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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

> Yet, I do not expect someone else to fix the
> problems that I have. Only I can do that.
 

Not everyone can pick themselves up by their
bootstraps.  There is nothing wrong with
needing people.   It is overly negative to
believe only you can fix your problems. 
Most people need help from others.  Do
you really fix your own car?  Most people
need love.  People who are satisfied
with their own love are narcissists.  It is
quite normal for people to need others.

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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

Good choices in one environment are bad choices
in another.  Only someone omniscient can always
make good choices.    Good choices often turn out
to be bad choices.  

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Whip, you're right about comedians being cynical!
But some can be cynical and incredably funny too!
Remember the late great Rodney Dangerfield?

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There is nothing wrong with
needing people.

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  It is overly negative to
believe only you can fix your problems.

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  Do
you really fix your own car?

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  Most people
need love. 

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  It is
quite normal for people to need others

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ORIGINAL: Homestead

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Whip, you're right about comedians being cynical!
But some can be cynical and incredably funny too!
Remember the late great Rodney Dangerfield?

Rodney was great. Comedy comes from us laughing at our shortcomings. I think it's healthy to be forced to look at, and overcome them. And the humor takes away a bit og the sting, and makes it easier.

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ORIGINAL: SusanofO

Homestead: I think that's fine.

WhiptheHip: Yes, they can sometimes be amusing, although maybe because I see through a lot more than I sometimes let on, a lot of the time, I see that wittiness as a sheer cover for an under-current of depressive lack of hope and disappointment they've not been able to deal with. It usually makes me want to run, unless they've got a "handle on it" and don't try to drag me into what I see as their cock-eyed worldview as well.

I think life should be fun. I've got working brain cells, and can find reasons to not trust the world. I don't see being with someone who thinks it's not, or can't be, fun anyway - and who can't ever let their guard down. I don't care what their reasons are. I spent 15 years with someone who wouldn't let the rest of the world in. That was enough for my lifetime. I've had some truly gut-wrenching life experiences - as has almost everyone. I've had a lot of support to deal with some of them (not all) and I still think life is something that can be enjoyed without suspecting everyone is untrustworthy. This does not, in my estimation, make me an idiot. I am relatively happy - and being happy is one of my goals in life.  

- Susan

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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

> How well did that idea work in you 'fixing' those cokeheads
> dude? Don't I recall you leaving them in the dust?

B&W thinking.  Just because you can't help most drug
addicts does not mean you can't help most people.  I
don't leave anyone in the dust.

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

I think whatsisname is a fake profile, set up by someone to have a lark.

"Everything is as follows:."

"Based on what?"

"I never said that."

"Yes you did.  Here:  Quote"

"You're misreading that."

Don't get me wrong, it's a good idea.  I just wish I was in on the joke.

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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

> I would not want a dominant that switches.  I would be pissed if
> someone lied to me about this. I do consider it a lie
 
Not all switches have to switch.  You may meet a dom
who was a bottom few times in their life or a sub
a few times in their life, and you would never know it.
Then after 50 years of a wonderful marriage, you would
discover the truth from some old letter you found in his
possession and realize your whole marriage was a lie. 
Oh, the horror of it!