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RE: It’s all about trust what do you think? - 8/25/2006 3:41:06 PM

NorthernGent

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sparkling,

Possibly. I'll say you have a point of sorts. However, the girl may have thought it was information that could be passed on without doing any harm (even though told not to repeat it). We don't know her experience and her understanding of the need for rules. It's a matter of personal taste but I would want to consider all the facts before making any decision. There is nothing to lose by having her explain herself and then taking the appropriate decision.

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RE: It’s all about trust what do you think? - 8/25/2006 6:18:26 PM

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Although I think trust can be rebuilt, it has to be there to begin with and it doesn't sound like it is. Don't walk...run.

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RE: It’s all about trust what do you think? - 8/28/2006 2:35:14 AM

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greetings

i am sorry this happen to you. i had a submissive slave and we talk for so time about all things. i trusted him with my life , then it started to break down. i thought he was somone caring and giving, it is strange we never did ever meet. he made dates and never kept them did not call at different time i had a feeling something was wrong i should had listen i meant him on cm. well in the end it turn to a joke i had to leave him it was a game to him i lose my trust in him he has contacted me but the joke is now on him i can not stand someone who breaks trust it is what holds us in the bdsm community together. if we do not have trust we have nothing i care for my sub deeply and was ready to meet and have a grand time. but when he show me he had not vaules in trust it was gone. you care for him i see and it maybe love but you will have to leave him if he would do this tell something so private what else would he do? i am so sorry to tell you this it is hard to come by a good submissive and when we think we had one it hurts more to know we made a mistake . or you could beat him. that is another thought too

take care i wish you well

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RE: It’s all about trust what do you think? - 8/28/2006 7:00:06 AM

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Perhaps I think about trust differently, but I don't think that is the issue here -- to me this looks like a blatant act of disobedience, assuming you were clear in telling her not to repeat it. So I'd look at just how important this is and if her behavior is correctable -- if it looks like she'll be just a disobedient pain-in-the-ass or she was intentionally embarassing you, then get rid of her. Otherwise, make sure she learns never to make a similar mistake again.

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RE: It’s all about trust what do you think? - 8/28/2006 7:30:22 AM

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Just a point on trust here. Yes, once it is lost it's very hard to win back but I think we shouldn't just write a person off if we really care about them, I think we should give them the opportunity to win back that trust.

People do things, lie, break confidences, for a whole lot of reasons.....some reasons suck and some can be understood. For the trust breakers....if you find a person willing to give you a second chance and help you figure out why you felt the need to do what you did....grab onto them and don't let them down again because people who are willing to work on something with you really care about you!

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