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RE: What malesubs want to see more of in Domme profiles. - 8/24/2006 9:24:40 AM

CuteIrishM4F

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I prefer older Women, so i think it would be nice. i always read profiles before attempthing to make contact, so please don't count all subsas the same.
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RE: What malesubs want to see more of in Domme profiles. - 8/24/2006 6:30:00 PM

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I know submissives are individuals. My personal experience overall has been very positive with the submissives I've actually met (versus only virtually met.) I've found two of my own here on CM...one more than I was looking for, lol.

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RE: What malesubs want to see more of in Domme profiles. - 12/9/2006 3:06:18 PM

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As many have stated/concluded already, the reading of profiles by malesubs is discretionary. If he sees a picture of a Domme and is attracted to her ONLY for her appearance, it really doesn't matter what she states in her profile as this particular malesub has seen all he desires to see to make his decision.

I, by no means, am a proponent of this type of malesub as it makes all of us look bad as a whole.  When reading profiles, I don't discriminate between those with photos and those without photos. Each profile represents a potential match and to limit that population based on whether they have a picture or not is rather idiotic.

As far as profile content, I believe the more information you can provide the better.  I would have more interest in a profile with too much content rather than a profile with too little content. When reading profiles of Dommes, I mentally gather a checklist of her vanilla and D/s desires or requirements she states in her profile and then decide whether I can/would be able to meet the majority, if not each, of those for her.  I feel you can also decipher a lot about a person from the style of and the information included in their profile.  You can decipher, to some extent, whether they are a highly organized, detailed, and intelligent person by the composition, grammar, and intellectual content of their profile. Additionally, you usually can get a good idea of their deameanor and personality by how they state their words on the screen (are they cold-hearted, pessimistic, glass half-full, caring, compassionate, etc.).

Obviously, profiles that have 1-2 sentences in them does not provide much of chance for us to learn anything about you or give us an ability to make an INTELLIGENT decision about you. These type of profiles tend to do quite the opposite for me as it tends to indicate a "half-ass" mentality and begs the question "If you are half-ass on your profile, how are you in real-life?".

I just hope the actions of these unintelligent malesubs who aren't willing to read a profile does not facilitate the punishment or neglect of the malesub population by the Domme population.

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RE: What malesubs want to see more of in Domme profiles. - 12/9/2006 10:04:29 PM

imtempting

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ORIGINAL: LeatherRose

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ORIGINAL: peterK50

I'd like them to stop being vague & start being realistic in their expectations & what they have to offer a sub/slave.

And why in the hell would I want to do that? Especially when I get enough emails from wankers telling ME what they want me to do or what they can do for me just to get themselves off?!

I agree with Pandora, it doesn't matter what we put in our profiles about our wants or what we are looking for, we still get bombarded from guys that either obviously didn't read the profile or think they are Super Sub and could change our minds.

How about turning the tables here, when are the subs going to start actually putting down info on their profiles that doesn't sound like they are THE sub to have. It sickens me to see all the bragging they do and totally turns me off.

LeatherRose

Well now do you think the domme's are the only people getting emails saying what you have stated?

Domme's whinge all the time about subs profiles. ( You should not need me to get examples as it is written in a thread every day almost ) So why should subs fill out their profiles fully when these so called intelligent people who are meant to be correct can't fill out a profile their selves with all the information that they say should be in a sub's profile....

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RE: What malesubs want to see more of in Domme profiles. - 12/9/2006 10:53:54 PM

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What I would like to see is just more information. Some put in lots of information that is very helpful. Others, not so much.

I put some serious effort into my own profile to make it as comprehensive as possible, and while I don't ask the same of someone else, more information is always better. I don't want to know her phone number, her address, her last name or whatever else she may not tell me in order to protect her safety and privacy. I figure if we're right, that kind of information starts to come forward on its own.

Surprisingly, the one thing I generally seek the most is what seems most absent: Intellectual information. I say this a bunch of times and I really don't think anyone takes me seriously on this, but my main desire in seeking a woman is to find a dominant woman who is quite intelligent, usually displaying wisdom and intelligence, or wisdom alone. Yes, I'm a submissive. Yes, I'm a service submissive, and I'm quite sincere and serious about being a slave, but at the same time I continue to seek someone who can intellectually stimulate me, which to me is the essence of a truly remarkable person.

But quite often I get a one or two line statement out of the blue stating: "Tell me more" and then a follow up after I do tell more of "Sounds like what I'm looking for" or something of that nature. The person's own profile will have about as many words as well. Historically, what usually happens, if I don't just give up right then and there, is the woman will want me to further the conversation based on me knowing absolutely nothing about her, leaving me thinking perhaps it's just not worth it, and I go back to working on another degree.

By the way, this wasn't meant to be a complaint, but it slowly turned into one, so I'll stop now.

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RE: What malesubs want to see more of in Domme profiles. - 12/10/2006 1:49:11 AM

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I'm somewhat inclined to agree with much of what littlesarbonn has written. When I see a profile that tells me nothing about a woman, including any of her interests outside of D/s and BDSM, what the heck am I going to write to her about or if she writes me a one liner, what do I have to base a reply upon? NOTHING! Sorry ladies, but we subs need something to work with, if you want to get the kind of initial email focused on YOU and your personal interests or personality that you'd like to have! Otherwise we have no choice but to ask a lot of questions or spend a lot of time talking about ourselves (can we say braggarts and do-me subs?). What I'm trying to say, is that you ladies really need to make certain that your profiles set us up for success.

One of my personal pet peeves is the many profiles that are filled with complaints about men who don't read the complete profile. Now who do you suppose reads all of that? Guys like me who always read a woman's profile along with her journal as well and usually many of her posts if she's active in the forums. Now after reading her rant about men who don't read all of her profile, do you suppose that makes me want to write this angry Domme? You guessed it! After reading several paragraphs of how angry she is, I've lost any interest I may have had in contacting her as I've already had enough of reading all the raging and bitching at the other men who didn't care to read it and will never see her rant!

It tells me that she's not able to let go of whatever angers her and she's not the type of woman that I'd want to be around.

I truly understand the frustration of receiving messages from those who have not read your profile as it works both ways at times, just not in the same proportions as obviously you experience. But if you expect to find the sub you'd really like to have, give him what he needs to work with if you ever want to see him contact you over the course of time. For some of us like me, knowing if you're open to sharing us with our kids (mine live with me part time), would be useful information for us to know ahead of time. While many complete the surveys of all your interests, if you could list your main interests and actual activities you engage in within your profile overview, that would be most helpful to let us know what to focus our efforts on when we write to you.

Those are the things that immediately come to mind and I hope the ladies find this of use to you and make appropriate revisions in addition to those as suggested by some others that to me seemed worthy of consideration as well (Texas is a really big state for example. I live in the suburbs of Dallas, but saying "Dallas" tells you what you need to know).

- pixel

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