OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!!

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!!

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!!

Page: [1] 2 3 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 4:32:07 PM

LadyMorgynn

Posts: 800
Joined: 11/25/2005
From: N. Carolina
Status: offline

So there's this sub who has been emailing me on and off for several weeks now, wanting to serve Me. I send him question after question designed to elicit thoughtful responses, and all I got back were brief, incomplete sentences of a few words each. So I finally sent him a nice note saying I was looking for someone who could converse with me.... so I start getting these emails from this guy that I'm not a "real" Domme, and obviously I'm not really serious, etcetera etcetera etcetera.

I mean, cripes! I'm not a real Domme because I want my slave (24/7 live-in!) to TALK!!!! well, just fie on me <slapping self for being so wimpy>

Honestly!!!! <rolling eyes>

okay, end of rant <laugh>

_____________________________

---
Lady Morgynn
www.farhorizons.net/LadyMorgynn

Post #: 1

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 4:44:45 PM

michaelGA2

Posts: 1533
Joined: 4/26/2006
Status: offline

i think the group Devo said it best "Crack That Whip" and "Whip It Good" (i know, these are quotes from the same song)

_____________________________

Are we having fun, yet?

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 2

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 5:04:38 PM

MistressTheaZ

Posts: 155
Joined: 7/17/2005
Status: offline

LOL. I hear You.

There are some, IME, who seem to prefer to ride on the fantasy of being a 'non-person'....completely one-dimensional. Given that, a Dominant seems to be required to be similarly one-dimensional...as if We all live in our leather and whip ass day-in, day-out. I've had subs whom seemed shocked when I wanted to know more about them than just what activities they liked or disliked or whom they'd served previously. *rolls eyes*

I'm surprised You made such an effort considering the disappointing quality of all of his replies. You have more patience than I. *snort*

~Thea

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 3

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 5:17:12 PM

LadyMorgynn

Posts: 800
Joined: 11/25/2005
From: N. Carolina
Status: offline

I kept hoping one day he'd wake up and get a clue, you know? I mean... someone can be seriously submissive and still be in that very Y-chromosomatic "caveman grunt" mode conversationally. I was trying to see if he could be coaxed out of that. As Domme's we have a lot of leeway in terms of behavior modification once we take on a slave, but NOT if said slave either will not or cannot change. And I'm not spending 24/7 with someone who has to have words dragged out of him with a pair of pliers!!! sorry, that's MY hard limit, LOL.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressTheaZ

I'm surprised You made such an effort considering the disappointing quality of all of his replies. You have more patience than I. *snort*

~Thea

_____________________________

---
Lady Morgynn
www.farhorizons.net/LadyMorgynn

(in reply to MistressTheaZ)

Post #: 4

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 5:37:07 PM

MstrssPassion

Posts: 2444
Joined: 1/1/2004
From: West Palm Beach, FL
Status: offline

I'm wondering if I have been contacted by the same guy or is it just a common theme online these days.

I have had the same thing happen before... you attempt to establish real dialog & all you get is incoherent babble followed by the classic "sour grapes syndrome".

The brain is the most erotic aspect of my being... if they can't stimulate this, the rest of their talents are pointless.

_____________________________

MstrssPassion

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 5

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 5:44:10 PM

littlesarbonn

Posts: 1710
Joined: 12/3/2005
From: Stockton, California
Status: offline

It may also not be his forte when it comes to communication. For me, I'm great when it comes to writing and in person. I really suck when it comes to the phone conversations. It's not because I can't talk on the phone but because I abhor small talk like the plague, and whenever a conversation falls into that, I have a really hard time keeping an interest in the conversation. Very rarely the right woman has interacted with me and our phone conversations were wonderful, but that was because we generally knew each other very well beforehand.

This guy may have had a similar problem but with the whole contact style you wanted him to use. Sure, he may have just been a HNG, but then who knows?

His reaction, however, is a very standard one, I've noticed amongst a lot of frustrated submissives. It's not a correct response, but I see it all the time. I've been a member of a number of femdom groups where I had contact with a lot of the interactions between subs and dommes, and all I can say is that I was first very shocked at how ridiculous some of the conversations can become. But I can't even begin to count (meaning it's over five times) the amount of times that a dismissed submissive went into "you're not a real domme" mode. At first, I was shocked. Now, I'm sorry to say, I actually find it quite funny because it's so childish and yet always seems to stir the response they are trying to achieve.

