserve to be reveared.
This self imposed 'Goddess' status tends to turn me off from talking to them at all, for IMHO,
Who made you better than me?
Just Because you have a vagina between your legs and call yourself a Domme, you are better than I?
I think NOT!

Show me a Domme who doesn't want money for the sheer pleasure of TPE, and who actually wants a D/s RELATIONSHIP. I will be surprised to say the least.
Show me a Domme who can humble herself, one who does not NEED to be called "Mistress goddes and all powerfull being of darkness pain and pleasure" (or some other ridiculous title), and I will say she is a Domme who deserves that amount of respect.
I don't need, nor do I like, subs to call me anything other than my name if I'm not involved with them (except for 'sir' if they can't remember my name or if they are ordered to by their top). My little girl calls me daddy, and that's it for me. So I am put off by those Doms/Dommes who need a title from everyone, just as you may be put off by Doms who think all women should submitt to his power.

So I'm happy to have read something from a Woman, who is Domme and needs no clients to reassure her of this.

thank you,

You may now return to your regular programming.

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RE: Is It Just Me? - 8/13/2006 11:25:18 AM

WhiteRadiance

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Lashra-

I never "force" anyone to do anything. They do what I tell them to do whether they like it or not. Many of them pay for it. In any case I get what I want.

Do you have to force your way?

The fact is, the demand for Dommes is astronomical. I do not want or need 25,000 24/7 slaves. I have other things to do. If they can't serve me ON MY SCHEDULE and do what I need them to do- they pay. I do not force them to. They do it because it works for both parties.

I love what I do, and am good at it. My slave will attest to that. He is the one who encouraged me to take some clients.

Being a pro does NOT mean you give up control. My boys jump through hoops to see me. They have instructions to follow before they get in the door.

I do not understand the bitter hatred and resentment about this subject.

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I agree with you michael, the Pro Domme isn't in control she's just doing what she gets paid to do and the sub is a customer who tells her what he wants/desires. He isn't being forced into it, its something he wants to do and she is just doing a job.

~Lashra

Not this Dominatrix...I frankly get sick of being lumped into some catagory that implies I am a money sucking slug.I have the barter system also,not everyone has money but I feel they should still be able to try it once.
I take My "job" as Pro as seriously as I take My volunteer work at the library.
I will say again that while they(submissives) tell Me what they like doesnt mean they get it.
Sometimes they never get it...but yet they come back.I'm sure in hopes that someday they will.

I find that by doing what I want I get more that come back for a 2nd session.The ones I have catered to dont come back. They may want a certain scene but they want the CONTROL to be with the Domme.Anyone who really wants to Top from the bottom....doesnt do well here.I make them leave.Just becasue they paid doesnt mean they get to be disrespectful.

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