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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/16/2006 5:42:49 PM

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I do appreciate men with manners. The definition of what constitutes "nice" for submissives tends to get muddled in the bdsm world (my opinion) - but rest assured, they will not have no manners. I'm not seeking a partner just yet, but when I do, manners do count for something with me. I am sure they probably count for something w/many Dominants, too.

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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/16/2006 5:47:25 PM

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I never get tired of being strong, but I do get tired of being "tough". I do not want to have to constantly reinforce expectations - having to do so wastes my time and my sub's. Part of submitting to me is doing what I ask without my needing to "get tough". Yes, sometimes "getting tough" is part of the fun - for all involved, but like anything else, having to do it all the time gets exhausting.

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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/16/2006 7:32:37 PM

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BuxomGoddess714 wrote: "We are all human . . . "

Hey, speak for yourself. I'm a God from Pluto.

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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/16/2006 7:41:45 PM

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Susan... The way I see it a man, regardless of whether he is vanilla or chocolate, DOM or even sub, defends his woman -- geeze, does one even have to ask??!!?!! ... If you are not willing to defend your girl, you don't deserve her or the unit between your legs: it's as simple as that!

Then again, I try to keep life fun, simple and easy...

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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/17/2006 12:38:18 AM

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I appreciate it a lot that chivalry is not dead, ScorpioXXX.

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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/17/2006 12:51:37 AM

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I am never tough, tough takes way too much effort, and I just can't be bothered.

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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/17/2006 1:09:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressMaamNH

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On Males not sharing emotions...
Okay, I'm going to let you into a little secret that women don't seem to know or they know but deny it.

A lot of guys have learnt not to share their vulnerable side with women. Women do lose respect for men that appear vulnerable. They start to distance themselves, become unavailable and want to break off the relationship. Anything you tell them will be used as a weapon in future. They will share your innermost secrets with their friends. They will whine about you not sharing your emotions with them then will abuse you when you do ie That's not fair or You shouldn't feel that way. They will try to make you feel bad for having feelings that they do not approve of.

It doesn't matter if not all women are like that, the ones that are don't think they are either, so guys learn not to share. To share yourself and be abused in return will mean you will be very reluctant to share again as you know no matter what the woman says she may not be able to deal with your emotions being different than what she wants them to be.

Being human means you have emotions. Not being respected for your humanity as you just shared, is a very sad thing. It is clear how it has colored your view of an entire gender. Sad to see that kind of damage to a person's psyche.
Never once have I lost respect for a male who has shared his feelings and innermost thoughts..in fact, just the opposite. Being human, I know just how tough at times it can be to let yourself be that vulerable. I have more respect for someone who expresses themselves on that level.

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I may have come across as if I was talking about all women, which I wasn't. I just meant that if a guy did share his emotions and was punished for it, he wouldn't share easily again, if at all.

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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/17/2006 2:43:42 AM

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quote:

I may have come across as if I was talking about all women, which I wasn't. I just meant that if a guy did share his emotions and was punished for it, he wouldn't share easily again, if at all.

Ahh, yes..that makes much more sense then.

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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/17/2006 3:31:50 AM

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Life is a sensual interaction with the world, the pretence of toughness gets in the way of that sensual interaction. Once I felt the need to appear tough but now I don't. I can take or leave any sub woman that wants me to behave in a certain way and the offer of sex as a reward is not reward enough to for go fully interacting with the world. She can come along for the ride or not, that is her decision but I'm me and I'm not going to change and if that means I am not tough enough for her, then fine, its goodbye.

This is not a male-female thing, I've wrote how I wrote because I'm a hetro male.

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RE: Do Doms (and Dommes) ever get tired of being "... - 8/17/2006 3:46:02 AM

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greetings to all

yes i get tired of being the strong one always i am more then just a domme i am a woman who is a learner and a collector of postage stamp pre ww2 doll house bulider and so many more things but i do like being a domme it is in me, but when you write do not always think i need a male to bow to me or kiss my feet in a letter talk to me about the stocks or anything you know well i can handle many things i love history and i am a explorer of lose things at estate sale my lateness find is dolls when i look them up after paying 15 for both i find they are dolls from 1890's or so and worth 4, 000 dollars each.
i look for stamp catalog found in all of them any old stamp pre 1845 so do not look at me as just a domme but look at me as a domm with brains and a nose for looking thank all

mons (the dommes with a nose for looking also i wil beat your ass too )

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