On a similar note, after I dismissed a dominant a few years ago during a phone conversation (for calling me when she was drunk for the fourth time in a row and then trying to start a fight as she usually did), she yelled back at me in her very sexy drunk manner with that HOT swishing sound that comes from being quite incapable of speaking full sentences: "You're not a real submissive!" And so, I have been condemned for life by her words, even though when she woke up the next morning, after she was able to think past the hangover, she probably didn't remember she even said them.

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 6

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 7:14:16 PM

LaTigresse

Posts: 26123
Joined: 1/15/2006
Status: offline

LadyMorgynn I feel for you. Given the letters I get and the fact I am not even looking, most especially for a male.....I can only imagine what you have to deal with. I try to be friendly but there usually comes a point where many of them cross the line and I have to slap them back and then blow them off.

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 9/2/2006 7:16:22 PM >

_____________________________

My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 7

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 7:39:45 PM

formenteralady

Posts: 76
Joined: 8/4/2006
Status: offline

hahahah
Ah..Yes. I want to know where all of these true Dominates, and true submissives people seem to keep going on about live? Do you think it's in some kind of secret city you can only get to through the internet? Perhaps behind a waterfall?
:D

(in reply to LaTigresse)

Post #: 8

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 8:44:24 PM

RebelMaleSub

Posts: 2
Joined: 9/2/2006
Status: offline

I know why he did it.................

< Message edited by RebelMaleSub -- 9/2/2006 8:51:35 PM >

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 9

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 8:58:47 PM

LadyMorgynn

Posts: 800
Joined: 11/25/2005
From: N. Carolina
Status: offline

well? are you going to clue us in? :)

_____________________________

---
Lady Morgynn
www.farhorizons.net/LadyMorgynn

(in reply to RebelMaleSub)

Post #: 10

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 9:07:00 PM

DiurnalVampire

Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline

Ive had a few this way. If I am not willing to pull teeth to get rudimentary information, then I am obviously not "real"
If I do not plan to beat the stuffing out of my pets on a regular basis becaue I am not into pain, but prefer emotional, mental and sensual control, I am a fake.
I guess if I dont fall into the fantasy they have built of what a domme is supposed to do or be, I cant be real...
Ah well, I guess someone shuld break it to my boy that i have to release him, I am not really a Domme.

DV

_____________________________

I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox

Snarko Ergo Sum
If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

*Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07*
VampiresLair

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 11

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 10:23:41 PM

subjected2006

Posts: 248
Joined: 1/20/2006
Status: offline

ahh yes..the prima donnas..sometimes its worth it just to get them kneeling in front of you ..
now...
"who's your Momma?'

_____________________________

a rose is a rose..

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 12

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 10:31:40 PM

HarryVanWinkle

Posts: 1720
Joined: 5/8/2006
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

So there's this sub who has been emailing me on and off for several weeks now, wanting to serve Me. I send him question after question designed to elicit thoughtful responses, and all I got back were brief, incomplete sentences of a few words each. So I finally sent him a nice note saying I was looking for someone who could converse with me.... so I start getting these emails from this guy that I'm not a "real" Domme, and obviously I'm not really serious, etcetera etcetera etcetera.

I mean, cripes! I'm not a real Domme because I want my slave (24/7 live-in!) to TALK!!!! well, just fie on me <slapping self for being so wimpy>

Honestly!!!! <rolling eyes>

okay, end of rant <laugh>

I think you're not a real "Domme" because "Domme" is a made up, fake french word which I abhor.

As to whether you're a real Dominant, I'm totally unqualified to judge, never having met you, but I suspect that most likely you are.

A few months ago, your profile said that you were getting ready to move back to Tucson. Whatever happened with that? Would have loved to meet you and introduce you to our local community. Believe it or not, we have a rather active one here. I tried to write you to ask you about that during a brief period when my email on collarme appeared to be working, but it ceased working again.

< Message edited by HarryVanWinkle -- 9/2/2006 10:33:33 PM >

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 13

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/2/2006 11:16:10 PM

MisPandora

Posts: 2911
Joined: 4/7/2004
From: Philadelphia, PA
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

I kept hoping one day he'd wake up and get a clue, you know? I mean... someone can be seriously submissive and still be in that very Y-chromosomatic "caveman grunt" mode conversationally. I was trying to see if he could be coaxed out of that. As Domme's we have a lot of leeway in terms of behavior modification once we take on a slave, but NOT if said slave either will not or cannot change. And I'm not spending 24/7 with someone who has to have words dragged out of him with a pair of pliers!!! sorry, that's MY hard limit, LOL.

