Mercnbeth
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But why would he take it from her? Why would he want to? Why not put it away for her in case, just in case the day ever comes that she no longer feels that being a slave is right for her? Where does she go then? No more career advancement, no home to take her kids to, no money, nothing.
Marie,
There is no "taking it from her", it was gift. Actually, the reality is these material the material things that people seem to be so focused upon weren't a consideration. The best description of them, the cars, money, etcetera; are best described as "baggage". Yes, beth came to me with "baggage" as I had mine when I met her. Together we now have collective "baggage", collective "stuff" we've gathered in the years spent together. Often we shake our heads and wonder how and why, originating from an apartment of 750 square feet we've managed 3 1/2 years later to collect enough stuff to fill a huge home. Who does it belong to? Us, even if it is only in my name.
But it's the "just in case" part of your question that may be the missing piece of the puzzle. Our goal and plans before formalizing our relationship was focused on success not failure. Our "just in case" didn't focus on our relationship failing. Our "just in case" was about outside influences over which we had no control. Some have occurred such as, rebounding residential replicants, and older parents needing care. Because we discussed them we were ready. Some haven't occurred such as an incapacitating illness of either of us or dramatic household income change; but we have discussed and have plans for that too. Even the most traumatic, a death of one of us has a 'plan for success'. Our legalizing our relationship in the eyes of the government in a few weeks is the final part of that planning.
Notice that one thing isn't planned for, a change in the attitude or in the foundation of our relationship. If you don't have that confidence and trust in the other individual you are right you can't give all to another. Regardless of who has the title of the houses, cars, or other material items, what is any of it worth without that trust? We didn't give our personal balance sheet any consideration when we started out, I confidently speak for both of us, its not in consideration now.
If beth announces to me she no longer "feels like being a slave", I'd suspect she developed a brain tumor affecting her thought process. Same applies for me waking up not feeling like being a Master. The process before giving that level of commitment to each other and the trust that every eventuality was considered provides that level of confidence in both our "feelings".
The bottom line is neither of us "took" anything from the other. Each of us gave all to us. There is no material possession considered in those two sentences.
Lastly, the only "doormats" I own are in front of our doors. In case of earthquake, fire, oncoming tsunami, or pending meteor the only possession I'd value enough to run back into the house to get would be beth. Once she was out, we'd watch the world end around us naked on the front lawn in each others arms. When we die, all that baggage will be sold by our replicants at a yard sale anyway. If any part of us exists beyond our last breath its not going to be something we bought. Is this a "practical" way for either of us to live in the context of 2006 reality? NOPE, but we're having fun and enjoying the hell out of every day we live together in this manner.
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