Stupid question: WHY????

_____________________________

Pandora
Ms World Leather 2004
Ms Philadelphia Leather 2004

"Simply put, if you want a real femdom to love you, give her reasons to love you." Gloria Brame

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 14

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/3/2006 5:15:13 AM

DivaDuchess

Posts: 402
Joined: 8/17/2006
Status: offline

It's not just the men ... I keep getting the (word use alert) 'dumbest' mails from two particular possibilities here. Is it my imagination or does proper English go right out the window? These women cannot be that ... ignorant. I kept having the wild urge to ask where they went to grade school, because they couldn't write a correct sentance and I truly felt they either need to return to that school or I perhaps horsewhipping the teacher would be effective. I was almost afraid to ask for intelligent conversation ... then I made the BIG mistake of doing just that.

I was also told that I must not be a Domme ... I actually wanted a conversation. Okay between whippings and poking you with needles ... I'd like to know how your day went ... yes *lol*

Go figure.

_____________________________

Duchess

Courage is not the absence of Fear,
But rather the judgement that,
Something else is more important than Fear.

The Brave may not live forever,
But the Cautious do not live at all.

(in reply to MisPandora)

Post #: 15

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/3/2006 5:25:33 AM

MissyRane

Posts: 1032
Joined: 5/11/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: RebelMaleSub

I know why he did it.................

Yeah please tell us why?
And uhm...your journal ..& profile........how can you match your statement of being a maleslave to the bottom line in your journal?

(in reply to RebelMaleSub)

Post #: 16

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/3/2006 6:31:35 AM

ShiftedJewel

Posts: 2492
Joined: 12/2/2004
Status: offline

I finally get to join this exclusive club!!! I'm not a real Domme either!!! I'm a male pig that can't read!! Wooo hooooo

Two years... I've been waiting two long years for this confirmation! LadyM... all I can say is that the world is full of some really strange people.

Jewel

_____________________________

Don't ask, trust me, you won't like the answer... no one ever does.

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 17

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/3/2006 7:20:33 AM

LadyMorgynn

Posts: 800
Joined: 11/25/2005
From: N. Carolina
Status: offline

The move to Tucson is still on, but not until spring, as I chose to spend one more holiday season with my family here in N. Carolina. Not that I don't wish I was already there! <sigh>

_____________________________

---
Lady Morgynn
www.farhorizons.net/LadyMorgynn

(in reply to HarryVanWinkle)

Post #: 18

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/3/2006 7:23:56 AM

LadyMorgynn

Posts: 800
Joined: 11/25/2005
From: N. Carolina
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora
Stupid question: WHY????

Because it seemed a shame to give the go-by to someone who may be very serious about their submission, but has a different conversational style than I prefer, without at least making an attempt to see if he could (or would) open up, you know?

At least, I'm assuming your question was aimed to why I tried to give him a chance....???

_____________________________

---
Lady Morgynn
www.farhorizons.net/LadyMorgynn

(in reply to MisPandora)

Post #: 19

RE: OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!! - 9/3/2006 7:58:02 AM

thetammyjo

Posts: 6322
Joined: 9/8/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn

I kept hoping one day he'd wake up and get a clue, you know? I mean... someone can be seriously submissive and still be in that very Y-chromosomatic "caveman grunt" mode conversationally. I was trying to see if he could be coaxed out of that. As Domme's we have a lot of leeway in terms of behavior modification once we take on a slave, but NOT if said slave either will not or cannot change. And I'm not spending 24/7 with someone who has to have words dragged out of him with a pair of pliers!!! sorry, that's MY hard limit, LOL.

You'll be waiting a long, long time.

Block him and move on to someone else who can follow basic instructions and has some basic social skills.

Someone who can't respond to a question from me with complete sentences gets tossed after the second message.

My life and time is valuable and there are many potentials out there.

_____________________________

Love, Peace, Hugs, Kisses, Whips & Chains,

TammyJo

Check out my website at http://www.thetammyjo.com Or www.tammyjoeckhart.com

And my LJ where I post fiction in progress if you "friend" me at http://thetammyjo.livejournal.com/

(in reply to LadyMorgynn)

Post #: 20

Page: [1] 2 3 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> OMG! I'm not a real Domme!!!

Page: [1] 2 3 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.078